Better after 40

Better after 40

By Biljana VishnagaraEducationSelf-Improvement
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Better after 40 episodes

  • E20: Relationship sabotage
    You’re divorced and in a new relationship with this great new partner.
    And soon, it starts.
    You push him away, come off as too needy or too independent, cause arguments, doubt his intentions...) but you’re not sure why or how to fix it.
    It is causing major problems in your relationship (aka the man is frustrated and so are you).
    Relationship sabotage.
    You’re not the only one; we all have done it (some still do).
    Today, I share with you how a common belief shows up as relationship sabotage and how to start changing that.
    Come join me for this episode and also Sunday, 1/24 at 5pm EST for a free webinar “Breaking the pattern of relationship sabotage.”
    Click here to register: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_xyoSqDj8Q0m_z_amY_cSIg
    Need 1:1 support? Schedule a consult with me: https://calendly.com/lovingafterdivorce/free-consult-call?month=2021-01
    Let’s connect on instagram:
    https://www.instagram.com/better.after.divorce/
    15 min
  • E19: It does get better but...
    It does, truly.
    But not before it sucks.
    In this episode, I share with you why up and down, rollercoaster feeling after divorce is completely normal.
    How to track your progress based on your own standards and what to do when things feel like crap.
    Need 1:1 support? Schedule a consult with me: https://calendly.com/lovingafterdivorce/free-consult-call?month=2021-01
    Let’s connect on instagram:
    https://www.instagram.com/better.after.divorce/
    11 min
  • E18: How to stop bringing old stuff into the new relationship
    We all do it. We enter a new relationship and soon into it, old thoughts, patterns, and behaviors pop up.
    Listen in as I share with you WHY we do it and also, how to change and stop it.
    I share my personal experience with sabotage and how I worked through it.
    Let’s connect on instagram:
    https://www.instagram.com/better.after.divorce/
    25 min
  • E17: Stepping into the new you in 2021
    2020 has been a challenging year for a lot of us. I know you’re ready to enter 2021. Are you ready for the next level you?
    In this episode, I share with you a simple but powerful exercise to creating the vision of you 6-12 months from now.
    This will help you keep going when things get hard, reassure you, and help you step into the next version of you - more confident, calm, and reassured.
    Let’s connect on instagram:
    https://www.instagram.com/better.after.divorce/
    16 min
  • E16: Starting over
    In today’s episode, I am sharing my own experience with starting over - with a brand new baby. The experience with starting over can be overwhelming but it doesn’t have to be. I’m offering you a few different tips to manage starting over with less stress and overwhelm. Listen in. For more free resources, check out https://linktr.ee/lovingafterdivorce
    17 min
  • E15: Fear is a liar

    Often, fear will show up as the truth, as evidence.

    It shows up as convincing and real.

    It will give you excuses that sound valid and reasons as to why you should not do what you want.

    For divorced women, this will show up as excuses not to date, meet new people, reasons why they cannot have a good relationship or why it is impossible to move forward after divorce.

    It is not a problem, the brain is just doing its best to protect you,

    In this episode, I show you how to break the thought loop that keeps you in fear.

    Listen on…

    Let’s connect on Instagram; I am @lovingafterdivorce there.

    For more resources, videos, and tips, check out https://linktr.ee/lovingafterdivorce 

    15 min
  • E:14 Your ex's opinion of you

    You will be tempted to make it about you.

    You will want to make it mean all kinds of things about who you are and what you should do.

    In this episode, I share with you how to build in the expectation of his opinions coming your way and why this is a useful way of dealing with the inevitable.

    You can hear his opinions and not have a reaction or make it mean anything.

    Listen on to find out how…

    Let’s connect on Instagram; I am @lovingafterdivorce there.

    For more resources, videos, and tips, check out https://linktr.ee/lovingafterdivorce 

    12 min
  • E13: You are a villain in someone else’s story, too

    As women, we don’t often consider our role in the demise of the marriage.

    In this episode, I want to bring light to a different perspective, that of our role as the other person contributing to the issues and why taking responsibility, not blame, is such an important element in healing and moving forward.

    I share with you the process I use with my clients to help them start being accountable and recognize the patterns so that they can change them in the future.

    Listen on…

    Let’s connect on Instagram; I am @lovingafterdivorce there.

    For more resources, videos, and tips, check out https://linktr.ee/lovingafterdivorce 

    18 min
  • E12: Compare and despair
    I warn my clients against this: comparing themselves and their journey to that of someone else.
    It is so easy to fall into a trap of thinking that someone else has it figured out, their life is perfect, and they have a perfect partner.
    Our day to day life always fails in comparison to someone’s highlights.
    I share with you how to change the perception of where you are in your journey so that you can stop comparing, despairing, and finally enjoying where you are, right now.
    Listen on…
    Let’s connect on Instagram; I am @lovingafterdivorce there.
    For more resources, videos, and tips, check out https://linktr.ee/lovingafterdivorce
    13 min
  • E11: What to do when you ex triggers you…

    It is not easy to resist reacting to a text or phone call or a mean comment.

    It triggers us into an immediate reaction.

    Not all is lost… you can change the way you perceive and respond to any of the triggers he might throw your way.

    In this episode, I share with you a simple, effective coaching tool I use on myself and with my clients to help them see and react to things differently.

    There is a better way, a more peaceful, calm way.

    Listen on…

    Let’s connect on Instagram; I am @lovingafterdivorce there.

    For more resources, videos, and tips, check out https://linktr.ee/lovingafterdivorce 

    18 min

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