Bodies Are Telling

Bodies are Telling is a two part exploration of the often complex relationship between the body and the self, told by Jimanekia Eborn through an intimate, personal reflection of her own journey to self-discovery.

What are the psychological effects of growing up in a body that is constantly objectified? How do outside influences and expectations impact the way we perceive ourselves? What does it mean to reconnect to our body and heal after experiencing sexual assault? This started out as a podcast discussing bodies that have been impacted by shame and guilt. But it turned into a candid sharing of deep truths; an examination of personal trauma and what it's like to come out on the other side. While also calling in others’ journeys and ideals around their own bodies, this is a story that, sadly, many will listen to and be able to connect with, but, hopefully, it is also a story that many can discover a place of understanding, realisation, and, ultimatley, hope.

TW: This series mentions sexual assault and eating disorders.

More about Jimanekia:

Jimanekia Eborn is a Queer, Sexual Assault & Trauma Expert, Trauma Media Consultant, and Comprehensive Sex Educator. She is the host of Trauma Queen - a podcast for survivors of assault and our allies. The podcast focuses on uplifting voices in all communities and exploring our collective journey to healing. Jimanekia is the Founder of Tending The Garden- a nonprofit in service of sexual assault survivors who have been marginalized, offering retreats, online summits, community and education. She is also the co-founder of Cintima, bringing increased representation to the field of Intimacy Coordination in the film industry. In 2021, Jimanekia joined Lenora Claire Consulting as a SA & trauma expert for film & television productions.

Jimanekia has been working in mental health for over a decade with youth, adolescents, and adults. She has led trauma-informed comprehensive sex and sex toy workshops at multiple universities including Columbia University, Georgetown University, Colorado College and Rhodes College. She has been the keynote speaker at Princeton Women's History Month 2021, UCSB Women of Color Conference 2019, UNCC & UC Merced's Take Back the Night Events 2022. Jimanekia has been a featured panelist at the MAC Belfast, Soho House, San Diego University, Converge Con and GirlSchool LA. Her work as a sex educator has been featured in Marie Claire, Playboy, Cosmo, Mind Body Green, Well + Good, Nylon, and many more.

Contributors:

Social media:

Website: https://traumaqueen.love/

Instagram: @jimanekia

Twitter: @Jimanekia

Facebook: Jimanekia Eborn  

Bodies are Telling was written by Jimanekia Eborn. Production by Lucy Carr and James Deacon. Sound design and mixing by Ben Williams.

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Bodies are Telling is a two part exploration of the often complex relationship between the body and the self, told by Jimanekia Eborn through an intimate, personal reflection of her own journey to self-discovery.

What are the psychological effects of growing up in a body that is constantly objectified? How do outside influences and expectations impact the way we perceive ourselves? What does it mean to reconnect to our body and heal after experiencing sexual assault? This started out as a podcast discussing bodies that have been impacted by shame and guilt. But it turned into a candid sharing of deep truths; an examination of personal trauma and what it's like to come out on the other side. While also calling in others’ journeys and ideals around their own bodies, this is a story that, sadly, many will listen to and be able to connect with, but, hopefully, it is also a story that many can discover a place of understanding, realisation, and, ultimatley, hope.

TW: This series mentions sexual assault and eating disorders.

More about Jimanekia:

Jimanekia Eborn is a Queer, Sexual Assault & Trauma Expert, Trauma Media Consultant, and Comprehensive Sex Educator. She is the host of Trauma Queen - a podcast for survivors of assault and our allies. The podcast focuses on uplifting voices in all communities and exploring our collective journey to healing. Jimanekia is the Founder of Tending The Garden- a nonprofit in service of sexual assault survivors who have been marginalized, offering retreats, online summits, community and education. She is also the co-founder of Cintima, bringing increased representation to the field of Intimacy Coordination in the film industry. In 2021, Jimanekia joined Lenora Claire Consulting as a SA & trauma expert for film & television productions.

