In today’s episode I welcomed my long-time bestie, Bouchra Nafi-Krause, to the podcast. You'll feel our natural friendship chemistry throughout but also hear of so many insights into the common and often shared realities of motherhood. From things like feeling like you’ve prepared but realizing otherwise to having extreme worries and fears in postpartum and eventually making peace with things after baby #2. Bouchra is not only my friend but also one of the most selfless people I’ve ever met. She makes an outstanding mama to her two girls, Leena and Layla and gives everything she does 120%, from her family and friendships to her career (and she could use some reminders to REST) ;)
How everything changes in a moment (birth)
Things get easier but the 'hard' keeps changing
Thought PP would be easy
All the things she did to prepare "left her mind" once baby arrived
Back labor and getting the epidural
Second degree tear with 1st and 2nd birth
Extreme relief and exhaustion after 1st birth
Adventurous/spontaneous heart went away immediately
Not wanting to leave the hospital
Definite PPA but not really aware of it as such
Driving yourself crazy with being perfect about everything
Being isolated in PP with 1st due to COVID
Not able to rest (cooking and cleaning all the time)
Moving with a newborn and moving with a toddler while pregnant
Feeling like you're not allowed to fail at anything
Trying to give both work and motherhood 120%
Able to be more present with 2nd
Choosing your battles and making peace with decisions
At almost 6 months PP with 2nd who still doesn't sleep through the night
Would love a boy but needs a village to be willing to have a 3rd baby
Coming from a traditional Moroccan family of 6 sisters
Breastfeeding and formula feeding BOUCHRA'S TIPS AND RESOURCES:
Join local mom groups on Facebook to make connections
What to Expect When Expecting app
Meal Trains for Postpartum (start one for yourself or a loved one here)