Have you ever needed a fresh perspective so badly, that you just started over instead? Maybe it was by getting a fresh relationship going, or getting into a fresh job or home setting, or starting your life over in a fresh new place. 

No matter how many times we change our external setting, we know that eventually we’ll meet the same challenges there, too. 

In today’s episode, we’ll learn the idea of giving ourselves a freshie every day. About treating our mental perspective, our belief in our ideas, relationships, and ultimately in ourselves as a discipline that requires as much consistency and attention as diet, exercise, communication, or even caring for a living thing that we’re responsible for. 

What you’ll learn in this episode: 

• Why we look for external change to help us re-motivate. 
• How hedonistic adaptation causes us to eventually meet the same challenges in new situations. 
• How friendships, coaching relationships, and other support systems serve the purpose of freshening our belief in ourselves and our ideas, and why that’s not enough.
• Examples of how the moment we stop trying is the moment things stop working
• How we can use that reality to motivate us to believe in ourselves, our relationships, and our ideas day after day
• A “freshie” practice we can normalize and use daily to build the skill and resilience we'll need when things get hardest. 
• Three examples of how we can support the fresh perspectives of the people around us, through the examples we set and the things we share.

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• On the Web | The Local Bloom
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• All Things Marie on LinkTree

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We were camping in the mountains with a group of 20 kids and their parents, when the ground began to shake. The first things I noticed were quivering leaves on the trees around us, followed by a soft rumbling that can only mean one thing in SoCal….there’s an earthquake. The children had all kinds of reactions. Some were excited, some were curious. Some screamed and asked to be picked up. We soothed them, gathered them, and came together to find out what we could, to plan and to connect. 

I’ve been in my share of earthquakes, having always lived in California. This one in particular though, is one that I will never forget. I know that the children who were there won’t either, simply because we were together. They were surrounded by adults who cared for them, processed with friends who were standing beside them, and told the story again and again with the group. 

While the earthquake may have been the most dramatic moment of this camping trip, it was only a tiny example of many examples of belonging. From CEOs creating annual “Framily” traditions, to women’s groups that have lasted over a decade, I heard example after example of people creating belonging in the communities they’re a part of. This single effort, is at the heart of what drives us all. 

What you’ll learn in this episode: 

• How every opportunity to increase belonging starts with a single idea 
• Why unique opportunities for connection strengthen communities
• Examples of long-term friendship formats 
• The value of longevity in group connection 
• Two questions that can increase belonging in your own life 

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• All Things Marie on LinkTree

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Have you ever stood behind someone in the grocery store thinking they should put the divider between your groceries and theirs? 

Or thought someone should turn off their fanny pack music blasting down the hiking trail right behind you? 

Have you ever thought someone was watching too much TV? Not spending enough time with the kids? Following too closely behind your car on the freeway?

Yeah, me too. We all have. 

These are all examples of the “Manuals” that we are all walking around with, inside our heads.

A manual is an instruction guide that we have in our heads for how other people are supposed to behave in order for us to be happy. The really wild thing about this manual business is that although our brains tell us that everyone around us is supposed to be living up to the rules in our heads, we never show the manual to them. 

We are holding them accountable to it…but they never get to see it.  

Another wild thing about all of this is that the premise of our manuals is that we think we would be happier if someone else changes their behavior. This just isn’t true, or when it is, it’s true for a hedonistic hot minute. 

This causes us a ton of suffering, because we’re handing over the power of our happiness to someone else. But we can learn to see the manual for what it is, and we can learn to let it go. 

What you’ll learn in this episode: 

• How ridiculous manuals can be, via a pretty ridiculous morning story 
• Examples of the manuals we have for people we don’t know, friends, and even our very closest relationships
• Why manuals suck your creative energy 
• How different brains interpret the same interactions in oppositional ways 
• The single best thing we can do to increase happiness for ourselves (spoiler: it has nothing to do with how young you look or how much money you make) 
• A four step process to releasing your manuals for the people around you 
• Choosing compatibility in friends and lovers makes manual work lighter
• How laughing at our own manuals for other people can help us let them go 

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• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

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Let’s go back to emotions 101. Your emotions ARE your superpower.  

There are three ways that we naturally deal with them; we stuff them down, we act them out, and we buffer (put something else on top of them like work, sex, tv or scrolling, food or booze, or even thinking a lot!). All of those things make our feelings expand and deepen- like pushing a beach ball down underwater, so that eventually it pops out with a lot of force. 

The only thing that actually works to move through a feeling, is to get curious, and allow the feeling to exist. 

So that’s feelings 101. 

In today’s episode, we’re going way beyond feelings 101. Today we’re talking about expanding the limitations of what emotions we’re capable of feeling, and willing to feel. 

That’s what happens when we increase our emotional capacity.   

Because here’s the deal. 

Sometimes, we SIGN UP for increasing our emotional capacity. 

We do that because we want to put ourselves out there in the world. 

We have an idea we want to make real, a change we want to make in ourselves. We want to grow or expand. When you’re doing that, you’re on two parallel roads of growth. 

