Today's topic will likely resonate with many people, especially women. If you feel that something is missing from your life, that you’re living someone else’s life, or longing for more joy, ease and purpose in your day-to-day experience, then this episode is for you!

Homaira reads excerpts from the chapter on Purpose from her newly released book Goodbye, Perfect (published by Sourcebooks). She’ll walk you through why we lose connection with ourselves, how to listen to the life that longs to live through you, and different ways you can uncover your most important “thing” at this time in your life.  

This episode can really tug at your heart and make you reflect on the important questions of life: Who am I? What am I here to do? You’ll walk away with a much deeper sense of purpose and belonging to your place in the world. Listen on for the start of your authentic life.

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We’re a relational species. We find joy and fulfillment in being there for others. But we can also be judgmental, mean or weak when we could’ve been kinder or more helpful. We’re imperfect after all—and sometimes others don’t make it easy either for us to be who we want to be. 

And so, we will all carry regrets ion our relationships. In fact, if we don’t, we likely never engaged fully with the people in our lives.

In this episode, I talk about:

• Why interpersonal regret is normal
• How repair brings us closer
• The two forms that repair can take

Listen to find not only the peace you seek, but also actionable steps you can take to learn from the regret and start living in alignment with who you want to be.

 

Regret is a topic that’s showing up more and more in our conversations. Perhaps what we’ve lived through these past few years has reminded us not only of the shortness of life, but also that many (or most) of our pursuits haven’t even been aligned with what we want.

And with that comes the regret of our unlived lives.

In this episode, I divide the regret into 3 types, and offer a different way to work through each of them. Specific things I talk about:

• Regrets about conscious decisions we made
• Regrets about things we avoided out of fear
• Regrets about the unstoppable passage of time

You’ll find practical and actionable ways to reclaim not only the life you’ve lived, but also the life that lies ahead of you.

 

Longevity vs ageism—are the two at war with each other? Or is there room for happy co-existence where we can live long with health and meaning?

In this episode, I reflect on what the focus on longevity may be doing to our collective psyche and beliefs, and why it is important to be mindful in our pursuit for a longer life.

Specific things I talk about:

• Longevity—a means or an end?
• Ageism, and its effects on healthy adult development
• Elderhood, and its role in society
• How do we pursue longevity while embracing age? 

https://conniezweig.com/ 

https://www.homairakabir.com/goodbye-perfect-book/ 

 

What role does our relationship with “place” play in our lives? Does it matter how much we feel part of the land, neighborhood or city we live in?

In this episode, I talk about author Sharon Blackie’s reflections on “place”, with reference to my unhappy relationship with a certain place early in my life, and how it may contributed to the eating disorder that followed. 

Specific things I share:

• Why forming connection with a place can be difficult.
• Why we long for connection to ancestry 
• How healthy connection affects our lives for the better 
• Ways we can form connection even when we feel dislocated

https://sharonblackie.net/if-women-rose-rooted/

https://www.homairakabir.com/goodbye-perfect-book/ 

 

We normally have an exciting vision when we set out to achieve our goals. We also have a detailed plan of action, including a plan B or C, so when obstacles happen, we know what to do.

There’s one small problem: most of us don’t achieve our goals. Studies show what we already know—within a month or so, most goals and resolutions are a thing of the past. Despite a vision and a plan (and a month of trying), we end up feeling bad about ourselves.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why this is so
• The false promise of planning
• The most essential aspect of growth 
• The 2 components of this aspect
• And how you can make it a part of your life.

 

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Often when we think of our goals, we think of we’ll do to achieve them. But successful goal achievement is so much more than that…especially for long term goals. In this episode, discover how to set yourself up for success in ways that energize you, instead of depleting you to the point that you give up on your goals. We’ll explore the three key relationships that are essential for success, and you’ll walk away with practical steps you can implement right away to re-fuel the goals and aspirations that may be losing their spark. If you’d like your days filled with a lot more joy, ease and motivation, this episode is for you. Enjoy!  

You can learn more about Homaira's new book Goodbye Perfect here: https://www.homairakabir.com/goodbye-perfect-book/

Preorder the book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Goodbye-Perfect-Pleasing-Proving-Yourself/dp/1728247497/

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How do you want to experience your life?

In the final episode for 2022, Homaira reflects on the experience of life, and what we can each do to live it fully. She shares what it means to live each day as your first and your last, and why it is important given life is challenging and uncertain.

Listen for inspiration on who you want to be and how you want to show up going forward, because it’s something that’s likely already at the back of your mind at this time of the year!

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Who are you being called to be?

This episode is about getting clear on a vision that feels real and precious to you, and on an identity that you need to embody in order to move toward it.  Homaira shares 2 simple ways that you can put into practice right away – especially if you’re going through a transition at this time in your life.

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What “best” are you striving toward? 

In this episode, we’ll explore the concept of a good life, and whether our ideals are true to who we are, and even possible for the lives we live as women.

Could they be the source of our stress and unhappiness?

And can we set ideals that actually lift us up and make us feel good about ourselves?  

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