Genesis 2:18
"And the LORD God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him."
Ephesians 5:25
"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;"
Genesis 3:12
"And the man said, the woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat."
The reason why God created us is for mankind to experience relationship with God and others. No one is perfect enough that doesn't need any helper except God himself. God knew that his creations will have a weakness in some moments, and we need an encourager, comforter, and supporter during our lifetime. Hence he formed family, marriage, society, and nations in order to unite everyone into a group, and each one of us can take part in certain rules and share responsibilities. In reality, nobody can totally be self-sustained alone without any relation to others. For example, we always need some farmers and husbandmen to grow corn and fruit, so we can have something to eat. Furthermore, we need some electronics and car technicians to take care of the problems we may encounter on the road. Actually, we closely placed reliance on each other's support in our society.
God never intended for his children to live alone in loneliness, he wants us to love each other. God ordains marriage and forms family. Without marriage, it is impossible to express love and allow God to express his unconditional love to his creations. Without love, we are solely a robot, which has no sensation and passion. God smiles at us when we have companionship, a lover, to love and be loved. We should keep the loyalty to which we married and spend our whole life together.
Your spouse, like you, must also have some weakness, and desperately wants and needs your understanding, encouragement, supports, and help. We cannot see God and experience God's love and emotion in other ways than to feel his existence through others.
Don't forget the truth that we are finite creatures. Sometimes, we cannot prevent any chances to make mistakes or even sin against our spouse. God teaches us to forgive other people's wrongdoing all the time in the same way we already received God's forgiveness. When we sin against God either purposefully or not, God always kindly forgives our trespasses and reconciles with us. Why not just forgive others like what God does? If we humbly repent our trespass and rebuild the relationship with our spouse, we will have a better understanding of others and also be able to establish an intimate relationship with them.
God is merciful and kind to anyone.
Luke 6:35
"But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil."
Luke 6:36
"Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful."
Micah 7:18
"Who is a God like unto thee, that pardoneth iniquity, and passeth by the transgression of the remnant of his heritage? He retaineth not his anger for ever, because he delighteth in mercy."
Psalms 37:26
"He is ever merciful, and lendeth; and his seed is blessed."
Psalms 84:11 ~ 12
“For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly. O LORD of hosts, blessed is the man that trusteth in thee.”
God is merciful and compassionate to unbelievers and believers. As the matter of fact, God loves unbelievers even more than believers. The bad news is that God distributes his love and grace unfairly and unequally to mankind for his reasons. Why God seems to care less for Christians? Why God is unjust? Yes, God is unfair.
He loves the wicked people more than righteous and godly Christians because God wants to propitiate to those unbelievers to repentance. God cares less to born-again children of God because we already received the remission of sins and (continued)
