I sat down with the intention to do a Sunday Soul Session collective message. And then I laughed… because all day I had already been saying, “I’m not doing soul sessions today.” The call just wasn’t there.

Yesterday’s Libra full moon was gentle for me—peaceful, even. As someone with a Libra full moon in the 7th house, I expected more of a stir. But instead, it was soft. And soft doesn’t always want to produce. Soft wants to rest. So I did.

And even in that rest, the message came through.

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Today’s Sunday Soul Session is not a card pull. It’s this voice note. This check-in. This reminder that you don’t have to force anything to be meaningful. That sometimes honoring your rhythm is the ritual.

So I’m asking you:

Where are you still forcing what no longer fits? Where are you keeping promises to old versions of yourself out of obligation? Where can you release the contract, loosen the grip, and just let it be?

Share this with your bestie and make sure they share it with they bestie too!

I began to shuffle my deck out of habit. But my spirit said nah. So I let it be. And maybe that’s the collective message: Let. It. Be.

Listen to the voice note if you need permission to honor your own shift today. And don’t worry—we’ve got juicy content coming this week, including your Midweek Mantra. But for now, the message is rest. And it’s enough.

xoxo,

Goddess Thea

Hey y’all—happy Wednesdaaaayyyyy 💫 This is your gentle (but firm) midweek reminder to slow the f* down**.

You might think you’re just being productive… pushing through… keeping your word. But sometimes, what you’re actually doing is ignoring the signs. And trust—if you don’t listen, your body will find a way to get your attention.

I had a moment with a friend this week that reminded me just how quickly things can unravel when you’re moving too fast. Your body knows. The universe knows. And sometimes they’ll conspire to sit you all the way down.

So here’s what I want you to do:Take a breath.Check in with yourself.Make a list of what actually has to get done—and what can wait.And please, don’t forget to take care of your body.

You deserve rest. You deserve care. You don’t have to burn out to prove anything.

That’s the message. Love y’all. Talk soon. 💛

Share this with someone who needs to slow the fuck down! Hahaha, you’re welcome.

Good morning, Goddesses. I’m in a good mood this morning and just wanted to drop in with a voice note that might meet you wherever you are. I’ve been taking it moment by moment lately—truly.

In this one, I’m talking about what a lot of us experience when we begin to choose ourselves—for real—and what starts to shift when we do. I had this whole moment thinking about how every time we say “yes” to our healing, our joy, our peace, there’s almost always a test. A distraction. A thing or a person that pops up like, “You sure about this, sis?”

So if you’re in a season of letting go, of trying to hold onto your peace in a world that keeps tempting you to abandon yourself—you’ll probably feel this one. We talk about pruning, ugly cry abs (yes, that’s a thing), tantrums, and why it’s okay to feel sad about the shift and still move forward.

Tap in, leave me a comment, and tell me what’s landing. And if you’re not already tuned into the Sunday Soul Sessions or the Midweek Mantras on Substack, go check those out too—they’re little grounding spots for when you’re feeling wobbly.

Share this with someone who’s been in their own pruning season. Somebody who’s asking, “Am I really about this growth life?” Let them know they’re not alone.

xoxo,

Goddess Thea

Sis, Let me tell you what just happened!

I recorded a full episode for The Mediocre Black Woman.I edited it myself (which I don’t normally do).Wrote the post.Scheduled it.Did all the “right” steps.

And then I sat down to meditate—and clear as day, Spirit said:“Re-record it. Right now. On your phone.”

Now listen… I’m not gonna lie—there was a moment where I felt a little annoyed. Not at Spirit, but at myself. Because honestly, the easier path would’ve been taking some intentional time to sit with myself before jumping into this week’s recording. But even when I don’t fully understand the “why” in the moment, I’ve learned to trust it. And I follow.

So I did. I stayed seated right where I was, opened up my voice memo app, and let it pour out.

What came through was a reminder—not just for me, but for us all:We don’t have to package everything perfectly before we show up.We don’t have to be polished to be powerful.And sometimes the thing you thought was the thing… isn’t.

This week’s episode is raw. It's unedited. It’s not what I “planned.”But it’s real. And it’s aligned.

That moment reminded me—this work was never about putting out something polished for the sake of appearances. It’s always been about truth-telling. And that includes telling the truth in real time, even when it disrupts “your timeline”. That’s the direction The Mediocre Black Woman is moving in: deeper alignment, deeper listening, deeper liberation.

