How to be a Dangerous Woman

If you've been struggling with your self-confidence lately, this episode is for you. This week, we're focusing on building self-confidence through our inner dialogue. By examining how we talk to ourselves, we can foster a more confident, resilient, and growth-oriented mindset, leading to an improved self-image.

In this episode, we'll explore several practical tips that you can apply today to boost your self-confidence. Remember, confident individuals are formidable. Even in moments of doubt, they know how to regain their confidence.

Don't underestimate the power of positive self-talk and the profound impact it can have on your life. Each step you take towards nurturing your self-confidence is a step towards unlocking your full potential

Episode Highlights:

• [03:25] 1. Start practicing positive affirmations. I don't mean fake it till you make it. Begin your day believing the words that you are saying in your affirmations.
• [04:13] Begin and end your day with these affirmations.
• [04:37] Think about what you wish was true about you. Take this thought and create "but" statements that will become your affirmations.
• [05:53] An example would be: "I feel like I'm not quite capable, but I'm taking a class and studying, so I feel like I know what I'm doing."
• [05:57] Combine how you currently feel, add a "but" statement, customize it, and take the action.
• [07:45] 2. The second thing I want you to pay attention to is challenging negative thoughts.
• [08:02] When you catch yourself engaging in negative thoughts, start challenging that inner mean girl. Ask if it's true and if you still want it to be true. Look for holes that you can poke in those negative thoughts.
• [09:00] 3. Using visualization. Daydreaming is an important skill. Start seeing yourself in the different areas of your life being successful. Use your self-dialogue for your good.
• [10:02] 4. Focus on growth and not perfection. Perfection is a way to protect ourselves from discomfort. Focus on things that help you grow, not be perfect.
• [12:48] 5. Surround yourself with positivity. Not just your inner self-dialogue but also the people around you.
• [13:11] Have a go-to friend that really pours into you.
• [13:34] If you're feeling stuck, look at who you spend the most time with.
• [14:19] 6. Practice gratitude and celebrate.
• [16:27] 7. Embrace self-compassion. We have such a tendency to be angry with ourselves when we're not where we believe we should be. Practice having the same kindness and understanding for yourself that you would offer to a friend.
• [17:39] Instead of beating yourself up for something, you can say "You're so cute."

Links and Resources:

• Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network
• Dangerous Woman Society
• Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching?
• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto

Are you finding it harder to keep in touch with friends between the demands of work, family, and the daily grind? Do you reminisce about the days when friendships flourished with ease, wondering where the time for those meaningful connections has gone? If so, you're in the right place.

In this episode, we're not just acknowledging the struggle; we're tackling it head-on. We'll explore practical strategies for nurturing friendships that withstand the pressures of adult responsibilities. Because let's face it, as we navigate the complexities of maturity, career paths, and personal life, the balancing act never seems to end. Yet, amidst this chaos, the value of true friendship remains constant.

Episode Highlights:

• [01:43] Having friends is a tremendous part of having that 10 out of 10 dream life.
• [02:08] How do we maintain friendships when adult duties monopolize all of our time?
• [03:37] How do you prioritize communicating regularly and defining what regularly means for your friendship?
• [04:37] Make the effort. Everyone is busy. Put it on your calendar and don't flake out.
• [05:30] Plan an in-person meetup.
• [07:54] Get a group of friends together and start planning your next gathering. Consider the quality of time you spend together.
• [08:26] Make sure there's a safe space for open and honest communication.
• [10:31] Your willingness and their willingness to adjust roles will help maintain your friendships. Be mindful of what's going on in each other's life as you shift through life stages.
• [11:32] You need to be willing to modify the time and frequency of communication without it altering your commitment to the friendship.
• [12:07] Reciprocate efforts. Everyone has responsibilities. Don't leave the responsibility of maintaining the friendship on one person.
• [14:10] Foster the relationships that are there for you and celebrate the small things. Also, be present for the hard times. The best friendships stand the test of time and the ups and downs of life.

Links and Resources:

• Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network
• Dangerous Woman Society
• Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching?
• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto

Have you tried everything possible and still find yourself not where you want to be? In this discussion, I'll address how to determine whether you're being too hard on yourself or too lenient. Generally, people fall into two categories: those who are overly critical of themselves and those who don't realize they are too lenient.

