Best Before Date - modern dating exploration

This week on BBD podcast, our guest is Toben Spencer-Lang (instagram)- a professional shaft inspector and Vancouver based comic from Alberta. Toben and I talk about losing his virginity at knife point, being in an open relationship, finding out he is bi after an accident, moving to Vancouver, and much more. I was very excited and curious about the ground rules Toben and his partner have set up for their open relationship!

 Listen in if you're considering opening up your relationship or have questions about dating a bi person or a comic lol!

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This week on BBD podcast, our guest is Yra Jai! I did something crazy (for me). I didn't edit this aside from putting in an intro and outro. Am I stressing over it? You bet! Get ready for some honest, funny and deep conversations on how to overcome the dating challenges and communicate effectively (sometimes breaking hearts but being blunt) with potential partners. Check out her podcast Waking Up From Breaking Up!

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This week on BBD podcast, our guest is Yra Jai! Yra is a new-ish but good friend of mine, though most importantly, an awesome podcaster! She is versed on all aspects of dating from personal experience and from the multitude of cool guests she's interviewed on her podcast Waking Up From Breaking Up. (You can also check out the episodes she interviewed me!). We talk about making friends in Vancouver (part of why she joined a Gaelic Football league), right way to approach challenges in relationships, and her version of FOMO - JOMO, Joy Of Missing Out! Check out part one :P

Also, I wanted to try something for this episode! I made a virtual bingo while you listen!! (pick one only! 1 or 2 or 3 or 4 or 5 or 6 or 7 or 8 or 9) - if you play and win I've got a surprise for you :)

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Check out the things we discussed timestamped below!

IN THIS EPISODE:

- Sports (1:25)

- Dating in sports (4:22)

- Irish women (5:15)

- Making friends in Vancouver (6:08)

- Sasha loves food (7:50)

- Dressing up fails (9:00)

- FOMO (10:15)

- JOMO (11:24)

- Gaelic football (12:00)

- Raised by women (13:20)

- Distrust older men (14:05)

- Gay league football (16:07)

- Big hands (17:42)

- Want someone athletic (18:37)

- People taking on your problems (19:30)

- Codependency (22:52)

- Being a good partner (24:15)

- Responding to problems (25:35)

- Overthinking or underthinking (26:45)

- Out of control (27:20)

- Patience (29:15)

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This week on BBD podcast, our guest is Austin - the founder and owner of MOTN, one of the coolest indie arts and comedy venues in Vancouver! In this part we go over aftermath of a car crash coming down from the Arctic (yeah I know!), priorities, and perspective. Austin describes going through the break up call and the aftermath of it. New full episode next week!

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Check out the things we discussed timestamped below!

IN THIS EPISODE:

- Challenges (1:15)

- Best way to travel (2:27)

- Sasha is silly (3:30)

- Canadians are too smart (4:20)

- Travelling isn't always safe (5:30)

- Letting go (6:20)

- Going to the Arctic (7:20)

- The crash (8:03)

- Dealing with trauma (9:35)

- Break up call (10:20)

- Virgo (11:10)

- When you're not the priority (12:20)

- Expecting the break up (15:14)

- Takeaways (19:04)

- Fairytale isn't reality (20:51)

- Childish perspective (22:10)

- Standing your ground (25:10)

- Two passing ships (26:00)

- Codependency (27:35)

- The new MOTN (28:25)

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This week on BBD podcast, our guest is Austin - the founder and owner of MOTN, one of the coolest indie arts and comedy venues in Vancouver! In this part we go over MOTN history, how it came to be and what made it different from other venues. We discuss the challenges of having a relationship while working on your dream and how going away for even a short period has a turbulent effect on relationships.

There will be more by the end of the week I hope.

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Check out the things we discussed timestamped below!

IN THIS EPISODE:

- Play house (0:30)

- Comedians made us hook up (2:45)

- Postponing the end (4:10)

- Never been in love before like that (5:20)

- Not working is the best (6:30)

- Life gets in the way (8:10)

- What's next (11:01)

- The space (13:10)

- Night owl (16:51)

- Name the MOTN (18:10)

- Dating conventions (21:47)

- Keeping the venue afloat (23:30)

- Brandon Washburn persona (25:30)

- Comedy changed the MOTN (28:00)

- Going on vacation ruins relationships (30:15)

- Ghost breakup (31:20)

- Reading the situation (32:55)

- Different priorities (33:30)

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New Episodes every Tuesday at 9pm PST! 

This week on BBD podcast, our guest is Austin - the founder and owner of MOTN, one of the coolest indie arts and comedy venues in Vancouver! We discuss the importance of "holy sh*t" moments in life; and touch on the interests that led to the creation of the venue and the challenges of running an art venue in the city. We get to the dating side right at the end - so next part is packed with it! This is a first episode recorded with two actual mics so it might sounds slightly different. Tune in! :)

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Check out the things we discussed timestamped below!

