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QOTW 40 and ready to mingle in Miami

Letter

Hello Christelyn Karazi, I am a 40 year old single mom ready to mingle ( son went to college ). I have not dated in years ( literally at least 8 years!!!) I ran across your blog and youtube. I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo happy you have not gone away. I need HELP. I live in Miami and am soooooooooooooooooo scared to attempt to date outside my "race". (not sure is that was proper term but)-- again I am soooo glad you are not gone. Do you have any recommended youtube advice already posted. I am sssssooooooooo tired of worried about what my family will say!!! I am 40!! As I look at other interracial relationships thriving and happy I think to myself....what in the hell am I waiting for? Well truth is im scared as hell and don't know where to begin. I love your blog!!! (is it called a blog? -- well I love what you do!!) Kudos to you!! Respectfully ...

Here's the letter: "My name is Erica I am 23 and my boyfriend's name is Ryan who is 24. We are both finishing up college as a nursing student and him as a petroleum engineer. We have been together for 2 years and 1 month now. We are going through extremely lows with our families, especially mine. My fathers is completely against me dating a Caucasian man. (My father was born back in the time of segregating and riots. He is a black panther). My father met him once and never tried to really get to know him. Ryan has longed to just have a chance to talk and get to know my dad. I never thought it was an issue to consider dating outside my race. We live in a pretty mixed area. My 2 brothers are also married with different ethnicity (Filipino and Hispanic). Long story short, my father disgrace me every time he knows I am with him. On fourth of July, I went to Ryan's house to study for nursing school. My father checked on me and I panicked. My family doesn't let Ryan come over so I have to sacrifice seeing him sometimes. I feel bad for lying of course, but I can't do what makes me happy. I please my parents a lot more than I do for myself. This one time that I find pure happiness, they go against it completely. I love Ryan with every ounce of me. It has been extremely hard being in my first interracial relationship. I do not regret meeting him because he has brought such joy in my life. My parents tend to stress me out more than anyone. I am a nursing student and I have a lot of pressure on me. I have always been pressured by my parents with school. Of course we aren't very expressive because my parents see one way. So it is hard for me to express how I feel with them. My questions is, what should I do? I do not want to say goodbye to Ryan, but how do I stand against this? This has been heavy on my heart and I feel like it is all too much. I just want to be happy with peace. My parents tend to do that opposite of support me. What should I do? Any advice would help us both. Thank you for your time!"

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A race hustler used commentary I made on how interracial couples can communicate their feelings about racially-fueled tragedies without minimizing them or dismissing them. Instead of listening to the content of the video, this person used it as an opportunity to call me vile names and proceed to compare me to "Aunt Jemima" because I wore an Afrocentric headband. He then send legions of hateful black men and women who called me a BED WENCH, BITCH, C*NT, and even suggested I be shot. Yeah. Real mature, huh? Here's my response.

time to discuss the recent shooting in charleston, how to handle it in your IR relationship and why you should be very careful to blame a race for the actions of one