Prioritizing sex after birth — or even after having kids that have grown up a bit — doesn’t always come naturally. Couples can experience a lack of intimacy after a baby, brought on by fatigue, stress over caring for the new person they are responsible for, and even a general shift in hormones post-delivery (some people even experience a decrease in their sex drive throughout their pregnancy).

We’re not saying to jump right into sex after birth (after all, the human body needs time to recover after delivering a baby, and your doctor or midwife’s recommendations should be followed).

Of course, we’re not even suggesting that you have sex when you’re not in the mood and don’t feel up to it. What we are suggesting is that couples who want to keep their sex lives alive and well, even after having kids, take the time to listen to today’s conversation.

We’re sitting down with an anonymous mom-of-two to discuss what it’s like to experience the fluctuations of hormones and libido, as well as understanding and working through the physical changes from conception, through to the months of pregnancy, post-delivery, and while raising young children. We also chat about the importance of taking time to be the best version of yourself and how to love your body, regardless of if you’re a parent or not!

CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains dialogue on rape, sexual assault, and abuse. Listener discretion is advised.

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How does one survive a childhood of sexual abuse? The signs of child abuse, and later, of partner abuse, are not always obvious, especially when you are facing it first-hand. Whether experiencing these traumas first-hand or know somebody who is, remember: it is possible to leave sexually and physically abusive situations. It is possible to get out.

Today, Jennifer (she/her) sits down with us to talk about how she continues to overcome her traumas, and how her history has shaped the way she raises her daughter.

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Is it okay to watch porn?

There’s always been a big debate on this topic, especially because most mainstream pornography streaming services are depicting sex in a totally unrealistic way. From idealizing slim, white heterosexual couples to putting a spotlight on large, circumcised penises and neutral-looking vulvas, there is typically a sole focus on male pleasure. Everyone else, if represented at all, is generally done so in a very fetishized way. Put simply, the porn industry, overall, has a lot of work to do to ‘get better.’

Naturally, this is not the porn we at Between Our Thighs are watching. While you might find something in the midst of streams, a video that can get your pulse racing, it does not mean that it’s ethical. This is what Benefit Monkey — a pornography company based in Switzerland — has been doing for the past year.

Today, we’re chatting with one of their Monkeys, M, who is here to talk about the world of pornography, why the future of the industry needs to be ethical, and answers all of our community’s big questions.

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