Read along here.

Resources:

All art and poetry included my own.

Cook, A.S & Oltjenbruns, K. A. (1998) Dying and grieving: Life space and family perspectives. Earl McPeek.

Doka, K. (1989) Disenfranchised grief: Recognizing hidden sorrow. Lexington Books.

Haig, M. (2013) The Humans. Simon and Schuster.

Kwong, E. & O’Connor M. (8 November, 2021) What happens in the brain when we grieve. Short Wave, NPR. https://www.npr.org/transcripts/1052498852

Sas, C. & Coman, A. (2016) Designing personal grief rituals: An analysis of symbolic objects and actions. Death Studies.

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Read along with the essay here.

Watch Day Schildkret’s video about morning altars here: youtube

Here is my creation: 

Resources:

Black, A. (2024). (Unpublished Zoom Workshop, Feb. 23, 2024)

Milstein, C. (2017). Rebellious Mourning: The Collective Work of Grief. AK Press.

Srinivasa, E. (2024). (Unpublished Grief Support Specialist Course Lectures, UW-Madison.)

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I gave up on waiting for a silent room to record, so you can hear my pets living their best life in the background, my apologies.

Read along with the essay here.

Take the grief styles quiz here.

I’m catching up on posting past essays as podcasts, so there will be an influx of podcasts episodes as I do so.

Love,

Alekz

Resources:

Attig, T. (2004). Disenfranchised Grief Revisited: Discounting Hope and Love. OMEGA - Journal of Death and Dying, 49(3), 197-215.

Black, A. (2024). (Unpublished Zoom Workshop, Feb. 23, 2024)

Buckley, T. et al. (2012) Effect of Early Bereavement on Heart Rate and Heart Rate Variability. The American Journal of Cardiology, Volume 110(9), 1378-1383.

Doka, K.J (2017). Grief is a Journey: Finding Your Path Through Loss. New York Atria Paperback.

Doka, K.J., Martin, T.L. (2010). Grieving Beyond Gender: Understanding the Ways Men and Women Mourn, Revised Edition. Routledge.

hooks, b. (1999). All About Love: New Visions. William Morrow.

Rando, T.A. (1984). Grief, Dying, and Death: Clinical Interventions for Caregivers. Champaign, Ill: Research Press Co.

Selinger, I. (2021, April 22). What Happens in the Body During Grief. The New York Times. https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/22/well/what-happens-in-the-body-during-grief.html

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Find/read the post itself here.

Bear with me as I figure out better recording techniques.

Happy listening!

Love, Alekz

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An audio recording of this essay, posted on May 15, 2024. Read by the author.

Links to the suggested further reading on necropolitics,‘Colonial management of death: To be or not to be dead in Palestine’ (link), and ‘Fighting to Bury Their Children: on the Necropolitics of Occupation’. The latter is an essay found in Rebellious Mourning edited by Cindy Milstein, and I think it is so important to read that I will be including a link to a PDF of the pages I have scanned. Find it here.

References:

Alsaafin, L. & Amra, A. (2023, November 3). Mass graves, rushed burials: Funeral rites bypass Gaza dead amid Israel war. Al Jazeera. https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2023/11/3/mass-graves-rushed-burials-funeral-rites-bypass-gaza-dead-amid-israel-war

Corso, A. (2022, October 6). The smell of bare death: Encountering life at the graveyard of Lampedusa. Sage Journals, 23(3) https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/14634996221128104

Daher-Nashif, S. (2022) Colonial management of death: To be or not to be dead in Palestine. Current Sociology.  https://sci-hub.st/10.1177/0011392120948923

Debre, I., Shurafa, W. (2023, October 28). Mass graves, unclaimed bodies and overcrowded cemeteries. The war robs Gaza of funeral rites. AP News. https://apnews.com/article/palestinians-israel-graves-gaza-morgue-dead-9b0349ae914e33492c049430e6649c53

Foucault, M. (1976). The History of Sexuality: Right of Death and Power over Life. Editions Gallimard, Paris. https://www.scribd.com/document/339327/History-of-sexuality-vol-1

Kong, Y. et al. Issue 3: Bare Life. CMA Journal. 3. https://www.sfu.ca/cmajournal/issues/issue-three--bare-life.html

LeWine, H.E. (2023, June 13). Broken-heart syndrome (takotsubo cardiomyopathy). Harvard Health Publishing. https://www.health.harvard.edu/heart-health/takotsubo-cardiomyopathy-broken-heart-syndrome

Palitsky, R., Wilson, D.T., Friedman, S.E., Ruiz, J.M., Sullivan, D., O’Connor, M-F. The Relationship of Prolonged Grief Disorder Symptoms With Hemodynamic Response to Grief Recall Among Bereaved Adults. Psychosomatic Medicine 85(6):p 545-550 https://journals.lww.com/psychosomaticmedicine/fulltext/2023/07000/the_relationship_of_prolonged_grief_disorder.11.aspx

Pappé, I.; Chomsky, N.; Barat, F. (2015) On Palestine. Haymarket Books. https://www.everand.com/book/446836527/On-Palestine

Reeves, N.C. (2011). Death acceptance through ritual. Routledge. https://sci-hub.st/10.1080/07481187.2011.552056

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