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In this episode, we take a closer look at Faalavelave, an important Samoan tradition where family and community come together to support each other during big life events like weddings, funerals, or title ceremonies. We share real stories and honest conversations about what Faalavelave looks like for Samoans living in the U.S. and abroad—the good, the tough, and everything in between. It’s about keeping family bonds strong, honoring culture, and figuring out how to balance these traditions with the challenges of modern life.

Behind the Lavalava Foundation Sponsors:
Matai, American United Federal Credit Union, Pasifika Foods, Veteran Business Resource Center, Frontline Heroes, Warrior Revival, Top Gun Home Inspection, Natin But Grindz, Ladies in Bloom, All Pro Concrete Cutters, Eni & Hina Faleomavaega Foundation, Humana, Toko Uso Protection, Paradise Porch, Cyprus Credit Union.

988 has been designated as the new three-digit dialing code for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (now known as the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.

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We're back with hip hop artist and returning guest THT Cyrus for a powerful and heartfelt episode. We dive into the hot-button topic: Should the American National Anthem be sung in other languages?—with surprisingly thoughtful and hilarious takes. We also reflect on June as Men's Mental Health Awareness Month and ask the tough question: Are people out here exploiting others’ struggles for clout or profit? From calling out dirtbag opportunists to sharing our own pasts, it’s a raw conversation. Plus, we catch up with Cyrus on life as a new dad, balancing music and fatherhood, and what the future holds. From calling out shady behavior to talking through parenting fears and personal growth, this episode brings the laughs, the heart, and some raw truth.

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Behind the Lavalava Foundation Sponsors:
Matai, American United Federal Credit Union, Pasifika Foods, Veteran Business Resource Center, Frontline Heroes, Warrior Revival, Top Gun Home Inspection, Natin But Grindz, Ladies in Bloom, All Pro Concrete Cutters, Eni & Hina Faleomavaega Foundation, Humana, Toko Uso Protection, Paradise Porch, Cyprus Credit Union.

988 has been designated as the new three-digit dialing code for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (now known as the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.

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In this episode, we briefly touch on the tense situation unfolding in L.A., sharing our hopes for peace and safety for everyone involved—civilians, law enforcement, and troops alike—without diving into politics. Then we shift into a heartfelt and humorous conversation about giving guidance to young legal immigrants, often referred to in our community as "FOBs" (Fresh Off the Boat). We share the advice we’d give if we met a young islander fresh off the plane—how to survive, succeed, and stay grounded in their cultural roots while navigating a new world. We also shout out Asuelu for representing the journey of a young fob making moves to better his life. This one's for anyone trying to navigate new spaces while holding on to where they came from.

Behind the Lavalava Foundation Sponsors:
Matai, American United Federal Credit Union, Pasifika Foods, Veteran Business Resource Center, Frontline Heroes, Warrior Revival, Top Gun Home Inspection, Natin But Grindz, Ladies in Bloom, All Pro Concrete Cutters, Eni & Hina Faleomavaega Foundation, Humana, Toko Uso Protection, Paradise Porch, Cyprus Credit Union.

988 has been designated as the new three-digit dialing code for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (now known as the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.

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In this episode, we kick things off with a funny and wild debate—could 100 random guys (or even 100 random Samoan guys) take down a silverback gorilla? Things get ridiculous fast, with jokes flying about stamina, primal instincts, and even gout. But after all the laughs, we shift gears and dive into something deeper: the Samoan idea of aiga, or family. We talk about how that mindset could be used in things like social welfare, helping the homeless, and even how the military operates. We also imagine what we’d do if we were the matai (chief) of our village—how we’d lead with purpose and take care of our people. It’s a mix of jokes, real talk, and cultural pride all in one episode.

Behind the Lavalava Foundation Sponsors:
Matai, American United Federal Credit Union, Pasifika Foods, Veteran Business Resource Center, Frontline Heroes, Warrior Revival, Top Gun Home Inspection, Natin But Grindz, Ladies in Bloom, All Pro Concrete Cutters, Eni & Hina Faleomavaega Foundation, Humana, Toko Uso Protection, Paradise Porch, Cyprus Credit Union.

988 has been designated as the new three-digit dialing code for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (now known as the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.

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In this episode, we dive into the world of kava—what it is, how it’s made, and why it holds such a special place in many Pacific Islander communities. We talk about what really goes on in a faikava and kalapu, the difference between ceremonial and social drinking, and how kava has evolved into a way to connect, support one another, and find peace in tough times. Whether you’ve been around kava your whole life or you’re just curious, this conversation offers an honest, personal look at its cultural roots, the pros and cons of the drink itself, and the deeper meaning behind gathering to mix.

Behind the Lavalava Foundation Sponsors:
Matai, American United Federal Credit Union, Pasifika Foods, Veteran Business Resource Center, Frontline Heroes, Warrior Revival, Top Gun Home Inspection, Natin But Grindz, Ladies in Bloom, All Pro Concrete Cutters, Eni & Hina Faleomavaega Foundation, Humana, Toko Uso Protection, Paradise Porch, Cyprus Credit Union.

988 has been designated as the new three-digit dialing code for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (now known as the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.

