If you were raised to be the good girl - the helpful one, the reliable one, the one who holds everything together - this episode is for you.

Today we're getting into why over-giving isn't the same as being generous, the difference between being nice and being self-abandoning, and the practical tips on setting clean boundaries without blowing up your relationships. 

Links:

• Too Much by Terri Cole
• Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown
• Boundary Boss Scripts by Terri Cole

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Before you press play... this isn't another episode about motivation!!! Self-sabotage isn't laziness, it isn't a character flaw, and you can't think your way out of it.

It's taken me awhile to learn that self sabotage is the result of something called 'conflicting desires': a clashing between who you consciously want to become and what your subconscious currently believes is safe. Today we're getting into why we are so often our own worst enemy, four sneaky ways we get in our own way, and the concrete steps to start changing those patterns so we can live our best life... without toxic positivity or impractical mansplaining :)

Links:

The Mountain is You by Brianna Wiest

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

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• Danielle on Instagram

If you identify as a lazy perfectionist too, you're in the right place - because perfectionism always gets talked about like it's a discipline problem: just lock in, push through, stop overthinking, literally just do things! 

But if that advice worked... you'd have done the thing already.

The reality is: you're not lazy or undisciplined, your passions are just triggering your nervous system! And your brain is just doing its best to protect you from being disappointed - so the only way you're going to be able to start doing the things you're afraid of is to work with your subconscious instead of trying to fight it all the time - because the fact that you procrastinate is just proof you actually care x

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• BSD on Substack
• Danielle on Instagram

If you've ever said yes when you meant no, changed yourself to match the room, or realised you don't actually know what you like anymore... this one's for you.

I spent wayyy too long trusting other people's opinions more than my own. For years, I stayed in a relationship where I had to constantly tip-toe around his moods. I ran myself ragged trying to please everyone around me, and I let pieces of myself be chipped away until I didn't even know who I was anymore. 

So today we're covering the subtle signs of people pleasing, the psychology behind why we let it happen, and four practical ways to start taking your power back and reminding yourself who tf you are x

Links: Untamed by Glennon Doyle

♡ more links! 

• BSD on Instagram
• BSD on Substack
• Danielle on Instagram