Happy New Year 2023! And this is extra special, being our 50th episode! What will your theme be for the new year? Not a resolution, a theme - there is a difference!

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When people in your life give you unwanted criticism and dream-crushing "advice," what can you do?

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We love diversity! In America especially we are lucky to have so many different people. From food to holidays to lifestyles, learning about others' cultures can make us change our habits and become who we want to be.

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Sometimes despite all our positive thinking and celebrating small wins, we just come away feeling un-inspired, not excited by work or our dreams or anything. This would be a good time to reflect. How do the twins handle it?

Takeaways

• It’s okay for goals to change and priorities to shift.  Sometimes we need that in order to reset or move forward again feeing inspired. 
• Nothing happens overnight.  It’s okay to reinvent yourself as many times as you want regardless of your age.  Just be patient as you go through those changes.
• When you’re feeling un-inspired, take a break.  Walk away from what you’re doing and take a pause.  Engage in an interest or hobby that lights you up instead for a little while.
• Regardless of how un-inspired you may be feeling, cultivate the faith and belief in yourself to overcome any challenge or obstacle.  
• Look at the things that other people have achieved and use that as evidence of what is possible for you.  It’s proof of what you too can accomplish.
• Sometimes when you are in the middle of hardship or a problem, you can’t see your way through but trust in your next step and focus on that. That next step will lead you to the next and eventually you’ll find your way out of it. 
• When worse comes to worst and you feel completely stuck, stop and do the thing that brings you the most joy instead.  You’ll thank yourself later when that spark of inspiration to lead you on to your next step reveals itself. 
• When something doesn’t go your way, look at the way you react to it.  This is your trigger for how you normally deal with unfavorable or unpleasant situations.  You can absolutely change the way you react to it.
• Healing, getting through past trauma and triggers will always be necessary.
• Open up to someone you trust about your feelings of un-inspiration or other negative feelings.

Resources

• https://www.verywellmind.com/stress-and-burnout-symptoms-and-causes-3144516#:~:text=Burnout%20is%20a%20reaction%20to,feelings%20of%20reduced%20professional%20ability.
• https://www.lifehack.org/814079/uninspired
• https://actingmagazine.com/2019/04/acting-when-is-it-time-to-quit/

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The twins just improv, riffing on current happenings and thoughts about birthdays, languages, labels and group mindsets, and just general catching up. Listen in for an entertaining, thoughtful time!

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A fun episode in which the twins discuss their love for Nickelodeon's Avatar: The Last Airbender! This show is ageless and beautiful with its themes and characters. Come share your love with us!

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• https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avatar:_The_Last_Airbender
• https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0417299/
• As of Oct 11, 2022, available on Netflix and Paramount +.

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We've talked about it before, and everyone else is talking about it, but that's because it's so good! Manifesting! But how do we actually do it beyond just putting an image on a vision board?

Takeaways

• Manifesting is about how you feel when you think of the desire. Having an attitude of gratitude now for the thing you don’t have is more likely to bring it to you than feeling desperate. 
• Be specific with how manifesting your desire makes you feel without focusing on how or when it needs to happen. 
• You’re limited only by your beliefs. 
• It’s great to believe so much in your dreams but more importantly is taking steps to bring it to fruition.
• If you set a time goal for your want, and you don’t get it by then, at least you can be proud you did work toward that goal and are now in the flow of making it happen.
• We get used to our stories, so even if they’re negative, they’re comforting through familiarity. 
• If you are stuck, take some time to dig into why you believe the things that you do. Your subconscious beliefs drive your conscious thoughts and current perception of reality. 
• Change the thought. When trying to change negative thinking or bad habits, literally change the thought and think of something else that can occupy your mind. Have something chosen ahead of time to turn to that you know requires a lot of thinking. 
• Self-awareness is the first step to changing old patterns that aren’t working for you anymore.
• Everything happens in its time. You can’t force it. It won’t happen until you’re ready for it. 
• Keeping a list of things you want to accomplish or cities you want to visit, this is also a manifesting list/vision board. Even a shopping list is something you make happen.
• Remember the answer you seek is always one of three: yes, not now, or something better.  
• The how and when of manifesting is none of your business. Release the need to control the outcome and enjoy the process. Let it unfold.
• On a list of wants, what’s in first place might come second, as you might actually need the second one most, according to the universe.
• If you want to manifest very old wants, ie childhood wants, why not go out and do them as an adult? Be good to your inner child!
• Self-love and acceptance helps you manifest the things you want because when you live through love and joy, you feel abundant which creates manifestations.

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Be a mango lover! If you want to know what that means, tune in for the episode.

