We have an in-depth conversation with porn producer, performer, coach, kinkster, a multifaceted businesswoman, a mother of three, a clinical mental health therapist, gerontologist, adult film star and all-round awesome person "Jet Setting Jasmine".We talk about a multiple subjects that are near and dear not just to the black BDSM community, but everybody in alternative lifestyle like swingers, poly or kinksters.

Generational trauma:Black people have been mentally and physically abused in the past, and some care that trauma with them Think about the optics of suspending somebody from a tree or using a whip in public. How can we as a dominant improve our skills and be mindful of these issues.

Swinger parties and events: Does your ad copy have people of color or full-bodied people in it?If not, how are they going to feel welcome?

Talking to your children about sex:Don't tell them anything inappropriate, but don't hide the need for adults to have intimacy or the right for everybody to have pleasure and bodily autonomy

Shitty music in dungeons: Really? Does it have to "nosebleed central" loud crappy metal to create an atmosphere? What if people actually want to talk or -gasp- have a negotiation talk before a scene?

Skin color in kink:Bruising and discoloration during as scene is nearly impossible to see. How to check for problems. Also: Dungeon lighting: a bit of dark can be romantic, too much makes it dangerous.

BDSM and Therapy:A dom-sub relationship can beneficial for all involved, provide structure and help work through existing traumas. Persons with old traumas can use BDSM negotiation techniques to work out a protocol that will gradually desensitize themselves so they can end up with better intimacy and sex lives.

* At-home STD & Hormone testing* JetSettingJasmine.com Website* Royal Fetish Radio Podcast* Blue Pearl Therapy

A while ago, we worked with Analisa Murphy who did a scientific study to better understand the effects of non-monogamy (or any kind of open relationship) on relationships and sexual satisfaction. This is now completed, so it was time for an interview to chat about the learnings.

She also explains her personal journey into swinging, from getting married at an early age to leaving the Mormon religion and the impact this has on her life, her kids and her sexuality.

We talk about:

* The danger of "no sex before marriage" and the damage it can do before discovering polyamory. * There are tricks mormons use to go swinger parties without anybody noticing.* Being gay in the Mormon church, getting kicked out for getting AIDS.

For more information:

* Read "A Prospective Investigation of the Decision to Open Up a Romantic Relationship"* Follow Analisa on twitter

We gave the our roaming reporters (the Mr. and Mrs. Puppy) the microphones and let them run amok during Folsom Street Faire in San Francisco.

They talk to people on a range of subjects:   Whips, choosing floggers, pony play, "puppy play" and a whole bunch of kink.

Contact us and let us know where you will be during the next Folsom!

 

 

The gang debriefs from Naughty in Nawlins and Mr. Puppy gives advise on how to behave on swinger dating sites.  How to create a profile, how to respond.

If you have any questions you would like to hear answered, just ask.

 

Part 2 of our Naughty in Nawlins visit:

We interviewed Organic Loven and a bunch of visitors, each with their own vision on swinging, kink and sexuality, and close it up by dragging the couple from "Ecstatic Hearts" into our bed for interview on tantra, sacred sexuality, and improving and extending your orgasms thru specific techniques and vocalisations.

Want to join in the fun at NiN?  Make sure to grab your room before they sell out!

 

During Naughty in Nawlins 2017 (one of the largest swingers events, in New Orleans), misses Puppy and Jon ran into our instructor for the "erotic wrestling" class.   She turned out to very cute, great a giving lapdances and an all-round awesome person.  We sat down and chatted about kink, polyamory, bi-sexuality, penis size, wrestling, stripping (including "pole burn") and porn.

Andre Shakti is a journalist, educator, performer, activist, and professional slut living in the San Francisco Bay Area. She is devoted to normalizing alternative desires, de-stigmatizing sex workers and their clients, and not taking herself too seriously. Andre wrestles mediocre white men into submission and writes about sex work, queerness and non-monogamy for Cosmopolitan, Thrillist, MEL, Vice, and more. She can frequently be found marathoning Law & Order: SVU under a chaotic pile of partners and pitbulls, and yes, she knows how problematic that show is. Visit her on Twitter @andreshakti, on FB as “Andre Shakti”, and at AndreShaktiXXX.com (NSFW).

Shout-out to podcast "Two or More to Tango"

Rev. Jon and Mrs. Puppy run the dungeon at Tangerine's Dream together where they broaden the spectrum of kink for fans, newbies,  and curious onlookers.  Mrs. Puppy tries her hand as a top under the expert direction of Rev Jon.  They had a busy and fun night working as a team to bring bliss to the line of willing victims.  They meet super fans Mr. and Mrs. Chill where they provide Mrs. Chill with a little taste of their brand of kink. They later decide to expand on their experience with a private date.

On a date in San Francisco they take the Chills further into their journey of kink. They visit some of Rev. Jon and Mrs. Puppy's favorite places starting with coffee at Wicked Grounds and a nice chat about how Mr. and Mrs. Chill found their way into kink.  They then head to the leather shop "Leather Etc" where Rev. Jon, and Mrs. Puppy help Mrs. Chill pick out her very first corset with the support of Mr. Chill.

After a fun day of hanging out it was time to get down to some kinky fuckery where the Chills find out exactly what their pleasure is as they experienced kink Bliss Bringers style.

SinD, Reverend Jon, Bill and Alice hang out together in this post-action debrief bedcast.  It was Alice's first visit to a BDSM dungeon (we took her to "Dragon's Gate" in Los Angeles), where she got tied up and suspended, and had all sorts of things done to her.    We give our updates and review our progress in the lifestyles of BDSM, Swinging and polyamory.

 

Quick note: We are going to "Nawty in New Orleans"!   There are a few rooms left, so if you want to party with us and a few thousand of our closest swinger friends, sign up now!

 

Mr. and Mrs. Puppy visit "the armory", the infamous porn-studio that is home of "the upper floor".  These are their adventures.

Mister Bill, Jon and SinD first debrief about  Fetish and Fantasy event, then about their various polyamorous and swinging relationships.   Bill does an inventory of his relationships and reviews how they are similar but different.

Jon interviews a brand-new member of the "Dragon's Gate" gang, who at her young age has dived deep into kink and her various turn-ons.

Back home, the newly formed poly gang (SinD, Jon, Night owl) debriefs about the changes in their relationship.

This episode is a bit different from the usual form, as we give our unfiltered feelings an thoughts on the journey throughout the various forms of non-monogamy.

References:

* Loving without Boundaries podcast