I'll cover several key points, including recognizing the right moments to engage, finding a balanced approach, and providing tips for self-assessment to help you understand whether you're being too easy or too hard on yourself.

I approach the topics of procrastination and perfectionism, explaining how these behaviors can hinder progress. Finally, I'll discuss the issue of limited time and the importance of evaluating whether your goals truly align with your desires

Episode Highlights:

• [01:42] We want to be in the middle of the two extremes of being too hard or too lenient on yourself.
• [02:03] Finding middle ground will be very important when trying to establish anything new in your life.
• [02:16] A talk for those who are being too easy on themselves. Self diagnosis includes asking if you are always making excuses, procrastinating, or constantly switching the plan or the goal.
• [03:41] Commonly used reasons for not moving.
• [04:25] Procrastination and perfectionism will keep you stuck.
• [08:07] The flip side of being too easy on yourself is being too hard on yourself. You are using perfectionism like a hammer.
• [10:27] For every reason you have to not progress and go further, ask yourself if this is really true.
• [11:15] We need to know how we spend our time, because our brains will validate not having time.
• [12:53] Make sure you're very clear about what your goal is.
• [14:37] Set goals that give you early wins so you don't get discouraged and quit.
• [15:27] Create a routine that you follow and make it non-negotiable.
• [17:08] There will be bumps on the road, your goal is to continue becoming the woman who makes the changes and reaches the goal.
• [17:58] The power of accountability is imperative in reaching your goals. A good coach will see your blind spots.
• [19:20] Join the Dangerous Woman Society!

Links and Resources:

• Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network
• Dangerous Woman Society Get A Free One-On-One Session Before Jan. 23rd
• Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching?
• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto

If you need a quick push to get into action and create an amazing year, this episode is for you. This week, I'm doing a rapid-fire talk about why you could be in mediocrity and how to start taking action to get out of it. This is a wake-up call, so that you don't settle into this year like you did last year.

If you aren't paying attention and taking intentional action, this year will look exactly like last year. We've talked about this dozens of times in our community, but there's never a time it doesn't need to be revisited. If you're living below your version of your best life, you are officially living in mediocrity. Let's make this year different.

This podcast revolves around what we'll be working on in our first session of the Dangerous Woman Society on January 23rd. If you would like to join, it's $99 a month for monthly group coaching sessions, monthly lessons, accountability, and a community that's going through the same things you are.

Episode Highlights:

• [02:02] If you're living a life that is below your version of your best life, you are officially in mediocrity.
• [02:36] How you may have gotten to this place. It could be a lack of awareness.
• [03:09] If you never take a look at where you are or think about what you want, you'll never even consider making changes in your life.
• [03:15] Rate your life on a scale of 1-10 in relationships, career, business, money, and health.
• [04:05] 2024 is a perfect time to revisit your ratings and see where you are.
• [04:51] Other reasons you could feel stuck are an attachment to your comfort zone and an unwillingness to leave it.
• [05:14] Unclear goals or waiting for support from others could also be in issue.
• [06:02] What would you do if you didn't feel fear or any other negative feelings?
• [06:35] Your homework is to evaluate your life in health, relationships, money, career or business, and identify the Gap from where you are and where you want to be. Ask yourself the reason why you aren't where you want to be.
• [06:57] Make a commitment to being a woman who takes intentional action with the knowledge of what has been holding you back.
• [07:23] This is what we'll be working on in the first session of the Dangerous Woman Society on January 23rd.
• [07:33] Joining the Dangerous Woman Society will give you a community that makes you feel less alone. You'll see women in the same spot that you are and those that aren't even there yet.
• [08:03] There will be people that you can Inspire and people that you will be inspired by.
• [08:59] You are not mediocre. You may not be there yet, but being in progress is important. That is this work.

Links and Resources:

• Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network
• Dangerous Woman Society Get A Free One-On-One Session Before Jan. 23rd
• Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching?
• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto

Do you ever struggle with achieving your biggest dreams or goals? Using the art of delusion might be the key to your success. I explain what this means and give steps to take an honest look at your life and the emotions that come up. No more pushing down and repressing those emotions. No more responding immediately without taking a step back.

The next step is up to you. You have a choice in how you'll look at the situation. It might not be as bad as you think and you can use the art of delusion to look at things in a different light. Believing that things will get better can be life changing and that's our goal for 2024.

