Birds and Bees Podcast

On B&BP we talk a lot about teaching your children about sexual health but what if your child is on the autism spectrum? This can bring many new questions to the table. Tara Pennington and I hope to shed some light on autism and sexuality. While we can't cover it all in an hour (or many hours at that) we wanted to start here. I met with Tara Pennington who has been working with individuals who have been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) for over 15 years. We're here to talk about autism and sexuality, a topic that can be hard to speak about for many parents. We're glad you're joining us. Tara and I explore some of the issues that arise when we think of sexual health and Autism. Tara give some helpful tips on parenting a child on the spectrum with ways to interact and support your child. We explore sexual topics that usually create an uncomfortable feeling for parents and we explore resources for parents. Listen on Spotify, iTunes, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, and YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcXBM6GS-Pfk9CB6ctmvLLg Resources Autism Council of Utah https://autismcouncilofutah.org Autism Speaks https://www.autismspeaks.org Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/birds-and-bees-podcast/id1201131540?mt=2 Leave a Stitcher Review https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/braxton-dutson/birds-and-bees-podcast Birds and Bees Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/birdsandbeespodcast Listen from our webpage Birdsandbeespodcast.com

Have you been to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit for a baby? Do you know someone who's there right now with their child or has been there with their baby? chances are it was a scary situation, unplanned, and difficult to understand what was happening. Devin and Cami found themselves in this situations on a couple of occasions. Interestingly enough Devin is a therapist and Cami works for a hospital who provides services to the NICU. They are sharing their story with us today and the insights they feel other parents need to know if their baby needs to stay in the NICU. Cami and Devin explore the emotional, mental, and physical stressors they experienced, what to expect in the NICU postpartum, methods they used to seek closure, and advice they would give to any parent going through this scary situation.

Braxton Dutson sits down with Lennie Knowlton, CMHC to discuss shame and how it affects everybody. They explore what you don't know about how shame and trauma affect the body, how the body is made to respond, why your therapy may be working against your natural instincts and what you can do to start changing your shame cycle. Read the Entire script at birdsandbeespodcast.com Lennie speaks to these specific topics find them around around 5 minutes after the set timestamp. 00:04:35 NEUROBIOLOGY 00:07:27 TRAUMA MAKES OUR BRAINS UNWILLING TO BE VULNERABLE 00:12:28 DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SHAME AND GUILT 00:33:47 THE IMORTANCE OF MINDFULNESS TO ADDRESS DISTRESS 00:35:21 PROTECTING CHILDREN FROM SHAME BY ADDRESSING PARENTAL SHAME. 00:41:20 CONNECTION IS THE ANTIDOTE TO SHAME 00:51:53 HOW DO WE EMPATHIZE WITH OURSELVES 01:00:34 EXCLUSION IS A SHAME TRIGGER "YOU'RE ENOUGH IF" Resources from the show: Find these on our website in the notes of this episode. We will have links to these resources. Dan Siegel "Brain Storm" book Yohan Hari Brene Brown "The Daring Way" book Kristin Neff (The Art of Self-Compassion) Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/birds-and-bees-podcast/id1201131540?mt=2 Leave a Stitcher Review https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/braxton-dutson/birds-and-bees-podcast Birds and Bees Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/birdsandbeespodcast Listen from our webpage Birdsandbeespodcast.com

We often see Manipulation in only a negative light. However, in this episode we identify ways you can use manipulation to benefit your relationship, improve your win/win situations with your children, and get what you want without causing damage. It takes a lot of self-awareness and empathy to be responsible with your words while realizing what they could do in your relationship down the road. Braxton and Peter talk about manipulation parents use on each other, teens, and children as well as what manipulation children use on parents. We also cover how to address them so real communication can occur. See below for main topics we discuss and where they can be found in the show (maybe add 5 minutes to each because the introduction is taken out\. See bolded sections in transcript to read on the topic or skip to the approximate time in the recording) OUR BRAINS CANT HOLD TWO THINGS AT ONCE. 09:34 FLOODING AND REPETITION MANIPULATION 12:53 RADICAL EMPATHY 17:17 RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN TEENAGERS AND PARENTS 23:43 HOW TRIANGULATION WORKS and HOW TO DEFUSE IT 27:40 CONSENT 37:32 THIS IS NOT MEANT TO SHAME YOU 48:23 THE WOMAN IN THE RED DRESS, PLAYING INTO THE PATTERN 53:37 Resources from the show: Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/birds-and-bees-podcast/id1201131540?mt=2 Leave a Stitcher Review https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/braxton-dutson/birds-and-bees-podcast Birds and Bees Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/birdsandbeespodcast Listen from our webpage Birdsandbeespodcast.com