Because if our people had waited for perfection before taking action, we wouldn’t be here. They didn’t have the time—or the privilege—to wait until things looked and felt just right. They moved forward with what they had, where they were, and made a way anyway. That same power lives in us. And I’m choosing to honor it by showing up as I am.

We are not broken.We have never been broken.Our people survived what was meant to erase us—and still, we created families, traditions, joy, and entire lineages.Yes, we carry wounds. But we are whole in our becoming.

And because we are not broken, we get to take full ownership of our healing.That’s the shift we’re leaning into now:From naming what’s harmed us to reclaiming what belongs to us.From surviving systems to liberating ourselves within and beyond them.From doing what’s “ready” to honoring what’s real.

So for the rest of April, The Mediocre Black Woman will be coming to you as voice notes. Not because I’m cutting corners. But because I’m cutting through the noise.This is me modeling what it looks like to follow inner guidance, even after the episode is edited and scheduled. Even after the work is technically “done.”

Behind the scenes, I’m also recording long-form episodes with members of our community—women who are doing the deep work, being honest, taking risks, and sharing stories that deserve space to breathe.

We’re also dropping something special at the end of this week:A meditation + guide to help you navigate the in-between, the reintegration phase, the not-quite-there-but-not-who-I-was space.Because you’re going to reintroduce yourself to yourself more than once.This offering is meant to hold you during those transitions and help you move through them with more softness and grace.

And yes—Sunday Soul Sessions returns this weekend. You already know how much I love them.

I hope you’re resting.I hope you’re being kind to yourself.And I hope, more than anything, that you’re choosing what’s real—even if it’s not what you thought you had to do.

With so much love,Goddess Thea(The Mediocre Black Woman)

Happy Thursday. We made it.And yes — that’s worth a moment of gratitude. Go ahead and kiss the ground if you need to. I did.

If you’ve been following along this week, I’ve been talking about reintegration — that weird, wobbly middle ground where you’ve let go of what no longer serves you, but you haven’t fully stepped into your next version just yet. You’re not who you were, but you’re also not quite who you’re becoming. That space? It’s sacred… and deeply uncomfortable.

But if you read yesterday’s post, here’s something I didn’t say that’s been sitting with me:👉🏾 Reintegration isn’t just about moving forward — it’s about building trust with the new version of yourself.

That version of you isn’t fully formed yet, but she’s real.And sometimes, that trust gets tested right when you’re in the middle of your transformation.You’ll be offered old comforts. Old roles. Old invitations to shrink.

But here’s the thing:The discomfort of stillness is not a signal to go back.It’s a sign that something new is trying to take root — and it needs space.

Today’s voice note is a continuation of that message — but in the language of a friend who slid into your messages with something on her heart.

Because that’s what these are meant to feel like.I started doing these voice notes because that’s what me and my friends do.We check in. We drop truth. We ask the real questions.

So I’m doing that with you today:What would it cost you to stay the same?To backslide?To pretend you didn’t already grow past that version of you?

Let this one be your little pocket-sized nudge to breathe, reflect, and recommit to your becoming.

And before you go… I’d really love to know how it feels when one of my voice notes shows up in your inbox. When I created The Mediocre Black Woman, I was thinking about my real-life friendships — the way we show up for each other, the hard stuff we talk through, the way we hold space. I know not everyone has that kind of circle, so part of this is me offering you a little piece of what it feels like when your bestie drops a voice note just to check in and speak to your spirit.

I didn’t plan to record this episode. But Mercury retrograde and eclipse season don’t give a damn about plans. And honestly? Maybe that’s the point.

This conversation wasn’t “supposed” to happen—but the universe (and the goddesses) had other ideas. And after sitting with it, I realized that was the perfect setup for an episode that’s really about trusting the pivots, letting go of what no longer fits, and allowing yourself to transform—awkward, messy, and all.

I sat down with Tandy Gutierrez, creator of The Magic Spark and my bestie, for a conversation that dove deep into the real shit: the in-between space—when you’re shedding old layers, but the new ones haven’t fully formed yet. When what used to bring you comfort, connection, or pleasure suddenly stops working. When your old coping mechanisms aren’t an option anymore, and you have to figure out who you are without them.

