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Hey babe. Welcome back to Big Girl Thoughts.
This one is special: my daughter Brooklynn is home visiting from her first month of college, and we recorded in our pajamas because it felt right. She's a freshman at Highlands College in Birmingham, and watching her step into her calling at 18 has wrecked me in the best way.
We go back to the beginning: the lawyer dream she picked up from watching Suits, the mission trip to Africa with her dad that changed everything, and the gap-year YWAM plan she held onto until one campus visit undid it. She cried through chapel on Discovery Day. A year before that, I stepped onto the same campus on a work trip, called her from the sidewalk, and said this needs to go on your list. Neither of us knew.
Then we get honest about friendship. Brooklynn spent high school as the girl who knew everyone and had almost no one, and she talks about what changed when her friendships became equally yoked: loyalty reads different, love reads different, and two days into college she found herself praying for a kid in the middle of a Chipotle. She tells the story of the pedicure, the prompting to bring her wallet inside, and the $100 bill she didn't know she had: "It's not for me. The Holy Spirit told me to give it to you."
And she hands us the line I'm still chewing on. She learned it through closed doors, lost friends, and one missed highway exit that turned into her favorite place in Birmingham: sometimes God gives you clarity through rejection instead of acceptance. Rejection is just redirection.
If you have a daughter, send her this one. Then watch it yourself.
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Episode #11 is for the woman who has, or had, a dream that God changed a little bit. I sat down with my friend Andrea: mom of four, wife, prayer warrior, and the girl next door everyone should get to have. And here's the thing we only recently discovered about each other — we both carried the same dream of being an actress.
Andrea's version starts in a salon chair. She became a hairdresser out of school, did her future husband's hair for three years, and kept telling her agent "I'm not available" while the calls kept coming. When she finally told Jason she had to go to LA, he said no — and years later she can see the Lord was using that no to protect her. Then came the sign she asked for: an audition for Terrence Malick's The Tree of Life with Brad Pitt. She told Jason, "If I get this, I'm quitting hair and pursuing acting." She got it.
The bigger story is what happened two years into her marriage: a towel in the backyard, an open Bible, and the day the Holy Spirit washed over her. The trees looked alive. She was, in her words, high on Jesus — and she'll tell you He can take you higher than any drug. We follow that thread all the way to an ordinary Tuesday when she asked, "Lord, what do you want to do today?", heard "go to the kids' school, someone needs prayer," and ended the afternoon watching a seventh grader named Gavin put down his crutches in the pickup line.
Her dream isn't dead. It's surrendered — and as I say at the end, surrendering your dream isn't losing it. It's putting it in the hands of the One who really has it for you.
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For episode #10, I sat down with my dear friend Natalie, the sister I never had. Our families do monthly dinners where we are the loudest table in the restaurant, and she mentors my daughter, so this one is personal.
At 14, Natalie closed her eyes at a youth conference and saw herself on the streets of Africa next to a lady with short blonde hair. She spent the next four years telling God he had a blank check. At 17 she walked into a travel clinic and asked for shots to "wherever, just get me ready." Then she heard Heidi Baker speak, recognized the woman from her vision, and three weeks later she was on a plane to Mozambique, a country she couldn't yet find on a map. She went on to build micro-lending and savings groups in Ugandan villages, sit with people the world forgot in the bush and the Amazon, and walk into an MS-13 prison yard because God said go.
Then there's the love story. At 25 she told a girlfriend she had the strangest feeling she was about to meet her husband. That weekend Scotty saw her at church. One five-and-a-half-hour coffee date later he told her, "I live in Sweden and you're here, but I know you're worth it." Six weeks in, she flew to Stockholm. Date five was a day trip to Paris. Today they're raising three littles and running Waymaker Mortgage together in Texas.
We also get honest about the spirit of fear, the scripture that breaks it, and mothering from surrender instead of control. Natalie's big girl thought says it all: you have to be a little crazy to follow God, but you're really crazy not to.
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CONTENT NOTE: This conversation includes a high-risk twin pregnancy, a diagnosis that came with a recommendation to end the pregnancy, fetal surgery, and time in the NICU. It's a story with a joyful outcome, but it may be tender if you've walked a hard pregnancy. Take care as you listen.
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For episode #09, I sat down with my friend Melissa, the girlfriend you call when you're panicked and need someone to pray. She is a prayer warrior, and she has a story I had never fully heard until we hit record.