This is the work that we are doing in the Dangerous Woman Society, a monthly membership community that will create a nurturing and uplifting atmosphere, fostering support and encouragement.

You'll get group coaching and lessons. You can ask questions and personalize the experience. You'll also get access to a powerful community of women who are just like you. All for $99 per month, with the flexibility to cancel anytime.

Episode Highlights:

• [01:35] The art of delusion is when you believe that things will be okay and get better even when they aren't going according to plan.
• [02:08] As challenges and struggles arise in your life, look at them for exactly what they are. Be real, raw, and honest about what's going on in your situation.
• [03:00] The only reason you wouldn't face the reality of what it would be if you couldn't handle the emotions that come with it.
• [03:06] This year we are going to focus on learning to handle the emotions that come with being a human being and having a human life experience. This is the year we learn how to do life better.
• [03:43] Challenges are here to teach us and help us to grow.
• [04:37] Give yourself permission to feel the emotions that do come up when you look at things as they are.
• [05:25] Look at the situation from an honest place. Feel whatever comes up. Now you have a choice. You can look at the situation from whatever angle comes up.
• [06:45] It's not delusional to look at things in a better light. It's faith.
• [06:54] Faith is believing in something that isn't as if it already was.
• [08:24] Thinking that things are changing for the better makes a complete difference in your life.
• [10:03] This year I want you to know yourself at the deepest and most intimate level.
• [11:12] Take what you feel and connect it to what you believe.
• [12:32] Have an anchor where you can create your own "but" statement to stop the descent into overwhelm or discouragement.
• [13:33] Look at things how they are and choose to believe that there are better days ahead.

Links and Resources:

• Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network
• Dangerous Woman Society
• Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching?
• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto

It's a new year, and I hope you're feeling excited, optimistic, and ready for growth and learning. This episode focuses on redefining kindness, especially in relationships. We'll explore how to overcome the fear of hurting people's feelings, empowering you to make better decisions and confidently follow your own path.

Starting this January, the Dangerous Woman Society is opening its doors. Perfect for those who've been working independently, it offers an enhanced experience with monthly group coaching, challenges, and accountability. Featuring on-demand classes on specific topics, it's ideal for newcomers to coaching looking to dive deeper.

Priced at $99 per month, with the flexibility to cancel anytime. The community will create a nurturing and uplifting atmosphere, fostering support and encouragement among members.

Episode Highlights:

• [02:57] Most of us are certified good girls who don't like to hurt people's feelings.
• [04:15] Many of us think it would be cruel and hurtful to tell someone how we really feel. We don't want to upset the other person or have them think we're being mean.
• [05:03] Many of us believe that not hurting other people's feelings is kindness. The problem with this thought process is that we're not responsible for other people's feelings.
• [05:47] If someone feels love, it's because they're having loving thoughts about another person.
• [06:11] You must release yourself from the responsibility of making anyone feel anything whether it's good or bad.
• [06:42] It's not kind to not be transparent or truthful in your relationships for fear of hurting someone's feelings.
• [07:39] Begin to associate complete honesty with kindness. Associate clarity with kindness. Ambiguity is not kindness.
• [10:00] Making decisions based on the feelings of someone else will leave you angry and discouraged in the relationship. The most kind thing you can do in any relationship is offer honesty.
• [11:09] Free yourself from the thought that it's cruel or unkind to be honest.

Links and Resources:

• Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network
• Dangerous Woman Society
• Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching?
• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto

Do you ever struggle with knowing when and how to ask for help? If so, this episode is for you. We're talking about how to avoid the trap of superwoman syndrome and managing everything independently. This is the 2024 Mindset Makeover Part 2.

Even when busy during the holidays, you likely still have thoughts and dreams for the upcoming year. We are going to talk about how to turn those dreams into reality. We've previously discussed the mindset steps.

Today, we're focusing on the critically important execution phase. I'll discuss when and whether to seek help after completing the mindset work and formulating a plan of action.

