Being Desired for the Wrong Reasons Podcast: This is a conversational podcast exploring my essay Being Desired for the Wrong Reasons from the book Ghosts of Sex. In the podcast we discuss the experience of recognising when desire is directed at a version of you that is convenient, projected, or timed rather than truly known. We explore the tension between understanding that the attention is misaligned and still feeling drawn towards it, the emotional weight of being wanted for fantasy or availability, and the quiet complexity of responding to affirmation that carries both warmth and distortion.