In this episode, we're joined by Francesco Fonte, MMA and Jiu-Jitsu head coach from Sportschule Next Level in Germany! Francesco explores the idea of Jiu-Jitsu as a team sport. He explains how fostering a relaxed, playful training environment not only builds community but also accelerates learning by encouraging experimentation and removing the fear of mistakes. Drawing on his experiences organizing camps and running a diverse gym, Francesco highlights the value of humor, inside jokes, and a “third place” culture where people feel at home on the mats. Together, they discuss how hobbyists and competitors alike can thrive in inclusive gyms that prioritize connection over competition.

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https://www.instagram.com/francescofonte76


Mental models discussed in this episode:

• Gamification
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/gamification/
  
  
• Keep it Playful
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/keep-it-playful/
  
  
• Self-Competiton
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/self-competition/
  
  
  

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In this week's mini-episode we discuss how the map is not the territory, a foundational concept for working with mental models and other abstractions. The key lesson: no "map" is a 100% accurate reflection of the territory it describes. Similarly, no Jiu-Jitsu "concept" is 100% applicable all the time...including this one!

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In this episode of BJJ Mental Models, Steve Kwan welcomes back Sonia Sillan from Combat Arts Academy to explore the concept of the “awkward turtles:” the introverted, unsure, or atypical students who often feel like outsiders in Jiu-Jitsu. Sonya unpacks how gym culture, coaching priorities, and interpersonal communication affect whether these students feel welcome or alienated. Together, they discuss how creating an inclusive, empathetic training environment isn’t just good for business; it’s essential for building resilient practitioners and a healthy mat culture. This conversation offers a roadmap for coaches and students alike to rethink how they engage with the most vulnerable members of their gym.

Follow Sonia on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/soniasillan

Train with Sonia at Combat Arts Academy in Seattle:
https://caaseattle.com/


Mental models discussed in this episode:

• Jita Kyoei
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/jita-kyoei/
  
  
• Compatible Intent
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/compatible-intent/
  
  
• Controlled Breathing
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/controlled-breathing/
  
  
• Staying Loose
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/staying-loose/
  
  
• Escalation of Commitment
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/escalation-of-commitment/
  
  
• The Golden Rule
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/golden-rule/
  
  
  

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In this week's mini-episode we discuss the importance of controlled breathing when sparring. Managing your breath effectively creates a positive ripple effect in your Jiu-Jitsu performance by reducing anxiety, avoiding adrenaline dumping, and concealing your emotional state from your opponent.

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

Mini Ep. 55: Staying Loose
https://podcast.bjjmentalmodels.com/243161/episodes/17206785-mini-ep-55-staying-loose


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This week we're joined by Brennan Strimple! Brennan is the black belt head coach at RPMA (Rochester Phoenix Martial Arts). In this episode, Brennan shares his playbook for building a thriving kids' Jiu-Jitsu program, as well as leading the development of affordable kids' tournament circuits in the local community.

Follow RPMA on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/rphxma

Train at RPMA in Rochester, NY:
https://rochesterjiujitsu.com/


Mental models discussed in this episode:

• Abundance Mindset
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/abundance-mindset/
  
  
• Keep it Playful
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/keep-it-playful/
  
  
• Investing in Loss
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/investing-in-loss/
  
  
• Resulting Fallacy
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/resulting/
  
  
  

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In this week's mini-episode we discuss the importance of staying loose when sparring. Being relaxed makes it easier to conserve energy, avoid being controlled, and conceal your intentions. There are times to be tense, such as when completing a throw or finishing a submission, but your "default mode" should be staying loose.

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This week we're joined by Timothy Lee Peterson! In this episode, Timothy explains why gaze tracking — or where your eyes are looking — is a surprisingly important aspect of Jiu-Jitsu.

Follow Timothy on social media:
https://www.instagram.com/timothyleepeterson
https://www.threads.com/@timothyleepeterson


Resources discussed in this episode:

Free+Style: Maximize Sport and Life Performance with Four Basic Movements, by Carl Paoli
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1628600209


Mental models discussed in this episode:

• Theory of Alignment
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/theory-of-alignment/
  
  
• Head Position
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/head-position/
  
  
• Kuzushi
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/kuzushi/
  
  
• You Are What You Train
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/you-are-what-you-train/
  
  
• Teach to Learn
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/teach-to-learn/
  
  
  

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In this week's mini-episode we discuss controlling the distance, a key lesson in most martial arts, including Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. As general advice, many instructors  will coach you to close the distance when attacking and make space when defending. While this is often true, in this mini-episode we'll explore the exceptions to that rule and settle on a more general guideline for controlling the distance: find the distance where you can control them but they can't control you.

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This week we're joined again by Charles Harriott! In this episode, Charles discusses the problem of "gatekeepers" in Jiu-Jitsu, or people who try to enforce their way of thinking over others.  Charles explores how gatekeeping can shut down creativity, personal development, and fun.

Follow Charles on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/charlesharriott

Charles Harriott's website:
https://charlesharriott.com/

Get Charles' instructionals on BJJ Fanatics:
https://bjjfanatics.com/collections/dvd/fighter_charles-harriott

Subscribe to Charles' YouTube channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjQfov7RyQ5fn3TLfqSmezQ

Support Charles on Patreon:
https://www.patreon.com/charlesharriott


Mental models discussed in this episode:

• Do What Works
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/do-what-works/
  
  
• Shuhari
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/shuhari/
  
  
• Concepts Over Techniques
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/concepts-over-techniques/
  
  
• Ecological Dynamics
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/ecological-dynamics/
  
  
• Keep it Playful
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/keep-it-playful/
  
  
  

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In this week's mini-episode we discuss kuzushi, the Japanese concept of breaking balance! Kuzushi is critical in Judo, but it's just as important in Jiu-Jitsu — both standing and on the ground.

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Resources discussed in this episode:

Mini Ep. 51: Technique Chaining
https://podcast.bjjmentalmodels.com/243161/episodes/17035097-mini-ep-51-technique-chaining

Mini Ep. 52: Shifting Platforms
https://podcast.bjjmentalmodels.com/243161/episodes/17077049-mini-ep-52-shifting-platforms


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