WE ADMITTED WE WERE POWERLESS OVER ALCOHOL - THAT OUR LIVES HAD BECOME UNMANAGEABLE.

1. Every “natural” instinct cries out against the idea of personal powerlessness (defects of the thinking mind.)
2. We perceive that only through utter defeat are we able to take our first step toward liberation and strength (making the admission we are unmanageable by us.)
3. Until we humble ourselves (accept the devastating weakness and all its consequences), our sobriety, if any, will be precarious.
4. The Principle: We shall find no enduring strength until we first admit complete defeat (that probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism.)
5. We are victims of a mental obsession - thinking (drinking is only a symptom) so subtly powerful that no amount of human will power could break it.
6. By going back in our own drinking histories, we could show that years before we realized it, we were out of control, that our drinking even then was no mere habit, that it was indeed the beginning of a fatal progression.
7. Few people will sincerely try to practice the AA program until they have hit their bottom through utter defeat.
8. In order to practice AA’s remaining eleven steps WE MUST ADOPT NEW ATTITUDES AND TAKE NEW ACTIONS.
9. We must become as open minded to conviction and as willing to listen as the dying can be.

The A.A. Home Group
Traditionally, most A.A. members through the years
have found it important to belong to one group which
they call their "Home Group." This is the group where
they accept service responsibilities and try to sustain
friendships. And although all A.A. members are
usually welcome at all groups and feel at home at any
of these meetings, the concept of the "Home Group"
has still remained the strongest bond between the A.A.
member and the Fellowship. sur

Heroin Anonymous is a non-profit fellowship of men and women who have found a solution to heroin addiction. HA is a fellowship of complete abstinence from all drugs and alcohol. We are recovered heroin addicts who meet regularly to help each other stay sober. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop suffering from heroin addiction. There are no dues or fees for HA membership. HA is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy and neither endorses nor opposes any causes. Our primary purpose is to stay sober and help other heroin addicts to achieve sobriety.

re·la·tion·ship
rəˈlāSH(ə)nˌSHip/
noun
the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected.
"the study will assess the relationship between unemployment and political attitudes"
synonyms:connection, relation, association, link, correlation, correspondence, parallel, alliance, bond, interrelation, interconnection
"the relationship between diet and diabetes"
the state of being connected by blood or marriage.
"they can trace their relationship to a common ancestor"
synonyms:family ties, family connections, blood ties, blood relationship, kinship, affinity, consanguinity, common ancestry, common lineage
"evidence of their relationship to Buffalo Bill Cody"
the way in which two or more people or organizations regard and behave toward each other.
"the landlord–tenant relationship"

Conceal, don't feel,
don't let them know
Well now they know
Let it go, let it go
Can't hold it back anymore

noun
1. a malicious, usually petty, desire to harm, annoy, frustrate, or humiliate another person; bitter ill will; malice.
2. a particular instance of such an attitude or action; grudge.
3. Obsolete. something that causes vexation; annoyance.
verb (used with object), spited, spiting.
4. to treat with spite or malice.
5. to annoy or thwart, out of spite.
6. to fill with spite; vex; offend.
Idioms
7. cut off one's nose to spite one's face. nose (def 23).
8. in spite of, in disregard or defiance of; notwithstanding; despite:

the original title of the show was: Don't be a dick in 12-step groups or even in AA... however upon deliberation and deciding that this episode was really really important for YOUR recovery... I made the episode title a bit more sanitized

Then we have the voices who cry for sex and more sex; who bewail the institution of marriage; who think that most of the troubles of the race are traceable to sex causes. They think we do not have enough of it, or that it isn't the right kind. They see its significance everywhere. One school would allow man no flavor for his fare and the other would have us all on a straight pepper diet. We want to stay out of this controversy. We do not want to be the arbiter of anyone's sex conduct. We all have sex problems. We'd hardly be human if we didn't. What can we do about them?

We reviewed our own conduct over the years past. Where had we been selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate? Whom had we hurt? Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion or bitterness? Where were we at fault, what should we have done instead? We got this all down on paper and looked at it.

In this way we tried to shape a sane and sound ideal for our future sex life. We subjected each relation to this test - was it selfish or not? We asked God to mold our ideals and help us to live up to them. We remembered always that our sex powers were God-given and therefore good, neither to be used lightly or selfishly nor to be despised and loathed.

Whatever our ideal turns out to be, we must be willing to grow toward it. We must be willing to make amends where we have done harm, provided that we do not bring about still more harm in so doing. In other words, we treat sex as we would any other problem. In meditation, we ask God what we should do about each specific matter. The right answer will come, if we want it.

God alone can judge our sex situation

noun, plural honesties.
1.
the quality or fact of being honest; uprightness and fairness.
2.
truthfulness, sincerity, or frankness.
3.
freedom from deceit or fraud.
4.
Botany. a plant, Lunaria annua, of the mustard family, having clusters of purple flowers and semitransparent, satiny pods.
5.
Obsolete. chastity.

Doing a fearless and thorough inventory of your life will not be easy. When we say fearless, we do not mean you will have no feelings of fear. You will likely experience many emotions as you survey your life, including embarrassment or shame or fear. Fearless means you will not let your fears stop you from being thorough in the inventory process. In step 4, it means you commit to rigorous honesty as you focus on events in your life, including your own weaknesses, and not on anyone else’s weaknesses.