IN THIS EPISODE:

- Dating podcast (1:40)

- Comedy shows around Vancouver (2:40)

- Vancouver is a chameleon city (3:40)

- Austin, Texas is great for arts (4:10)

- Texas blue state (6:38)

- Bad places in Vancouver (9:27)

- The right events (10:32)

- Open mics (14:30)

- Advice to comics (16:20)

- Holy shit moments (22:45)

- Film school is a scam (23:40)

- The big decision to quit (30:15)

- Wanted to make movies (32:27)

- The MOTN (35:00)

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This week on BBD podcast, part 3 with our guests Ren and Kris. We talk about Instagram exposing who you date (and who your coochie sisters are), open relationships for men and women, and the kink movement. Ren is adding "saving local glory holes" to his mayor platform and Kris contemplates getting tied up. Check out what is probably the dirtiest episode of Best Before Date podcast to date :P

Ren was recently a panelist on Crave's 1 Queen 5 Queers (must see his ep!), and Kris is a good friend of mine. I'm spent after a weird bachelorette and they're hella hungover but still very giggly. 

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Check out the things we discussed timestamped below!

IN THIS EPISODE:

- Different times (1:20)

- Vancouver is a small city (2:00)

- Instagram exposing who you date (2:24)

- Cooch sisters (3:15)

- Using your friends (4:03)   

- Changing Vancouver (4:31)

- Dating multiple people (5:06)

- Open relationships for men (6:26)

- Prep and premature ejaculation (7:28)

- Versatile (9:15)

- Straight version of Grindrr (10:20)

- Asking to hook up on tinder (13:10)

- Feeling the chase (14:21)

- Choking is not kinky (16:20)

- Getting tied up (18:27)

- Easy kink stuff (26:55)

- Poppers (27:55)

- Public sex (30:20)

- Protect our glory holes (31:15)

- No glory holes for Kris (35:07)

- 1 queen 5 queers (38:45)

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New Episodes every Tuesday at 9pm PST! 

This week on BBD podcast, our guest is Ren and Kris. Ren was recently a panelist on Crave's 1 Queen 5 Queers (must see his ep!), and Kris is a good friend of mine. I'm spent after a weird bachelorette and they're hella hungover but still very giggly. We talk about dating in Vancouver, worst first date, getting stuff stuck in ones bum, and of course red flags!

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Check out the things we discussed timestamped below!

IN THIS EPISODE:

- Pandemic in the gay community (0:40)

- Haven't been in a relationship (1:20)

- Red flags (2:26)

- Funny is a must (3:12)

- Healthy relationships are weird at first (4:56)

- Actual adults (6:16)

- Emergency room visits (7:45)

- Weird first date (10:35)

- UBC McDonald's (13:40)

- Bad trip (15:34)

- Objects in butts (16:29)

- His type (19:42)

- Bubly break (21:15)

- What's AL attracted to (21:56)

- Dating a comic (22:45)

- Vancouver dating pool (24:52)

- Be a rule breaker (26:43)

- Leather harnesses (28:10)

- Online dating (29:50)

- Mutuals on Instagram (31:00)

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New Episodes every Tuesday at 9pm PST! 

This week on BBD podcast, our guest is Ren and Kris. Ren was recently a panelist on Crave's 1 Queen 5 Queers (must see his ep!), and Kris is a good friend of mine. I'm spent after a weird bachelorette and they're hella hungover but still very giggly. I talk about my roommate troubles and struggles of doing topless bachelorettes; Kris talks about how she loves to starfish; Ren briefly mentions forking a teacher. Tune in for a chat about kink culture in gay community, cruising, frogging, and much more! There will be more by the end of the week I hope.

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Check out the things we discussed timestamped below!

IN THIS EPISODE:

- Roommate troubles (0:21)

- Petty roommate (2:10)

- Churches chicken on hastings (4:35)

- Auditioning for 1 Queen 5 Queers (5:57)

- Stereotypes (9:56)

- Being a bottom (10:45)

- Starfishing (11:50)

- Toronto (14:05)

- Bachelorette with nurses (15:50)

- Eating food off butt (18:34)

- Eating food out of butts (20:04)

- Kinky stuff, frogging (22:20)

- forking your teacher (25:26)

- Cruising and Grinderr in Taiwan (28:48)

- Outdoor sex (29:40)

- The Oasis - wreck beach and Mr Bussy Licious (31:33)

- Ren for Mayor of Vancouver (33:10)

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This week on BBD podcast, our guest is Colleen Thompson who is a Vancouver based, very-hungover stand up comedian, writer and researcher/ex-therapist. We talk about love, passion, lust and my love for control. Longest pod I've recorded to date I think (plus Acts of God in Vancouver - wind throwing my neighbor's roof at my car) made this into a 3 part-er.

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Check out the things we discussed timestamped below!

IN THIS EPISODE:

- Do we have control (0:40)

- Art is emotional manipulation (1:49)

- Influencing people (2:40)

- Losing yourself (5:30)

- We are all different (6:55)

- We finally agree? (9:07)

- Al breaks his own rules (9:50)

- Falling in love (10:43)

- Love vs passion (13:23)

- What is love (17:11)

- Honeymoon stage (18:20)

- Step into love (20:00)

- Common issue in relationships (21:53)

- Flappy birds with chaos (23:51)

- Setting course for rocky water (24:51)

- Are you having fun? (27:25)

- Vancouver Mayor (30:40)

- Search for meaning (32:15)

- Podcast taking on meaning (34:50)

- Fashion advice for Al (36:04)

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New Episodes every Tuesday at 9pm PST!