My thoughts on it throughout the years and what has helped.

(It's personal, but I figure it might help someone as well.)

It is true that we can attract people to us or push them away. Our words and actions will be what determines if others want to genuinely be around us and be in our company or if they do not. Sometimes it's them and sometimes it's us. But either way it is important to stay true to you and be honest in relationships as lies are found out and trust can be broken. (Note: We don't ave to volunteer all our personal info from the start, and there are some things best unsaid, but honesty with yourself and others is a key to building a strong bond.) I have been working on me lately and see the importance of not being reliant on someone else for my own personal growth.  shalom/peace to you all in life and with your quest for a mate/partner and friend!