My Bi Sex with Another Man (Part 1)

In this episode, Khalil kicks off Men Seeking Men: A First Time Guide with a raw, judgment-free look at what it’s like to have sex with another man for the first time. We talk about the mental side of stepping into intimacy with a man, the importance of ongoing consent, and how to handle nerves and curiosity. Khalil breaks down the realities of oral sex, rimming, and anal basics—what it actually feels like, how to prepare, and how to take your time.

We also get real about top, bottom, and vers roles—why they’re just preferences in penetration, not personality types or proof of masculinity.

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Referenced in This Episode

• CDC – Sexual Health & Consent Basics

• Mayo Clinic – Anal Sex: Tips for Safety

• Bisexual Resource Center – Language & Identity

Bi+ Black Men: Online Dating Culture

Khalil breaks down the world of online dating for men dating men for the first time—from Grindr, Jack’d, Scruff, Tinder, Hinge, and OkCupid to apps like BiCupid, Feeld, and Sniffies. We talk about how to start conversations without assumptions, how to flirt respectfully, common profile slang (NSA, UB2, PnP, “looking for generous”), and the red flags to avoid, like discriminatory language and shady vibes.

We also cover safe practices for meeting up in person, and Khalil closes with a reminder to protect yourself, move with intention, and stay true to who you are.

Next episode: How to Have Sex (for men seeking men for the first time).

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Khalil breaks down the bi+ spectrum—from sexual vs. romantic attraction to bisexual, pansexual, fluid, omni, ace, aromantic, and more. We also dive into the masc/fem spectrum, showing how these energies aren’t tied to sex or gender. Clear, real, and made for our community.

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Referenced in This Episode

• Human Rights Campaign – Health Disparities Among Bisexual People

• Trevor Project – National Survey on LGBTQ Youth Mental Health

• Bisexual Resource Center – Bi+ spectrum definitions & resources

• Judith Butler – Gender Trouble (masc/fem spectrum & gender theory)

Khalil steps in as the new host of Bi+ Black Men: The Podcast—sharing how he and Rob first linked up in Austin and why this platform matters so much for our community.

In this episode, we celebrate Bi Visibility Month, Week, and Day, explore the history of bi+ erasure, and unpack what it’s like to grow up and love openly as a Black bisexual man. From colonial roots of homophobia to the mental health toll of invisibility, Khalil keeps it raw, real, and rooted in truth—while honoring the resilience of bi+ Black men worldwide.

Next up: we’ll break down the full bi+ spectrum and help you understand the difference between sexual and romantic attraction.

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Referenced in This Episode

• GLAAD – BiWeek: Celebrate Bisexuality+ (history, global expansion of Bi Visibility Week)  

• Human Rights Campaign – Health Disparities Among Bisexual People  

• L.A. LGBT Center – Celebrating Bi Visibility Day: Breaking Stereotypes & Embracing Diversity  

• Bisexual Health Awareness Month: Mental Health in the Bisexual Community – HRC  

Michael Mack opens up about the barriers of his limitations as a bisexual black man. This story explores the standardized scoring of black masculinity along with the religious conflict of being a bisexual man of God.

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T. Bennet opens up about the hidden fears of living as a bisexual black man. In this story, T overcomes the shadows of his insecurities with the realization that he doesn’t owe an explanation to anyone.

Eclectic Kel shares his story on origins and bisexual experiences as a young black boy that sparked sexual and gender curiosity as he grew into his identity as a man.

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Bicurious is the term used for someone who typically has sexual relations with one gender, but is curious about sexually experiencing someone of a different sex or gender. Often, the term is used for people who identify as heterosexual and are curious about exploring a same-sex relationship or sexual experience.//////About K Smith:K Smith is a successful Restaurant owner, Creative Director, Spoken Word Artist, & Father. You can find him on Instagram @KSmithCLE and on TikTok @KSmithCL3. Check out his digital restaurant: For Your Fries Only, on any delivery app! //////About Bi+ Black Men: Bi+ Black Men is an organization that builds affirming spaces for bisexual and sexually fluid black men to exist, express themselves, and become educated on the issues within our community. For more information on Bi+ Black Men, including community resources, please visit our website at bisexualblackmen.com and on Instagram at bisexualblackmen.

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