How would you like to know when you're being manipulated? Have you ever felt like you were manipulated in a relationship? Chances are you, and everyone else you know has felt manipulated at one time or another. What if I were to tell you that you're being manipulated right now? Yes, the people you interact with on a daily basis are manipulating you! But wait, there's more. YOU manipulate too! That's right. Humans manipulate each other each and every day whether we realize it or not. In this episode, we talk about forms of manipulation and how to recognize them. Now we often talk about manipulation as a bad/negative thing that only mean people do. While manipulation can be used as a tool for control it can also be a tool used for good in a relationship. Peter Monson was trained as a US army interrogator and works in politics and communications. He has a simple and effective way of identifying how manipulation takes on different forms using Marvel Characters, specifically Spiderman, The Hulk, and Thor. We talk on the show today about what manipulation is damaging in a relationship, and what manipulation techniques can take you from a win/lose situation to a win/win situation which can positively affect your relationship for years to come. Manipulation can be very harmful and damaging (like the Hulk getting the bad guy) and we are not trying to downplay the harm someone can do with manipulation. We are advocating for collaborative manipulation and using methods to improve your relationship with your children, your partner, your wife, your husband, and anyone else you interact with on a daily basis. Do you agree with the signs we point out? Do you think manipulation can ever be a positive thing? Let us know by calling 385-449-1818 or texting us at that number. Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/birds-and-bees-podcast/id1201131540?mt=2 Leave a Stitcher Review https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/braxton-dutson/birds-and-bees-podcast Birds and Bees Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/birdsandbeespodcast Listen from our webpage Birdsandbeespodcast.com

We all go through difficult times in our relationships. But what happens when the challenges take us to our limits? What if this relationships ISN'T meant to be?? These questions were common in Robbert and Kelsey's marriage as big challenges started just a month after being married. We cover what difficulties they experienced that continued to threaten their marriage such as pornography, bankruptcy, emotional disconnection, emotional abuse, unwanted pregnancy, postpartum depression, and others. They walk us through the way their marriage was reduced to ashes and the changes they took for their relationship Phoenix to emerge. While many relationships face challenges that can be overcome. This episode is not meant to guilt, force, or coerce anyone who feels they need to leave a relationship, to stay. This is one couple's experience on their journey of intimacy. If you are in an unsafe relationship, or otherwise looking to end your relationship please seek professional support and safety. This episode is neither meant to diagnose offer advice or treat difficulties in relationships. Thank you for listening, we would love to hear what you experienced listening to the episode. leave us a review or contact us at 3854491818. Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/birds-and-bees-podcast/id1201131540?mt=2 Leave a Stitcher Review https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/braxton-dutson/birds-and-bees-podcast Birds and Bees Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/birdsandbeespodcast Listen from our webpage Birdsandbeespodcast.com

Teen pregnancy has been decreasing in recent years and there are other challenges that face our teens besides the risk of pregnancy. Kim Cavill is a sex educator and teen pregnancy prevention speciallist who has been teaching high school students about sexual health in Austrailia and the USA for years! How many teens are sexually active, how can you help your child wait to be sexually active, how to connect with your child if they are sexually active, and how to reduce risks teenagers are faced with. She talks about the 4 main issues that affect teen pregnancy rates, the problem with rising STI/STD rates, HPV vaccinations and their connection to cancers, and how to support teens in creating/following their personal sexualµ health goals and boundaries. What does it mean if your teen is pregnant? What do you do next? is their future ruined? Kim covers these questions and topics in this interview. There is a lot to consider when working with teens and sex is no exception. Resources for the show. Following the Evidence to Reduce Unplanned Pregnancy http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0002716218770684?journalCode=anna& Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/birds-and-bees-podcast/id1201131540?mt=2 Leave a Stitcher Review https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/braxton-dutson/birds-and-bees-podcast Birds and Bees Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/birdsandbeespodcast Listen from our webpage Birdsandbeespodcast.com

Braxton meets with Dr. Jenn from Dr Jenn's Den She is a sex therapist, presenter, and mindfulness expert. She is on the show today to explore just how important mindfulness is when it comes to sex. Dr Jenn covers what mindfulness is, how it's different than meditation, how to use it when sexual drive is not where you want it to be, and many other ways mindfulness can increase your sexual expeirences. Dr. Jenn discusses her upcoming book "from Maddness to Mindfulness" and places you can go to improve your mindfulness in sexuality. Here are some of the resources discussed in the show http://www.drjennsden.com/ https://www.sexcoachu.com/ http://www.drjennsden.com/mindfulnessresources/ birdsandbeespodcast.com

Reva Cook speaks with Braxton about making peace with your body. She explores the research of accepting your body right now. It can be difficult to wrap our brains around body acceptance without the thought of future change. Buckle up Hive-Mates Reva is about to challenge your brain, beliefs, and actions for the better. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. You can find all of these and more at Birdsandbeespodcast.com

Braxton worked on a collaborative podcast with Digital Adventure Crew. Their YouTube channel creates fun videos with crazy skits as well as interesting conversations on their podcast "digital adventure radio." They were interested in talking to Braxton about "The Talk" how he became a therapist and about the upcoming world record mustard drinking event that Braxton is putting on. This interview is interesting because they are interviewing Braxton about his start, how he got to be a therapist, how he knows the DAC, and why he is attempting to drink over 18 ounces of mustard in under 30 seconds for the world record. The coolest part of this episode is you can watch Braxton and the crew making this podcast if you search Digital Adventure radio on YouTube and look for the birds and bees podcast collaboration. You get to see all the reactions, and the interview! Head on over and check out the video of this recording. Let me know what you think of the collaborations and the "candid conversations" segments of Bird and Bees Podcast. I am excited to bring you more content like this in the future. References Digital Adventure Crew https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWCNvi1oYa_rzlHKqNZ5mBw Digital Adventure Radio with Birds and Bees Podcast https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iUKJbkZorAA DAC Mustard Chug skit with Birds and Bees Podcast https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t0rKlNkp6Dk birdsandbeespodcast.com