Episode Highlights:

• [03:00] Define what matters most to you and clarify your priorities.
• [04:02] What is your zone of genius?
• [05:07] Will the time you save getting support from someone else outweigh the cost of doing it yourself? Identify the benefits.
• [07:22] Will doing it yourself and learning a new skill set really matter to you?
• [08:57] The tricky part about deciding whether you should ask for help or not is where you're avoiding the discomfort of a task and just letting someone else do it. Or even if you think if someone else does it it'll be an immediate success.
• [09:41] I want you to be able to distinguish and catch when you are trying to avoid growth.
• [14:06] When I signed up for a coaching program, the relief I felt should have been a red flag for me when I thought of not having to do something that is essential for my business.
• [14:52] I wanted the program to do the heavy lifting and relieve me from the discomfort of doing what I needed to do.
• [16:11] I want you to be aware of how easy it is to fall prey to taking the easy way out.
• [17:00] Knowingly choosing discomfort isn't easy. You need to be mindful of how your brain will try to escape from any discomfort.
• [17:12] Examples of when it's good to ask for help include working with a financial planner, a certified trainer, hiring a housekeeper, or ordering groceries.
• [18:35] A life coach can see your blind spots and point them out to you in a way that your friends and family aren't going to.
• [19:52] As a business owner, you need to learn how to deal with the rejection before hiring someone to do the sales and follow up for you.
• [20:21] Knowing when to ask for help is vital. It's important to know your motives behind asking for help.

Links and Resources:

• Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network
• Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching?
• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto
• Dangerous Woman Society Membership

Are you struggling with being perceived as 'too nice' when you want to be seen as a strong leader? This interview with Fran Hauser is a must-listen. Fran, the author of The Myth of the Nice Girl, brings a wealth of experience as a media executive, advocate for women and girls, and an investor in over 30 female-led companies. She's a best-selling author, speaker, and a truly wise and genuine person.

She frequents conferences and organizations, empowering women to build fulfilling careers without compromising their authenticity. Our discussion dives into crucial topics such as overcoming the urge to please everyone, increasing self-awareness, and self-advocacy. Fran's insights shine a light on how to maintain our true selves, stay kind, and emerge as respected leaders.

Episode Highlights:

• [02:06] Being nice has been helpful to Fran's career. She could negotiate with real win-win outcomes. She was able to show empathy, build relationships, and deep connections.
• [04:07] She also had young women coming to her and asking how she could be so nice yet successful.
• [04:53] Fran became more comfortable with who she was and was able to list how being nice helped her business.
• [05:30] Once she became more established, people stopped saying she was too nice.
• [06:16] There are more corporate cultures that encourage employees to show up in a way that's aligned with their values. There's more diversity, and there's a huge difference in corporate culture today.
• [07:13] Fran shares how she tried to get away from the nice girl image early in her career. She took bad advice and went over someone's head to get something done, and it damaged her relationship with this person.
• [08:43] It felt awful to hurt her feelings. That's when I learned that I really messed up, and I'm not going to try to be a person that I'm not.
• [09:30] As a leader, you can set the tone and work in an environment of respect even if you don't agree. It's more difficult when you're a team member and not the leader.
• [12:06] People pleasing is having no boundaries and saying yes to everything. Check in with yourself and ask if you're saying yes because this is aligned with your priorities. Am I saying yes, because I feel bad saying no? It's an important distinction.
• [14:45] Advocating for yourself doesn't mean that you're not a nice person. You can ask for more money or to be put on that high-profile project.
• [15:43] People-pleasing can show up in many different ways. Fran shares an experience from her early career where she learned the importance of self-awareness and learning from her mistakes.
• [17:59] Is being a nice girl a superpower? Being kind, empathetic, and warm enables you to connect more deeply and build stronger relationships.
• [18:43] You need to set boundaries and not let people walk all over you or take advantage of you.
• [20:27] The importance of getting feedback from trusted friends.
• [21:56] Fran's head and heart are with helping aspiring authors get their books out.
• [24:08] You deserve to have a great week. Be clear on what really matters to you. Where do you want to spend your time? What are your priorities? How can you set healthy boundaries around those?
• [25:18] We have control over our time, energy, to-do list, and to-don't list.

Links and Resources:

• Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network
• Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching?
• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto
• Fran Hauser
• Fran Hauser Instagram
• Reflect and Reset Journal
• The Breakthrough: Dancing My Way to Happy
• The Breakthrough: From Shadows to Spotlight
• The Breakthrough: Cooking Up Confidence with Gaby Hale

Are you gearing up to make 2024 your most successful year yet? Then this podcast is tailor-made for you. Join me as I guide you through the essential steps to mentally and physically gear up for an outstanding new year. Whether 2023 was a year of challenges or a year where your expectations weren't fully met, this fresh start is your opportunity to shine.

