I spent a long time being right and goodness did I get riled up about it. It was my way or the highway! I would get angry and upset when someone didn't behave as I thought they should. I still sometimes do it now to be honest but a whole lot less than I used to. 

You see I have had some realisations about the idea that I am right. Firstly knowing that the things I believe are just the things I learnt from other people as I was growing up. I used to see them as my opinions but now I see them as the opinions of my ancestors. Of course they often look real because they were learnt unconsciously but they really are not. Secondly I now see that the awful feeling I get when I rant about someone else's behaviour is coming from my thinking about that behaviour not from the behaviour itself. Thirdly I know that I am fundamentally connected to everyone in the world. They have their thinking and I have mine but in reality we are all connected. When I come from the idea of that connection, it seems easier to ignore different opinions and see what is similar about us rather than what is different. The final thing is that I know I work better psychologically when I am in a nicer feeling and understanding all the above has me there more of the time. So it just makes sense.

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