In today's podcast, I shared about another red flag in a narcissistic relationship.
This is day 44 of the childhood trauma and narc. abuse series.
I wanted to share with you, another excerpt from the book, Broken Child, Broken Adult.
That is…
Another sign that your partner is a narcissist.
When you are married to, or dating someone who is a religious (let me add hypocrite), someone appears better than others, but isn’t actually righteous.
Especially when you know how this person actually is, since you live together, do not be fooled to thinking that partner has changed, or is becoming a better person. You can't tell what exactly is on another's mind!
One thing narcs. are good at, is the abilit to switch personalities to achieve their aim. They are like chameleons (Oga, in Yoruba language).
But once they achieve their aim, or fulfil a need, they will return to their actual nature.
Two scenerios from my relationship with my ex-husband.
When we were together, I knew his idea of religion was hypocritical. When we had conversations about religion, he would criticize certain tenets of religion and even some religious leaders, but when he needed to weaponize religion, he would go back to quoting those same tenets, scriptures or even religious thought leaders. How ironical?
That’s why many pastors, imams, popes, etc are narcs., they know how well to cover their tracks and you will never be able to tell because people generally believe what they are told. (According to Truth Default Theory (TDT)).
Narcs. are religious hypocrites, and they play the religious doubleganger (a doubleganger is a two-sided personality) so well!
That is why you need a mind of your own!
2. I will share another scenerio from my book, How to Kill Your Spouse. On page 78, I talked about how he would weaponize religion when talking about my hair, and was also the one who would praise those girls whom he was discouraging me fron getting close to by quoting scriptures.
Now let me analyze this; his gain by keeping me under his control, was to ensure that I become unattractive to other men. So no one would have what he was deceitfully enjoying.
However, he also found those other women who had the kind of hairstyles he would disapprove of, useful for his sexual escapades.
So religion is a weapon for serving personal gains for a narc.
# As you reflect on this, think about yourself and your significant other. Who is the narc.? Being a narc. isn’t the problem, remaining one is…
# Make a note in your journal, think about past memories, events or situations when your partner acted in a spiritually controversial way, and would still try to be a Saint at the same time.
#Think about about everything. Write as much as you can remember.
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