If you've ever struggled with getting results from self-help, this episode is for you. We'll be talking about self-help and why it sometimes seems to not work. We'll also talk about how you can get the best results for yourself when you're trying to make improvements In your life.

A lot of times when people turn to self-help they feel like something is broken or something needs to be fixed. I’m going to give you steps to approach coaching and self-help in a healthy way where your thoughts are your friend and guide you to positive improvement. 

Episode Highlights: 

• [01:35] One of the biggest issues I see in the self-help and coaching industry is that there can be a lot of people that prey on other people's insecurities and perceived inadequacies.
• [01:54] A lot of times people will turn to self-help when they feel like they need to fix something. This means you have underlying thoughts that something is broken.
• [03:21] The first thing to do when looking for coaching or self-help guidance is to consider the source. Is this person walking the walk and not just talking the talk? Are they actually following their own advice?
• [04:10] Does the guidance make you feel bad about who you currently are or does it make you feel empowered?
• [05:41] Does your coach hold you up and stand in the gap for you?  You want a coach who will cheer you on, support you, and hold you accountable.
• [06:25] Ground yourself in grace, love, and compassion.
• [07:04] Connect the thought that you truly believe, that may not make you feel all that great, to an empowered future thinking thought by using but statements.
• [08:19] Shift your mindset around your perceived inadequacy and insecurities. Don't be in denial that you don't need to make any improvement in your life, but also don't use those things to beat yourself up.
• [08:51] Make up your mind to work on things one day at a time. You want to live up to be everything that you're put on this planet to be.
• [09:11] Practice forgiveness and worthiness. Forgive yourself for things that you messed up on and practice believing none of those things make you any less worthy.
• [10:03] There is a purpose for you and you are worthy. Practice speaking affirmations about your worthiness.
• [11:22] Don't just be a consumer, put it into action.

Links and Resources:

• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto
• Optional Excellence