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In this episode, we dive into the hot topic of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI), especially in the military and government. With recent changes eliminating DEI programs, we discuss how these policies impacted service members and whether they were even noticeable during our time in uniform. Did DEI lower standards, or did it open doors for underrepresented groups? Are we even asking the right questions when it comes to DEI? We share personal experiences, debate the balance between merit and representation, and explore how DEI plays out in civilian government jobs today. Join us as we unpack the pros, cons, and lingering questions surrounding this controversial shift.

Behind the Lavalava Foundation Sponsors:
Matai, American United Federal Credit Union, Pasifika Foods, Veteran Business Resource Center, Frontline Heroes, Warrior Revival, Top Gun Home Inspection, Natin But Grindz, Ladies in Bloom, All Pro Concrete Cutters, Eni & Hina Faleomavaega Foundation, Humana, Toko Uso Protection, Paradise Porch, Cyprus Credit Union.

988 has been designated as the new three-digit dialing code for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (now known as the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.

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We're back! After a long hiatus, we’re kicking off 2025 with a deep dive into the biggest headlines shaping the world today. In this episode, we catch up on life, health scares, and nonprofit work before tackling major current events. We discuss Trump’s first few months back in office, the ripple effects of his policies, and the role of Elon Musk in his administration. We also break down the ongoing conflicts in Ukraine and the Middle East, touching on the media's influence and what the future might hold. Tune in for an unfiltered conversation on politics, global affairs, and the impact these changes have on everyday life.

Behind the Lavalava Foundation Sponsors:
Matai, American United Federal Credit Union, Pasifika Foods, Veteran Business Resource Center, Frontline Heroes, Warrior Revival, Top Gun Home Inspection, Natin But Grindz, Ladies in Bloom, All Pro Concrete Cutters, Eni & Hina Faleomavaega Foundation, Humana, Toko Uso Protection, Paradise Porch, Cyprus Credit Union.

988 has been designated as the new three-digit dialing code for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (now known as the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.

Send a text

In this episode, we take a moment to reflect on an eventful 2024. It’s been a year filled with highs and lows, and with the holiday season here, it feels like the perfect time to pause, express gratitude, and think about what lies ahead. We talk about how the podcast has evolved over the past three years, from tackling controversial and meaningful topics to highlighting the incredible journeys of entrepreneurs and veterans. While we’ve faced challenges like balancing our schedules and producing content consistently, we’re proud of the quality conversations and connections we’ve built. We also dive into how our nonprofit has grown, celebrating milestones like launching it officially this year and hosting impactful events. As we look to the future, we share our goals for bringing back more topical discussions and expanding our efforts to make a bigger difference. Thank you for being part of our journey—your support means the world to us.

Behind the Lavalava Foundation Sponsors:
Matai, American United Federal Credit Union, Pasifika Foods, Veteran Business Resource Center, Frontline Heroes, Warrior Revival, Top Gun Home Inspection, Natin But Grindz, Ladies in Bloom, All Pro Concrete Cutters, Eni & Hina Faleomavaega Foundation, Humana, Toko Uso Protection, Paradise Porch, Cyprus Credit Union.

988 has been designated as the new three-digit dialing code for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (now known as the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.

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In this episode, we’re joined by Lulu Wolfgramm, Director of Empowered Living Services at PIK2AR (Pacific Island Knowledge to Action Resources), who shares her journey from a volunteer to leading a program that connects Pacific Islanders to health resources in Salt Lake City. Lulu discusses the mission of PIK2AR, which began as a violence prevention group and has evolved into a holistic community organization that supports both men’s and women’s empowerment. Now approaching its 10th anniversary, PIK2AR provides a wide range of health education, including on Alzheimer’s, cancer, and caregiving. Lulu, who is personally impacted by Alzheimer’s through her father and is a breast cancer survivor, emphasizes the importance of early detection and proactive health awareness in the Pacific Islander community. She highlights the need for open conversations around family medical history, the challenges of caregiving, and the importance of knowing and utilizing community resources like the Alzheimer’s Association, the Huntsman Cancer Institute, and cancer screening initiatives offered by PIK2AR and the Utah Pacific Islander Health Coalition.

Behind the Lavalava Foundation Sponsors:
Matai, American United Federal Credit Union, Pasifika Foods, Veteran Business Resource Center, Frontline Heroes, Warrior Revival, Top Gun Home Inspection, Natin But Grindz, Ladies in Bloom, All Pro Concrete Cutters, Eni & Hina Faleomavaega Foundation, Humana, Toko Uso Protection, Paradise Porch, Cyprus Credit Union.

988 has been designated as the new three-digit dialing code for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (now known as the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.

Send a text

In this episode, we confront the question: is it okay for men to cry? Reflecting on our personal experiences, societal norms, and cultural backgrounds, we explore the impact of emotional expression in men’s lives. From stories of grief to the way the media portrays men’s emotions, we dive into how being open with our feelings can shape family dynamics and mental health. Together, we challenge traditional ideas of masculinity and vulnerability. Join us as we delve into the healing power of emotions, the value of meaningful content, and the strength that comes from showing vulnerability. 

Behind the Lavalava Foundation Sponsors:
Matai, American United Federal Credit Union, Pasifika Foods, Veteran Business Resource Center, Frontline Heroes, Warrior Revival, Top Gun Home Inspection, Natin But Grindz, Ladies in Bloom, All Pro Concrete Cutters, Eni & Hina Faleomavaega Foundation, Humana, Toko Uso Protection, Paradise Porch, Cyprus Credit Union.

988 has been designated as the new three-digit dialing code for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (now known as the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.