Takeaways

• Starting over can be scary but it can be rewarding just for the new experience you gain from it.
• Fresh starts can reinvigorate us and break up old patterns
• Sometimes small changes are enough to open up new doors 
• Desires of the life we want can keep us going.  It doesn’t matter when it happens as long as you take steps toward it and enjoy the process.
• Sometimes wanting something so much, you get tunnel vision, focusing on only one way to get the thing. Trust that it will come, no matter the fashion or direction.
• By trusting the process and letting things unfold naturally, things will naturally click for you. “If it’s meant to be, it’ll be for me, and it’ll happen easy.”
• Reinventing yourself is exciting and a rich way to live life. Even trying new foods and going to new places can be small “reinventing yourself” steps. 
• Don’t be afraid to try new things because of other people’s limitations. Think about it this way: other people have come up with rules about a certain thing based on their failures, biases, or limitations. If your old friends and job don’t fit anymore, it’s okay to move on; make new friends.
• It’s not your place to wrong anybody else for who they choose to be. Teenagers particularly like to change their identities, and it’s natural.
• Let your friends reinvent themselves too; if you don’t like it, then you can move apart. If you want to be supportive and get used to the new them, do what you can for them. Midlife crises or coming out can be examples of this.

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Do you regret decisions you didn’t make? 

Takeaways

• If you really do feel regret, that likely means you really did want to make the other choice. If it’s something you can do again, like get a hair cut, go do it.
• Be mindful of the choices and habits you have. Did you really “not have time” for something, or was it because of poor time management?
• It’s okay to feel sad, disappointed, or guilty even over decisions or opportunities we feel passed us by but we can’t let those feelings keep us down.  
• Find someone to talk to or journal about it if you feel yourself spiraling in despair. 
• Trust in the timing of your life.  Even if you feel an opportunity passed you by, it just means you weren’t ready for it at that point in your life.  If it’s meant to be, it’ll find its way back to you. 
• Think of it this way:  The decisions you made were part of your growth and it is all working for you, even if it doesn’t feel that way sometimes. 
• Rather than comparing yourself to others, compare yourself to your own starting point.  Now acknowledge and celebrate all the progress you’ve made since then!
• If you continue to regret something that you didn’t do, then take a leap and just try it.  You may realize by doing it, you have no interest.  But at least now you know.
• Even if you don’t like where you are right now, you can be grateful for what you have done. If you feel “I haven’t done anything,” then even that too is a teacher, teaching you to go start doing things!
• What’s meant for us, will never escape us. 
• Jordan gives us the perfect example of regretting a perceived missed opportunity early on in life, but then finding its way back to her later in life. When she looks back, she realizes the timing of when she actually got that opportunity worked out so much better than if she tried to pursue it when younger.
• When in doubt, write it out. 
• When you feel like your thoughts are out of control, grab a journal and write it out. Dump out all the raw feelings or limiting thoughts. Get it out of your body and then tear it up and throw it away.  
• Writing things out is cathartic. 
• Use a journal to write about your desires and dreams and get excited about it.  
• Create meaning out of your choices.  See the link to the Ted Talk
• Our life circumstances are constantly changing. Go with the flow as you move through life and if our situation seems hard now, pause and take a breath. Remind yourself that situations can be improved.
• Create positive what-ifs rather than regrettable ones.  Ex: What if everything is always working out for me? What if I was already a millionaire, what would I be doing right now?  What if I had fun with my friends every day? 
• Find your joy regardless of what is happening in your external environment.  That joy will carry you through more challenging times. Peace of mind and heart is the goal.
• luck = preparation + opportunity. Maybe if the job didn’t come to you, it wasn’t meant to be yours and you weren’t entirely spiritually/career-wise prepared enough.

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• https://www.ted.com/talks/ruth_chang_how_to_make_hard_choices?language=en

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The debt cycle is capitalism at work, but is there such a thing as "good" and "bad" debt? How can debt further your dreams, and how can you tell you're just spending to "keep up with the Joneses?"

Takeaways

• Debt isn’t always bad but we need to educate ourselves on how to leverage debt so we don’t end up drowning in it.
• Good debt can further you as a person, like education, or even having a car. We often need cars in America, but to go way above your means, like getting a car that’s $50,000 versus $10,000, that would not be a smart move.
• Traveling is great as an educational tool, but rather than going too far into debt, maybe only do one big trip a year.
• If you want to cut up your credit cards and only pay with your actual money, that is also an option. Do what feels right to you.
• We can look at money as abundant or scarce.
• Everything happens for you in its time.  Nothing that’s meant for you will escape you.
• Debt can feel suffocating especially in our society.  You can take on debt and work within the restrictions that sometimes come with it, or try to do it without debt and accept that it may take longer.  It’s all okay.
• You can keep up with the Joneses and constantly be chasing the next best thing which may mean spending money you don’t have; or you can spend in the way of your dreams and invest so that debt helps build something meaningful for your future.
• Look for evidence of the life you want and the money you want to receive rather than the current reality of your situation. Get excited about what's coming.
• Think about your spending and how it makes you feel.  Do you feel enriched, improved, advanced? Or are you chasing a feeling that feels fleeting?
• - Sometimes the more expensive item is what brings you joy, and in the end, you might spend less over time in not buying a bunch of cheap versions.
•  An expensive tattoo artist is so much better than a cheap one, in all the right ways. Think of your large purchases like this, though still within your means. If you can’t afford a full tattoo sleeve, then you can’t right now and will later.

​Resources

• https://www.imf.org/external/pubs/ft/fandd/basics/2_capitalism.htm
• https://www.financialeducatorscouncil.org/why-isnt-personal-finance-taught-in-school/
• https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Majesty_Building

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