In one lane, you’re taking new actions. But right there next to it. On the other parallel track, the other growth is happening. You’re expanding your capacity to feel. 

What you’ll learn on today’s episode: 

• The two new skills you’re building anytime you do something new and different 
• Why expanding emotional capacity is essential to forward momentum 
• The external signs that will tell you clearly when you need to expand your capacity to feel 
• What the payoff is of doing the work to learn to process deeper, harder, darker emotions 
• The one question that will reveal the capacity expansion that you need next 

Mentioned on this episode: 

• Your Feelings Are Your Superpower 
• Be a Time Whisperer 

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• On the Web | The Local Bloom
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• All Things Marie on LinkTree

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When I thought of time management, I used to feel and think… ’Blahhh.’

‘That is NOT sexy.’

‘I am not wasting my time on that. I want to be here in the present.’

‘It’s so boring. It’ll melt my face off. I just won’t do it.’ 

Ironically, all of those things proved to be the opposite of what’s true. 

As I became a time whisperer…I had time to do sexy stuff, like take care of myself and literally actually have time for a sex life. I had WAY more time to do the things that brought me joy. I became WAY more present for my life, and now? 

I actually love planning out my week. I legit look forward to it now because I love all the stuff I’m putting in my calendar. 

Just right now, the people I’m working with who are focused on time whispering range from a Family Medicine Doctor to the Director of a school. They are stay-at-home parents and C-level executive teams. They are musicians and sales managers. ALL of them have found freedom, joy and success from the skills they’re building in time management, and that’s just the handful that I’m currently supporting with this. I’ve literally helped hundreds of others make friends with their calendars, their lists, and start falling in love with the time they have and how they spend it.  

But let’s get real. Being an excellent time manager does not sound sexy.

So, let’s be time whisperers. Let’s you and I develop the grace and decisiveness, the follow-through and the systems to make time our bestie. 

In today’s episode, you’ll learn: 

• How being a time whisperer gives you a mind like water 
• Three productivity theorists whose books you can order right now to do a deep dive 
• How using your calendar can be like appreciating really great art 
• How to know what to do no matter where you are but still feel totally free 
• The one hour a week that is more important to your life than any other period of time
• The three levels of time whispering skill you can build and how to learn them

Mentioned in this episode: 

• David Allen and Getting Things Done 
• Essentialism by Greg McKeown 
• Deep Work by Cal Newport 
• EP 118: Three Priority Tricks

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• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

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Have you ever gotten roasted or teased for things you were kind of surprised about? 

Or what about this…have you ever been teased for saying something that you didn’t know was unique to you? 

I’ve recently been told multiple times that a certain word that I say is a “Marie-ism”, and I had no idea. In friend groups, family text threads, the Bloom Room and more I’ve had people say “As Marie would say…Wegotchu.” This got my attention, of course, and it made me think about this word and why I use it. 

The answer I found is that I LOVE this word. 

I say it because it’s my philosophy of life. 

Because it’s my purpose in life to help as many people feel the meaning that the apparently made up word “Wegotchu” means to me. I want to feel that way myself, as much as I can in my life. I want YOU to feel that way as much as possible. 

So this episode is all about Wegotchu, because it’s a total Mind Bloomer. 

If you are a recipient of the Wegotchu vibe, your mind will bloom. 

And if you treat yourself with the Wegotchu vibe, you will be OKAY. no matter what goes down. 

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• Why the Wegotchu experience is a word to describe an actually known phenomenon called “the connection web” 
• How applying Wegotchu to your physical body will help it heal 
• How applying Wegotchu to your own life will make you more resilient 
• Why responding to other people’s low moments and challenges with this approach brings out the highest in others
• How acts of service are absolutely reciprocal 
• Why responding to vulnerability with an assertion of connection heals and connects 

Wegotchu communicates that you are seen. 

You are understood. 

You are accepted at your most vulnerable. 

And it communicates that we’re in the web, and there’s no falling here; because we’re in it together. 

Wegotchu. 

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A client recently asked how I get up at 5am in a house with squeaky floorboards and a husband who’s a night owl. The answer to this, and to so many other things comes from knowing my priorities. 

While the 5am wake up call might ring just so I can get some exercise and some alone time before the chaos of the world wakes up…there’s something else that’s even more important to me than either of those things. Knowing my priorities makes a 5am wake up call easy, and ALSO makes it easy to forgive myself if 5am passes me by. 

Priorities help us set goals and realize them, of course. But they also help us meet day to day challenges with confidence, communicate with clarity, and feel clear as we’re making decisions to meet the big challenges that will inevitably arise. 

In this episode you’ll learn three tools that will help you:  

• Use priorities to plan your week and your calendar 
• Use priorities to troubleshoot the unexpected day to day interruptions 
• Reflect on your days and weeks, so that you can use clean, clear logic to adjust how you choose to spend your time
• Make easy, guilt free decisions to let go of one goal when another is more important 
• Move through big life challenges with clarity and confidence about how you’re showing up 

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Ep 38: Retros Are Everything
• Ep: 24: Nostalgia for Right Now
• Ep 02: The Land Inside

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There are two ways of looking at the world. We can think that there is one truth to everything; “one thing is true”…OR we can realize that many things are true at the same time. We call this “two things are true” thinking.  

