This week’s episode is based on a listener's request about how to recover from the betrayal of infidelity. Michelle Mays joins me to discuss cheating, the betrayal bind, and solutions for healing. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She is the author of the new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst, and she is the founder of the Center for Relational Recovery in Northern Virginia outside of DC. 
In this episode, you’ll hear about:

Cheating and what makes sexual betrayal so devastating and problematic? (3:37)

The betrayal bind is what happens when we experience betrayal at the hands of our most significant other. (8:08)

Every betrayed partner goes through three specific injuries. (16:08)

The role of gaslighting when a partner is cheating (19:54)

Michelle answers, “Can you actually heal from betrayal and cheating?” (28:08)

“Your relationship may not be salvageable, but you can absolutely heal from betrayal and move into the rest of your life and thrive and flourish afterward.” AND “If you are trying to heal your relationship, that is possible. The deciding factor is whether you are both in it 100%.” (29:50)


Resources from this episode:
1:1 Coaching with Andrea
Michelle’s website
Michelle on Instagram
Book recommendations:
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Episode 576:Betrayal in Romantic Relationships with Michelle Mays

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It’s been a long time since I got divorced the first time in 2006. It was also a much different situation and we didn’t have kids. Kids throw a whole different level of complication and sadness to it. 
In this minisode, I talk about the process of getting separated and then divorced, and the things that are taking me OUT while doing so. 
Things like packing up…looking at my bathroom drawers empty. 
Finding old pictures and cards while packing up of the years passed. 
And more. 
I end the episode talking about how multiple feelings and experiences can be true…you can feel grief and sadness for what’s ending to the nth degree, and also hope, excitement and optimism for what’s to come. That, we’re at choice about. 
Resources from this episode: 
Write Your Way Through It is open for registration 
Book recommendations:
I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  
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Minisode 599: On the grief of breaking up

Female friendships are meaningful, yet we still tend to put them on the back burner. That is why I invited guest Danielle Jackson back to the show. Previously, we talked about how to make friends, and in this episode, we talk about how to make deeper connections with women in friendship. Danielle Bayard Jackson is a certified friendship coach and national speaker dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain meaningful female friendships. We can never have enough episodes about female friendships; I really hope you enjoy this episode! 
You’ll hear:

The three "affinities" that bring women together (and tear them apart) (6:39)

What’s the deal around gossip? Is it good or not? (8:24)

The nine most challenging "friend types" (11:25)

How to have hard conversations with a friend (13:46)

The way female friendships are depicted in today’s media, specifically on reality tv (18:53)

How to know if a friendship is worth saving (27:55)


Resources: 
Write Your Way Through It Registration is Open!
Subscribe for free to my Therapy Journey podcast series
Danielle’s website, Better Female Friendships
Maintaining Meaningful Friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson
Book recommendations:
I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  
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Episode 598: Fighting for our Friendships with Danielle Jackson

This week, we have a repeat guest as Dr. John Duffy returns to the show! We explore mental health and the difference between young men and women. Dr. Duffy also shares insights from his work and book Rescuing Our Sons: 8 Solutions to Our Crisis of Disaffected Teen Boys (A Psychologist's Roadmap). But wait - this episode is not just for parents. For non-parent listeners, we also talk about the effects of anxiety and how to manage it as well as what to say (and not say) when it comes to grief and interacting with those who are grieving. 
Dr. John Duffy is a Chicago-based clinical psychologist, best-selling author, keynote speaker, and national media expert. He has been in vigorous private practice for 25 years, specializing in work with adolescents, young adults, and their parents. 
You’ll hear:

Exploring the nuances of therapy sessions between young women and young men, plus factors contributing to these disparities (5:19)

What Dr. Duffy means when he says we are experiencing a "crisis of disaffected boys" (13:35)

Talking about, with anyone, the complexities of grief (26:20)

How anxiety manifests and how to manage it when it does (33:06)