Perhaps you're reflecting on your 2023 successes, wondering how to surpass them, or you might feel you fell short of your goals. In either case, we'll navigate these feelings and strategize to set you up for unparalleled success. Welcome to Part 1 of our two-part series, where we'll focus on cultivating a winning mindset to kickstart your journey.

Episode Highlights:

• [02:53] It's time to take this mindset information in and put it into practice. Take action.
• [03:30] Evaluate your year. Ask yourself the following questions. 1. How am I different now than I was in January? Think about the positives and the negatives. How have the positive changes impacted your life?
• [04:08] 2. How have I stayed the same? How has this helped or hindered me?
• [04:35] After answering these questions, ask yourself where you believe that you have the most work to do.
• [07:03] I've noticed that there were times where I just coasted in my business. I looked at the tangible outcomes and my business and clients have increased, but I didn't hit all of my goals.
• [09:00] Know when and where you need to push and where you need to pause. This is important as you decide how you want 2024 to look.
• [10:25] Have a picture of what you want the year to look like before you go out and set your big goals. Envision what you want your everyday life to be like.
• [11:08] Everything is determined by how you answer the question of what you want your life to look like.
• [12:44] Allow yourself to dream and listen to the information that comes up in your mind.
• [13:25] When you capture all the thoughts about your dreams, your unconscious limitations will come up. Challenge these thoughts and fight for the opposite.
• [15:33] Fight for the possibilities as opposed to fighting for the limitations.
• [18:06] Practice catching your limiting thoughts and ignoring other people's possible limiting thoughts.
• [19:52] After you've tackled what you want your life to look like and the limiting thoughts, then it's time to work on the how.
• [20:40] Really take time and spend it on these two steps and next week we will tackle the action stage.

Links and Resources:

• Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network
• Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching?
• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto
• The Breakthrough: Dancing My Way to Happy
• The Breakthrough: From Shadows to Spotlight
• The Breakthrough: Cooking Up Confidence with Gaby Hale

If you want to get healthy and be inspired, this is the podcast for you. My guest, Tawana Miller, is the CEO of BFitBFly, a healthy lifestyle brand that specializes in plant-dominant meal prep, kitchen, and pantry organization, and her signature detox culinary program called The Meal Edit.

Tawana has a master's degree in healthcare administration. She's a personal wellness chef, a healthy lifestyle expert, and she holds a certificate in plant-based nutrition from the Center of Nutrition Studies at Cornell. Tawana's approach to a balanced, plant-based lifestyle extends beyond mere diet; it's a tailored solution to individual needs.

She's also an advocate and speaker for autism awareness, and part of her company's proceeds are donated to Autism Speaks. We talk about how Tawana's life changed for the better when her miracle baby arrived. This episode will have you wanting to eat better and appreciate unexpected blessings.

Episode Highlights:

• [02:30] Tawana's son was a miracle child. She was inspired to start her nutrition business to help with her son's autism.
• [04:03] Tawana talks about the transition that she and her husband went through and the loss they mourned. She found a whole new life when she got to the other side.
• [05:16] She began taking cooking lessons. She wanted to cook better for her son and found it to be very therapeutic.
• [05:50] Tawana explains why it's so important for her to be an advocate for the special needs community.
• [06:40] No matter what someone's special needs or disability may be, we all have a story and have unique needs.
• [07:06] It's not true that special needs kids aren't able to learn.
• [08:33] Tawana always invites people to ask questions, and she loves it when people are curious about special needs children.
• [09:06] She's not totally vegan, but believes in being plant-based. Her son had food intolerances like dairy sensitivity. She tells her clients to do what works for them.
• [11:06] This diet has improved the health of the whole family. A plant-based lifestyle has worked well for them.
• [12:39] Tawana shares how eating plant-based has improved the health of her clients.
• [14:31] Her favorite part of her business is when people see the value that she's giving them.
• [16:28] She feels like media is the next step for her, so she can get the message out.

Links and Resources:

• Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network
• Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching?
• Dr. Krystal Conner
• Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
• How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group
• Dangerous Woman Manifesto
• BFitBFly Kitchen Studio
• Tawana's Email: [email protected]
• Tawana Miller Instagram
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