This episode also marks something new for me—I’m sharing, for the first time, my own past struggles with alcohol and the process of letting it go. I’ve talked about transformation before, about shedding old habits and stepping into new versions of myself, but I haven’t shared this part. Not publicly. Not like this. It wasn’t about hitting rock bottom; it wasn’t about shame.

It was about realizing that what once felt like celebration, connection, or even just a normal part of life wasn’t actually serving me anymore. And when I finally stopped, when I stripped away the habit, I had to sit with the real question underneath: Who am I without this? This conversation is raw, unfiltered, and deeply personal, because unlearning old coping mechanisms is one thing—but learning new ways to hold yourself, to find joy, to be present without the numbing? Whew, that’s where the practical and the magical meet.

In this episode, we get into:

🌑 Eclipse season & Mercury retrograde realness—why things feel unstable, overwhelming, or just off.🔥 Lilith & Aphrodite linking arms—what happens when self-trust meets self-indulgence, and why pleasure needs to evolve, too.♈️ Venus retrograde in Aries & the identity shift it’s forcing—why your favorite things might not be bringing you joy, and what to do when you’re craving something else but don’t know what yet.🦋 The skin-shedding process—what it actually looks like when you stop numbing, stop forcing, and start listening to what your body and spirit really need.

This is a raw, unfiltered, and deeply personal conversation about release, reinvention, and stepping into your next version—even when you’re still figuring out what that looks like. If you’re in the thick of transformation, if you’re feeling stuck between what was and what’s next, if you’re sitting in the discomfort of no longer being able to ignore what isn’t working—this one is for you.

Last week, we talked about getting our shit in the mid week mantras post—and we are. We’re working on showing up for ourselves, reclaiming what was ours, and stepping into our power. But here’s the thing: Getting your shit also means knowing when to sit down and rest.

This week, I’ve been quieter—not as many posts, not as many voice notes. And you know why? Because I actually take my own advice from time to time. I’ve been resting. Not because I’m sick, not because something is wrong—just because I needed to.

There was a time when I only let myself rest after my body forced me to. I would run myself into the ground, ignoring all the warning signs, until exhaustion took over. That’s not the life I want anymore. So consider this your pattern interruption: If you know you’re creeping toward burnout, if you keep pushing yourself past the point of exhaustion—this one is for you.

Sit down. Rest. Everyone will be okay if you take a break.

Break Free, But Also Slow Down

The Pegasus card came through as the first pull this week, reminding us that we are not containable. We are meant to expand. But that doesn’t mean running yourself into the ground. True expansion also means making room for rest, stillness, and care.

✨ I stand firm in everything I have claimed for myself.✨ I allow myself to expand into everything I am meant to be—without exhaustion.✨ What got me here won’t get me there—I open myself up to new ways of being, including rest.

Then came the Fertilizing card—because once you get your shit, you have to nurture it. And that includes you. Growth requires care, intention, and boundaries. Ask yourself: What have I been feeding my spirit? Have I been pouring into myself the way I should?

✨ I nourish my spirit with care and intention.✨ I protect my peace and release what depletes me.

Then Self-Worship stepped in as a reminder: You are sacred. Rest is a form of self-worship. Honoring your body’s need for stillness is just as powerful as showing up for the hustle. Have you taken a moment to sit with yourself and say, I deserve this pause?

✨ I honor myself as divine. I worship myself fully, including my need for rest.✨ My worth is not up for debate, and neither is my well-being.

And finally, the Manifestation Card. Because once you gather, protect, and nurture what’s yours, you set yourself up to receive even more. But exhaustion and burnout block blessings. Manifestation isn’t just about what you say yes to—it’s about knowing when to step back and what you say no to.

✨ I am a magnet for everything that is meant for me.✨ I trust that rest and stillness are part of my expansion.✨ I do not have to run myself into the ground to be worthy.

The Cards Confirm It

The Seven of Cups reversed showed us that distractions and overcommitment can pull us away from ourselves. The Queen of Pentacles reminded us to pour back into ourselves, to be our own nurturer, to ground deeply.

The Strength card told us to stay firm and resolve our internal contradictions—the ways we say we want one thing but act in ways that keep us from it. And the Ten of Cups? That’s the reward. The peace that comes when you stop fighting yourself and fully step into who you are.