Resources: 
Write Your Way Through It Registration is Open!
Dr. John Duffy’s website
Episode 246: An Important Conversation about Depression with Dr. John Duffy
Rescuing Our Sons: 8 Solutions to Our Crisis of Disaffected Teen Boys (A Psychologist's Roadmap)
Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety: Raising Happy, Healthy Humans Ages 8 to 24
Dr. John Duffy is a Chicago-based clinical psychologist, best-selling author, keynote speaker and national media expert. He has been in vigorous private practice for 25 years, specializing in work with adolescents, young adults and their parents. He has consistently provided the tools young people need to thrive through his empathy, knowledge, experience and practice. He has written three books intended to provide parents with the tools to help their teens and young adults thrive in this persistent age of anxiety. For more than a decade, Dr. Duffy has also spoken to thousands of parents internationally through PTA’s, Fortune 500 corporate programs, and other parenting networks.
On radio, Dr. Duffy is a regularly appearing expert on WGN, WLS and NPR. He has appeared as an expert guest on countless podcasts and has been the host of two popular podcasts himself.
Book recommendations:
I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  
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Episode 597: Mental Health, Anxiety, and Our Sons with Dr. John Duffy

You’ve probably heard me mention here and there on various podcast episodes about psychedelic therapy. I’ve had a few experts who talk about its benefits (episodes 551 with Dr. Ellen Vora and 560 with Dr. Tanmeet Sethi). 
It’s been an incredibly interesting topic to me, but as someone in long-term recovery, I assumed it wasn’t for me. 
However, after doing extensive research and finding out that a) There is a community of people in recovery who support each other in their journey towards using psychedelics for addiction and recovery, b) the research shows psychedelics are not addictive, and 3) psychedelics when used properly have been shown to help people who struggle with anxiety, addiction, depression, ADHD and other mental health challenges, I decided to take the plunge. 
If you’d like to follow along in my journey, I’m making a private podcast feed to chronicle it all. I’ll go more in depth as to why I’ve chosen to do this, talk about the different options, tell you how my experience was with each one, and how it’s helped me in terms of my mental health. If you decide to sign up, please keep in mind, this is just my experience, psychedelics are not for everyone, and this type of therapy is subjective. 
That being said, tune into this week’s minisode where I talk about the above, why this is an extra-personal endeavor for me, which psychedelic therapy I chose to start with and why. 
Resources from this episode: 
Follow along on my psychedelic therapy journey
Episode 551 with Dr. Ellen Vora
Episode 560 with Dr. Tanmeet Sethi
Mindbloom (make sure to use code andreao100 to get $100 off your treatment!)
Book recommendations:
I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  
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Minisode 596: My journey with Ketamine Therapy

Brendan Fitzgibbons returns to the podcast this week as we explore his transformative experience with psychedelic therapy. Brendan shares his personal journey as to why he chose to take the psychedelic therapy route and how it has profoundly impacted him. Brendan is the host of the popular podcast, “Spiritual Asshole,” writer, and actor. 
If you are a frequent listener, you are familiar with my endless curiosity about psychedelic therapy. My conversation with Brendan was truly enlightening. Tune in as we chat about psychedelics and their potential as a catalyst for healing and personal growth. And you’ll hear about my decision to start this myself and take you on my journey! 
You’ll hear:

Why Brendan chose to take the psychedelic therapy route (7:30)

The importance of experiencing psychedelic therapy in a safe and supportive environment (16:00)

How has Mushrooms, and Ketamine Therapy helped Brendan with rumination and worry? What has integration looked like? (30:19)


Resources: 
Write Your Way Through It
Follow me on her Therapy Journey and subscribe to the private podcast feed!
Brendan on Instagram
Episode 551 with Dr. Ellen Vora
Episode 560 with Dr. Tanmeet Sethi
MushyGirls
Mindbloom
Brendan Fitzgibbons is a Los Angeles writer, actor and podcast host. He's written for Comedy Central, ComedyCentral.com, and the Onion. He's been on Full Frontal with Samantha Bee, MTV, and Comedy Central. His acting work has also been featured in South by Southwest and the Tribeca Film Festival. In 2021, he was the voice of the Samsung Galaxy phone and his podcast, "Spiritual Asshole" was named "Top Indie Podcast" by Stitcher in 2020 and 2021. He just recorded an album at the Ice House with Comedy Dynamics that will be out Feb 2024.
Book recommendations:
I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  
MSN is supported by:
We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/
Episode link:
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Episode 576:Betrayal in Romantic Relationships with Michelle Mays

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