What we're talking about again today, choosing a corrective experience. We talked about that last week. I called it part one, touched on a little bit about some of my fears and we touched on a few things and I'm gonna quickly highlight and then we'll get into the next part of this, which I'm gonna talk a little bit more today about boundaries. 

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What I want to talk about today is some of the things that I have done in the past applied used today and things that I am growing into in the future. So this podcast is gonna be the start of this discussion. It's going to be followed up with at least one more podcast because I think it warrants, its such a big topic in a touchy one.

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 This message is crafted for those in early recovery that could be recovery from substance abuse, um mental health challenges, some other disorder, an eating disorder, um, or depression, it could be something, you know, a relationship that could be a number of things that we could consider ourselves in recovery. 

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 I'm gonna talk about emotional manipulation. Many of us have been subjected to this physically sexually, some form of trauma in our lives. Most of us. By the time we are adults have experienced one form of trauma, at least one form of it. It's very stressful, very difficult. Some of us have turned to substance abuse like myself, most of my trauma and stress was of the emotional nature and I think they're all linked together. Some have endured physical sexual abuse, very sorry about that. 

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This message is crafted for those in early recovery that could be recovery from substance abuse, um mental health challenges, some other disorder, an eating disorder, um, or depression, it could be something, you know, a relationship that could be a number of things that we could consider ourselves in recovery.

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 I'm gonna talk about rejection today and how to handle rejection what I do on a daily basis because I believe a lot of this comes from beer. It comes from shame. Some people think it's just energy whose energy is it, is it my energy? Is it your energy? Is it our energy? Where does it come from? So I'm going to discuss that a little bit today. Again, it can be difficult. It can be challenging. We need real connection, intimacy with others. For me, as I've said before, it's my lifeline in recovery from alcoholism.

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We're gonna talk a little bit about rejection. We make these efforts for connection and we feel rejected. And if we feel that rejection over and over again, I believe, and this is what happened to me. Our minds, my mind became conditioned to feeling I'm not enough, there's something wrong with me. They don't understand me that negative self talk that would build up and it became the norm for me, the status quo, if you will. 

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 I'm gonna talk about some more change today and some steps that I had to take a while I felt were necessary for me to recover from the disease of alcoholism that I have, and the shame that has carried with me for decades. Actually, believe it or not, you know, I went from a person running a very successful company for a number of years to a person that started to believe that they weren't enough and that they weren't lovable. And for a while it got the best of me and I became an alcoholic. 

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it sounds like a big key in in terms of working through shame, were there lies a lot of pain suffering we've had to endure. And in some cases we've chosen to indoor the suffering, as they say, pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. A big key for me. Working through that when I went through treatment the last time, as I've said before, I've been through it multiple times, was too get really honest and support group meetings. They say rigorous honesty. I've never had a lot of people call me a dishonest person or really get into my integrity, but then again, they only knew what they knew and what I told them. 

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What I want to talk about a little more today and a little more with a little more depth is we've talked about compassion and empathy and you know, for a while I lost it, I lost the ability to have access to that. Um I went through my version of a lot of stress. Some would call it trauma. Some people don't like that word. So you can call it a lot of stress. You can call it trauma, whatever works for you.

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