A coaching podcast with Jerry Colonna and Tobias Weghorn, centered around a coaching demo that quickly moves from “Am I enough?” to where that belief may come from in the first place. Tobi shares how safety and financial security shaped parts of his family story, and Jerry helps reframe those fears through compassion for inherited patterns. They also unpack why coaching mastery beyond methodology often requires dropping the “right way vs. wrong way” obsession and paying attention to what actually works in the moment. Along the way, they touch on radical self-inquiry, the role of supervision, and how countertransference and the third can become practical data for coaches.

Key Learnings:

• Use coaching demo moments to surface the real driver (e.g., safety beliefs behind “not enough belief (I am enough)”), then work with what’s alive rather than forcing a script.
• Practice radical self-inquiry without shame: name the benefit of the inherited pattern first, then build change through repetition (not just cognitive insight) so the coaching demo insight sticks under stress.
• Build coaching supervision into your craft: track countertransference and the third (what you feel in-session) as information, so you don’t default to “more methodology” when you and your client feel stuck.

Resources:

• Jerry Colonna's Website: https://www.reboot.io/team/jerry-colonna/
• Jerry Colonna's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jerrycolonna/
• Reboot (Book): https://www.amazon.com/Reboot-Leadership-Art-Growing-Up/dp/0062749530
• Reunion (Book): https://www.amazon.com/Reunion-Leadership-Art-Growing-Up/dp/0062910587
• Reboot: https://www.reboot.io/
• Find your Coaching Tool: https://metaFox.eu
• Try the metaFox Strengths Discovery: https://strengths-discovery.com
• Connect with Tobi on LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/tobiasweghorn

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Mastery Beyond Methodology: The “Right Way” Trap

01:00 Introduction: The “Am I Enough?” Belief And A Coaching Demo Setup

04:00 Leaders, Safety, And The Human Condition Behind “Not Enough”

14:00 Coaching Demo: Inherited Family Trauma And Safety Beliefs

21:00 Making “I Am Enough” Stick: Benefits, Repetition, And Radical Self-Inquiry

30:00 Why Coaches Get Stuck: Methodology, The Third, And Countertransference

43:00 Coaching Supervision And Tracking What You Feel In Session

47:00 A Practical Habit: Notes On What The Client Says vs. What You Feel