Most of us are scrolling through our phones everyday. We could be looking at social media, emails or texts. These things are fine in moderation, but it can become a problem when our scrolling habits tick over to doom scrolling. In this episode, we talk about the scrolling habits that affect us personally, why we do it, and how it makes us feel. We also discuss the effect doom scrolling has on our brains and different easy tricks we can utilize to quit this habit.

Nikki's favorite item of the week
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Tary's favorite item of the week
https://www.amazon.com/Palmetto-Capsules-Essential-Phytosterols-SoftgelsSupports/dp/B0DZ2FDFTG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=QDB9S8NTE3FF&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.HMx_SkJNu5e3aUFrAmV-66D9yBUK8bcKr48gOZAqgdOK4aPO6ySLt6ayzQ-5uJu2E-7QAOfRBGvqqltUO7EPRGZC0BnQA8fs43Ny0IgZN0357z46yDex75gaqG4obyaU-hIeQjtzTy9wJ0IT2TngCXvojFn29R5b3aD94o5_ofZXU8RzjqoA8u003Ld1SOQvv_ZZowZZvQooMU2W3aaiWBV6UJ-sZOM1WdCeT4qpuWiMm58Co06zkusIPnBAZ3llAU84BOLwiaauDpYmyDGptQI7nGX7EE6FpUw5AwB3B8s.R8pdh9dw9p2SFg8ok-sCiEF4J0YZBmaPXJSFVNIlY4U&dib_tag=se&keywords=vivonu%2Bpumpkin%2Bseed%2Boil%2Bwith%2Bsaw%2Bpalmetto&qid=1773517106&sprefix=vivonu%2Bpump%2Caps%2C177&sr=8-1&th=1

Our friend, Mike, steps in for Tary this week to discuss negative thought loops and how to quiet them. We all have negative or intrusive thoughts. There is NOTHING wrong with you! Our brains are hardwired to think negative and positive thoughts as a biological survival instinct. We discuss several reasons why these intrusive thoughts pop up in our minds, and we give you lots of tricks to manage them. We also might sing a little bit, LOL!

Nikki's favorite item of the week
https://www.quince.com/women/100-organic-cotton-cropped-cable-sweater?color=big-sur-green&gender=women&tracker=collection_page__%2Fwomen%2Fsweaters-%26-jackets__All%20Products__224

Mike's favorite item of the week
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We're going back to basics! You can't take care of anyone else if you don't take care of yourself. Self care doesn't always have to include visits to nail salons and spas. Self care comes in many different forms such as eating nutritious food, moving your body, drinking water and getting enough sleep. In this episode, we give you lots of ideas of how to take care of yourself that won't cost you any money or extra time during your busy day. You'll be surprised at some of the options we've come up with!

Nikki's favorite item of the week
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Tary's favorite item of the week
https://www.vagaro.com/alchemybeauty

Our actions should match our words, and when they don't, that can cause a lot of confusion. In this episode, we talk about why our behavior needs to mirror what we say, how it makes us feel when it doesn't and what we can do to rectify the situation. Behaviors are a language of their own, and we're exploring the impact it has on our relationships.

Nikki's favorite item of the week
https://www.amazon.com/Taj%C3%ADn-Cl%C3%A1sico-Seasoning-5-oz/dp/B0000GL6RK/ref=sr_1_5?crid=1HT06BY19OMQP&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.05DYKLp1lz7XAsFtbuWjFbLaD9Vhgw_Cb7rxo69mbH63nqF_pmAEGIYIzqxvMNbCjoKM4p38SyUFUqTTROA7gXYNMScRt1UkM1E77cn46eEUOb4kd0kP-9Eq6sGKa4XdEtcWlQLqyEUjxTdvcBYf_Yo7M3Bu5NMdZDXd6PidDtO5lr9PrusQc5Bo_yaJUq7hZcj3S3me2W-BK_S2MwRA8hVpVwUy28M57PkqxJRbKhKxMHUwDSb-xu1h8xhJ5CeERu50vdCiA7AMzJwNKbgp21botasLb8R208-kj_7it3E.s2vt_NyhIfkS1fdHKuqolz8hc4onG-c7VhDH0vyHpIE&dib_tag=se&keywords=tajin%2Bseasoning&qid=1772058174&sprefix=tajin%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-5&th=1

Tary's favorite item of the week
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What is your Safety Language? Emotional safety allows for vulnerability without fear of judgment. In this episode, Nikki and Tary explore the concept of safety language in relationships, emphasizing the importance of emotional safety, trust, and effective communication. They share personal anecdotes, and provide insights on how to navigate conflicts constructively. The conversation highlights the significance of vulnerability, accountability, and managing one's own emotions to foster healthier relationships.