Melissa and her husband John had life mapped out. Careers, a first son, a dream house, every box checked. Then a routine ultrasound showed twins, and minutes later, a rare and dangerous diagnosis: twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome. At Cincinnati Children's, doctors laid out two options, an experimental laser surgery or ending the pregnancy. Melissa and John, who had walked away from church years before, chose their girls.
What happened next is the whole story. A younger couple next door who quietly showed them Jesus. A church that brought dinner every other night for five months while John lost his income. A first, fumbling prayer in a hospital room the night before surgery. Months of bed rest that taught a lifelong planner to surrender. And two baby girls, Sydney and Alexis, who just turned 18.
Melissa's big girl thought: doctors can hand you a diagnosis, but God has the final say. Grab your water (Melissa is the one person we know who drinks only water) and settle in.
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CONTENT NOTE: This conversation includes discussion of childhood verbal, physical, and sexual abuse, and the loss of a loved one. Please listen with care. Support is available any time through RAINN at 1-800-656-4673 or online.rainn.org.
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For episode #08, I sat down with my friend Kat, and I need to brag on her for a minute. She is the friend who calls you right back, the one you can tell anything. She is also one of the bravest women I know.
Kat grew up in a house on a hill in Colorado that looked shiny and perfect from the outside. Inside was a different story: abuse that was verbal, physical, and sexual, a mom who couldn't be present, and a childhood she assumed was normal because it was all she knew. Her sisters were taken by the courts when she was in fifth grade. Years later she lost her brother, her best friend and her steadiest constant, far too soon.
She married young and poured everything into building the perfect family she never had. The turning point came in a shower, home from spreading her brother's ashes, when she heard God say what she already knew: he is never going to change. She left. She had her fourth baby with worship music playing and more peace than that moment should have held. Then she started over.
Today Kat will tell you the enemy is a liar, that your worth is not up for debate, and that you can do hard things, but only through Him. Grab your coffee. This one is tender, and it is worth every minute.
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For episode #07, I sat down with Kristen, and I left our very first coffee thinking she was the most resilient woman I had ever met. Kristen was born without part of her right arm, and she will be the first to tell you it is just normal. She grew up playing varsity tennis (and winning the "most inspirational" award every single year), surfing the California coast, and figuring out how to tie her shoes before her big sister did. Today she is an executive pastry chef who builds jaw-dropping wedding cakes, up to fifteen in a single week, single-handedly. Her words, not mine.
Then came the line that stopped me cold: "I don't identify as disabled. I identify as a child of God." Kristen carries deep faith and the best sense of humor you will hear all week (wait for the Bethany Hamilton story). If you have ever felt stuck or overwhelmed, her mantra is for you. Just start. The momentum will build.
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Victoria is a coach, a fierce prayer warrior, and one of Ashleigh's dearest friends. Indiana farm girl turned Austin homeowner, she works in learning and development and pours into women wherever she goes. Adopted twice, healed on purpose, and standing on 1 Samuel 16:7: people see the outside, but God sees the heart.
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For episode #05, I sat down with my sweet friend Raven. Twelve days before her wedding, with the dress altered and the flights booked, she sat across a brunch table and said "I can't marry you." God had been sending her the same message through stranger after stranger, and she finally listened. Three months after the breakup, she met Enrique over a pan of dirty rice at a church potluck. They married in February 2024 and found out they were pregnant soon after. A gentle heads-up: we talk about pregnancy loss in this one. In her second trimester, Raven went into labor and they lost their baby boy, Judah.
Raven tells the whole story with more hope than I could have imagined. If you have walked through loss of any kind, she wants you to know two things. You are allowed to grieve. And your pain is not permanent.
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For episode #04, I sat down with Jenessa Wait. You probably know her shop — the posters, the trucker hats, the "He still does miracles" line. What you may not know is that the whole thing started with a Canadian girl waiting on a green card, a friend's iPhone, and a still small voice that said "You could do this too." She picked up a ballpoint pen. Eleven years later, there's a seven-figure company, a warehouse, seven employees, and a book she wrote for postpartum mamas called A Heart So Full. If you have ever felt the nudge and let fear talk you out of it, this one is for you. Jenessa came on to tell you not to bow to it.
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Jenessa Wait is the founder of shop.jenessawait.com, the Christian home-goods and apparel company behind the "He still does miracles" hat and a whole lot of posters that end up in nurseries. Canadian by birth, Austin by call, wife to Sean, mama to two with one on the way, and a former young-adult pastor who still pastors anyone who buys a hat.
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Big Girl Thoughts is where real women bring real talk—full of laughs, tears, and faith that keeps us going. Hosted by Ashleigh, this podcast shares the messy, beautiful, and hilarious parts of life…