Recently, I was working with a collaborator on something who was consistently letting me down by not meeting their commitments. When I was just trying to understand the hard things that were coming up for them and getting in the way of their work, my compassion was all that was true. I was in my “one thing is true” mindset. After a few occurrences of this, I moved into a “two things are true” mindset. I realized- It’s okay that those things didn’t get done, AND it’s not okay that those things didn’t get done. 

When that happened, I could both be compassionate AND hold them accountable to what they committed to. When we realize that two things are true, we move from convincing energy to understanding energy. And that’s when the magic…and the problem solving happens. 

What you’ll learn in this episode: 

• “Two things are true” vs “one thing is true” thinking 
• A three step process to solve problems that involve more than on truth
• How learning to use “two things are true” to help turn ideas into real things 
• Why validating different perspectives is different than agreeing with them 
• Why it’s hard to do this in a convincing culture that teaches us power and dominance instead of curiosity and understanding 
• How understanding and validation are way more effective than being right 
• How understanding that two things are true allows us to gathering data and develop awareness to make better decisions 

When we understand that two opposing things are true at once, we can get creative. Our thinking is innovative and elastic because it’s open to different perspectives, realities, possibilities and thinking. Instead of sweeping everything under the rug, we see it all and solve for it all. 

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Good Inside by Dr Becky Kennedy 
• Listening is Sexy 
• Institute of the Future 
• The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday
• Moving through Obstacles

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Two things stop people from taking action on the ideas that they have to make their own lives, their communities, their workplaces, families, and the world a better place. 

• They think that they’re not special enough…or 
• They think they’re too special to work hard for it.  

Both of these beliefs are just as harmful, because both of them rob the world of what what we have to give. 

Both of them are about seeing ourselves as different, special, and other. 

They are two different sides of the same coin, or for today’s purposes- two different sides of the same snowflake. 

We all have these snowflake moments! There’s no shame in it as long as we call it what it is; a snowflake moment. A moment where we think we’re a little more or less special than everyone else. 

Because it’s okay to be a snowflake if that means you realize you are a once ever happening complete miracle of a human being that has drop dead gorgeous things to do and say and be in the world. 

AND if you realize that everyone else is just that special too. 

It’s a freaking blizzard out there. When we can overcome our separateness and illusions of otherness, that’s when we start really living with the freedom and the power to make our ideas real. 

What you’ll learn in today’s episode: 

• Examples of the snowflake moments that sneak up on us 
• What become possible when we realize that we’re incredibly special, and that everyone else is too 
• How entitlement and self depreciation both step from ego 
• How freedom from both of those things allows us the self worth to walk away from anything that detracts from our power
• How clarity, peace, passion and curiosity replace snowflake syndrome
• How we can begin to hear the whispers of possibility that have always been there, when the snowflake noise dies down 

Freedom, healing, and ideas that create a better world come when every single one of us realizes that we are in fact undeniably and unbelievably special…and EVERYONE else is too. 

Because the only way that we can have a snow pack is if we allow ourselves to be a snowflake. AND the only way that we can have a snow pack is if we understand that everybody else is one too.

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Grace was sitting across from me, with her hands wrapped around a mug of tea. Our session was first thing in the morning for both of us, and I could imagine that the rain that I could see falling so consistently in gentle waves outside my office window was falling just outside the window in her office too. 

“It’s disorienting” she was saying. “This new feeling is disorienting.” 

She was describing the change that has happened inside of her over the past couple of years in the Bloom Room and coaching one-on-one with me, as she’s become more and more clear on who she is and what she wants. 

“All of the sudden”, she said, “there are things that I can’t follow through on, even if I want myself to. Because I know they’re not true for me. All of the sudden my clients are asking me for things, and I hear myself saying  that I’ll only use materials that are ethically and sustainably sourced, and that don’t bring microplastics that will impact people’s health…into their homes. 

I’ve never said that out loud to a client before. I don’t even really know what happened- I just said no.” 

“All of the sudden, if it’s a no for me, I know it. Clearly. And I can’t ignore it anymore. 

And that feels really good and amazing, and also…NOW what do I do?” 

This has been a progression for Grace and for so many of my clients as they find the ways that they’re not listening to themselves. As they see how they’re overriding their instinct and internal guidance, and once they see them, as they begin to make different choices. But what happens when we start being able to hear our hell no’s more and more clearly? What do we do when are hands are full of no’s? 

That’s what today’s episode is all about. 

What you’ll learn on this episode: 

• Why knowing your list of no-go’s in life is incredibly valuable 
• Why we are more likely to know our no’s than our yeses 
• How a list of no’s can become the big idea you want to make real in the world
• Why the ideas that come from a “no” are sometimes the most authentic ones 
• How our list of no’s turned inside out becomes a project plan 
• Three ways you can get support turning your Big Idea into a real thing

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

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