Nikki's Favorite Item of the Week
Cucumbers in Peanut Dressing (Measure with your heart or look up a recipe on Google)
Here is what Nikki puts in hers: Thinly sliced English Cucumber, peanut butter, soy sauce, rice vinegar, fried garlic or 1 clove grated, fish sauce or MSG or Caldo Chicken Bullion Powder, Honey or Sugar, Chili Crisp or Sriracha sauce for spice (if you like that). Cover and shake until smooth.

Tary's Favorite Item of the Week
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Has dating become so complicated that we need spreadsheets and algorithms? We don't think so! Once you get to the in person date, the meet and greet should be simple and easy going. Tary gives her best advice based on her current dating experiences as a midlife woman; what she prefers, what she doesn't like, and how to set boundaries around giving access to your personal business. We break down behavioral scientist, Logan Ury's, "Post-Date 8". These are questions you should ask yourself after every date to help you focus on emotional and physical comfort to help you determine if there is a genuine connection.

Nikki's favorite item of the week:
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Tary's favorite item of the week:
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Nikki finally left the house! Nikki and Tary debrief their weird night participating in a local friends meet up group. Plus, what we're saying about Tary's butt and butts in general. Seriously, don't you want to know? LOL!

Nikki's favorite item of the week
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=bvvu+womens+5+inch+swim+board+shorts&crid=2ME4YNPKNM0FB&sprefix=bvvu+womens+5+inch+swim+board+shorts%2Caps%2C229&ref=nb_sb_noss_1
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Tary's favorite item of the week
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Helping or assisting others is a kind thing to do, but if that help is attached to your need to save people or if you help people at your own detriment, then we may be talking about having a Savior Complex. What is a Savior Complex, how can we spot it in ourselves or others, why can it be detrimental to ourselves and others, and how do we stop helping people at our own expense? Listen here for answers to those questions and more!

Favorite items of the week were skipped this week in favor of an update on Nikki's dad. 

How do you feel when someone gives you a compliment or wants to take care of you? If it gives you the "ick", then you're not alone. One of our goals this year is to learn how to receive compliments and genuine care. Come with us as we explore why we have such a negative internal dialogue regarding people caring for us and how we can improve our relationships by receiving care and accepting that others want to give it to us.

Nikki's Favorite Item of the Week
https://www.ulta.com/p/cheirosa-71-hair-body-perfume-mist-pimprod2043065?CATARGETID=330000200003157012&CAPCID=795177924702&CATCI=dsa-491275539515&CAAGID=102603773200&CADevice=c&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=9833191174&gbraid=0AAAAAD9rLH6cZWdnJK_dQT6Jmhn8BeAlt&gclid=CjwKCAiAs4HMBhBJEiwACrfNZV3be83e1Xv4gn5HcgNkwUxI0a8qQiw4JbSKsth0wO72oSX75xkwfRoCThUQAvD_BwE

The Grapefruit Seed Extract Nikki Talks About
https://www.amazon.com/Nutribiotic-Liquid-Concentrate-Fluid-Ounce/dp/B0002JHZO8

Tary's Favorite Item of the Week
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We all have an attachment style that is formed through early interactions with our childhood caregivers. This episode is a personal telling of what it is like to have an avoidant dismissive attachment style and how it effects Nikki's life including her marriage. If you have this same attachment style, or if you're involved with an avoidant dismissive, you'll want to listen to this. Change and progress can me made, with professional support, to move into a secure attachment style for anyone willing to recognize the need for the change and putting in the work to get there. 

Nikki's Favorite Item of the Week
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