Black Women Get to Be

The BWGTB podcast honors all the ways that Black women are learning, doing, and being. This is a safe space where Black women get to share their truths, embrace coloring outside the lines, and show up as their most authentic selves.

🎧 Inside this Episode

In this episode, host Qubilah Huddleston unpacks the stereotypes society weaponizes against Black women to keep us small—and explore what it means to reject them. By the end, you’ll feel empowered to be who you want to be and live life on your own terms.

You’ll hear reflections on:

* Three prevailing stereotypes and the harm they cause us

* Why we must reject the boxes society tries to force us into, and how to do it

* How to swap performing for being authentically you

Grab some tea, something to write with, and jump right in to this episode!

Ways to Support BWGTB

* Subscribe to the podcast!

* Subscribe to the BWGTB Substack newsletter!

* Follow BWGTB on Instagram @blackwomengettobe!

* Show Qubilah appreciation via a cup of tea!

What if you could let go of expectations, and simply be? The Black Women Get to Be Podcast is dedicated to honoring all the ways that Black women are learning, doing, and being. This is a safe space where Black women get to share their truths, embrace coloring outside the lines, and show up as their most authentic selves.

🙋🏾‍♀️ Meet Your Host

The BWGTB podcast (and newsletter) was created by Qubilah (pronounced kwa-bee-lah) Huddleston who helps Black women reclaim their time and energy while pursuing their biggest and wildest dreams. Qubilah dreams of a world where more Black women collectively trade in their superwoman or magician capes for rest, connection, and community.

She’s the fiercest advocate for Black women’s well-being and emphatically declares that Black women will mammy and mule no more.

As a recovering perfectionist and high-achiever, Qubilah intimately knows the struggle of trying to live up to societal expectations. With the help of culturally-supportive therapy and a supportive network of friends and colleagues, she has successfully adopted strategies that have helped her and others strive for authenticity and connection over exceptionalism and individualism.

🎧 What To Expect

🎙️ Solo and guest episodes

🎙️ Brief episodes, just long enough to listen to while getting ready for work

🎙️ Actionable steps and practical tools that you can implement

🫶🏾 Ways to Support BWGTB

✨ Subscribe to the podcast and newsletter! Forward them to your besties, too!

✨ Follow BWGTB on Instagram @blackwomengettobe!

✨ Show Qubilah appreciation via a cup of tea!

a stream of consciousness on death, family, dreams, beauty politics, brain rot.

*listen to this on 1.25x or 1.5x to make the listen go a bit faster if you need to 🙂‍↔️

**cause I know some folks like to tussle, I could write/rant about Black love/relationships ad nauseam and unpack and unpack and unpack the topic—covering all the nuances and whatnot. however, at the moment, i’m just sharing my feelings. dassit.

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Soooooo, in true Qubilah fashion, I’ve done something completely out of order. But you know what, I’m making peace with it. I can do what I can do when I can do it, ya know?

Anyway, if you didn’t know, Black Women Get to Be includes a podcast, but I honestly haven’t had the bandwidth to create much of anything. My job zaps a lot of my creative energy, so alas, things have been slow moving. So, there is no official trailer yet. No set schedule. Nada. Just vibes! Jk, but you get where I’m going with this.

Nonetheless, I’m super excited to bring you this special collaboration episode with Theadora of The Mediocre Black Woman. When I first found her Substack, I new we would become internet besties. Next thing I know, we were soon trading DMs and plotting on our first of many collabs.

Despite no official podcast launch, you are in for a treat. In this episode, which we’ll called Episode 00: “Innies, Outties, and Black Women in Severance,” Theadora and I dive into the world of Severance—an Apple TV show about a world in which you can “sever” your work self from your home self. When I first watched this show in 2023 while quarantined in a hotel room at a work retreat (the irony), I was captivated by the show’s premise.

HOWEVER. The way Black characters, particularly Black women, fit and don’t fit into the severance world got me thinking—a lot. Fast forward to 2025—Season 2 drops in January and I was ready to dive all the way in. I waited until about five episodes had dropped (they’re released every Friday), and then binged them all in one night after a long day at work. There’s newness, but also more of the same which is what led Theadora and I to this special episode.

It’s about an hour long, so it’s perfect to listen to while taking a longer drive or doing your Saturday morning cleaning. Or you can listen to it with your headphones while you veg out on the couch. Pick your pleasure!

I truly hope y’all enjoy this one. I would love to hear your hot takes and how you view the Black female characters in the show. Some questions for you to consider as you tune in:

* Do you resonate with the experience of having a work self and a home self?

* If the tech behind the severance process was real, would you consider doing it? Why or why not?

* Are Theadora and I off base with our analysis? What do you (dis)agree with?

**PS: There are some spoilers in this episode, so do your due diligence and watch the show before you get mad at Theadora and I for “ruining" it for you 🌚

**PS+: Please share this video! Comment! Subscribe! And make sure you also subscribe to The Mediocre Black Woman!