And then, the Ace of Pentacles, sitting right beneath the Manifestation card. At first, it appeared in reverse—reflecting the hesitation, the doubt, the feeling that we have to exhaust ourselves to bring our visions to life. But this time, it didn’t feel like a hard no. It felt like a maybe—a reminder that the power is there, but some adjustments need to be made. So instead of flipping it upright or leaving it reversed, I turned it sideways. Because we’re not blocked, we’re just fine-tuning. And one of the biggest tweaks? Trusting that rest is not a setback—it’s a strategy.

✨ I believe in my own magic. I claim it, protect it, and grow it—by turning up the dial when I need to and resting when I need to.

So here’s your reminder: You didn’t come all this way just to let your shit slip through your fingers—or to burn yourself out trying to hold onto it. Get your shit, keep your shit, and rest when you need to.

What are you holding onto this week? Where do you need to rest? Drop it in the comments—let’s claim it together.

For Black women, there’s always been a rulebook—one we never got to write. Be strong, but not too strong. Be ambitious, but don’t outshine. Be desirable, but not demanding. And somehow, even when we follow the rules, we still end up being too much or not enough.

But what if you were never meant to fit inside their little boxes? What if your blueprint—the real one—was never in their hands to begin with?

In this episode, I’m back with Lexie Forbes, an astrologer who helps people use their birth charts as a tool for self-understanding, self-acceptance, and, most importantly, self-liberation. We’re talking about how astrology has helped us break free from expectations and embrace the parts of ourselves that were never broken to begin with.

If you’ve ever side-eyed astrology but felt quietly curious... if you’ve ever felt unseen in mainstream spiritual spaces… or if you just want permission to be who you already are—this episode is for you.

Listen now, share with your bestie, and let’s talk about it in the comments. Are you written in the stars, or still stuck in their rules? 👀

I have been up for over 16 hours, but I couldn’t close my laptop without sending a little voice note your way. Because today’s Midweek Mantras post? Whew. It had me thinking about what it really means to collect the pieces of yourself—the ones you lost, the ones you abandoned, the ones you didn’t even realize were missing. And let me tell you… getting them back? That’s a whole different kind of power.

Tomorrow, I’m spending the day reflecting on my past versions—all the different versions of me that existed before this one. And instead of judgment, I’m meeting her with so much compassion. Because she did what she had to do to get me here.

Before I finally crash, I had to share a few thoughts. Tap in.

xoxo,

Goddess Thea

In this latest episode, I sat down with Lexie Forbes , an astrologer, social media strategist, and founder of The Sacred Social Studio Newsletter, to talk about the tension between religion, spirituality, and reclaiming the parts of ourselves that have been buried under conditioning.

Lexie shared her experience of growing up in a religious cult—one that spanned generations of her family—and the moment she realized just how much control it had over her life. We talked about the ways questioning anything was seen as dangerous, the pressure to conform, and the fear embedded into faith structures that claim to be rooted in love.

And then we talked about the other side—the space we found beyond all of that.

For me, faith has never been a straight path. I was never forced into church, but I sought out religion in my own way—bouncing between youth groups, Catholic mass, and non-denominational spaces, trying to piece together something that made sense. At one point, I was going to church almost every day just to get what I needed from different places. It wasn’t until later that I realized how much of my seeking was about permission—permission to trust my own relationship with the divine, rather than feeling like it had to be mediated by someone else.

Lexie and I also got into how Christianity’s relationship to suffering, especially for women, can shape how we see ourselves and what we’re “supposed” to endure. We touched on how questioning was framed as rebellion (which, okay, fair—if rebellion means refusing to just accept what doesn’t sit right in your spirit). And we reflected on how astrology, tarot, and spiritual practices helped us reconnect with ourselves, not because they replaced faith, but because they gave us language for what we already knew to be true.

I know so many of us have had to untangle these things for ourselves. Some of us have left religion altogether. Some of us have found ways to engage with it on our own terms. Some of us are still figuring it out.

So, I want to hear from you:💭 What’s a belief you had to unlearn about religion or spirituality?💬 Have you ever felt like questioning something was seen as a betrayal?🌀 What does spiritual reclamation look like for you?

What’s Next?

Drop a comment—I want to know what resonates for you.

This was only the beginning of the conversation. Part two is coming next week, where we’ll get into astrology, how people challenge our beliefs, and how we respond. And we’re planning a LIVE session so we can continue this in real-time. Stay tuned.

* Follow Lexie on Substack

* Subscribe to Lexie’s Sacred Social Studio Newsletter

* Drop a comment— we want to hear from you on your experiences.

xoxo,

Goddess Thea