Jimanekia has been working in mental health for over a decade with youth, adolescents, and adults. She has led trauma-informed comprehensive sex and sex toy workshops at multiple universities including Columbia University, Georgetown University, Colorado College and Rhodes College. She has been the keynote speaker at Princeton Women's History Month 2021, UCSB Women of Color Conference 2019, UNCC & UC Merced's Take Back the Night Events 2022. Jimanekia has been a featured panelist at the MAC Belfast, Soho House, San Diego University, Converge Con and GirlSchool LA. Her work as a sex educator has been featured in Marie Claire, Playboy, Cosmo, Mind Body Green, Well + Good, Nylon, and many more.

Contributors:

Social media:

Website: https://traumaqueen.love/

Instagram: @jimanekia

Twitter: @Jimanekia

Facebook: Jimanekia Eborn  

Bodies are Telling was written by Jimanekia Eborn. Production by Lucy Carr and James Deacon. Sound design and mixing by Ben Williams.

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Bodies are Telling is a two-part exploration of the often complex relationship between the body and the self, told by Jimanekia Eborn through an intimate, personal reflection of her own journey to self-discovery.

What are the psychological effects of growing up in a body that is constantly objectified? How do outside influences and expectations impact the way we perceive ourselves? What does it mean to reconnect to our body and heal after experiencing sexual assault? This started out as a podcast discussing bodies that have been impacted by shame and guilt. But it turned into a candid sharing of deep truths; an examination of personal trauma and what it's like to come out on the other side. While also calling in others’ journeys and ideals around their own bodies, this is a story that, sadly, many will listen to and be able to connect with, but, hopefully, it is also a story that many can discover a place of understanding, realisation, and, ultimately, hope.

TW: This series mentions sexual assault and eating disorders.

More about Jimanekia:

Jimanekia Eborn is a Queer, Sexual Assault & Trauma Expert, Trauma Media Consultant, and Comprehensive Sex Educator. She is the host of Trauma Queen - a podcast for survivors of assault and our allies. The podcast focuses on uplifting voices in all communities and exploring our collective journey to healing. Jimanekia is the Founder of Tending The Garden- a nonprofit in service of sexual assault survivors who have been marginalized, offering retreats, online summits, community and education. She is also the co-founder of Cintima, bringing increased representation to the field of Intimacy Coordination in the film industry. In 2021, Jimanekia joined Lenora Claire Consulting as a SA & trauma expert for film & television productions.

Jimanekia has been working in mental health for over a decade with youth, adolescents, and adults. She has led trauma-informed comprehensive sex and sex toy workshops at multiple universities including Columbia University, Georgetown University, Colorado College and Rhodes College. She has been the keynote speaker at Princeton Women's History Month 2021, UCSB Women of Color Conference 2019, UNCC & UC Merced's Take Back the Night Events 2022. Jimanekia has been a featured panelist at the MAC Belfast, Soho House, San Diego University, Converge Con and GirlSchool LA. Her work as a sex educator has been featured in Marie Claire, Playboy, Cosmo, Mind Body Green, Well + Good, Nylon, and many more.

Contributors:

Social media:

Website: https://traumaqueen.love/

Instagram: @jimanekia

Twitter: @Jimanekia

Facebook: Jimanekia Eborn  

Bodies are Telling was written by Jimanekia Eborn. Production by Lucy Carr and James Deacon. Sound design and mixing by Ben Williams.

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Pleasure impacts so many areas of our lives, yet there’s so much shame about the things that bring us pleasure. In this episode, Ruby unpacks the act of experiencing pleasure, but also the many things, societal and internal, that get in the way, as well as thinking about how our relationship to pleasure can evolve and change throughout our lives. They talk to Emily Nagoski about what pleasure actually is and the things that might prevent us accessing it, as well as exploring the ways that different people have connected with their own pleasure.

Full transcript available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TfKP9vwOVLSyLDe3s3Ugi3jQvgfRk3_K/view?usp=sharing

CREDITS:

Host: Ruby Rare

Producer, Editor and Sound Design: Bea Duncan

Executive Producer: Hana Walker-Brown

Production Assistants: Rory Boyle and Mars West

Social Assets: /Forward Slash

This is a Broccoli Production

RESOURCES:

Brook

The UK's leading provider of sexual health and wellbeing for young people under 25

Service directory: https://www.brook.org.uk/find-a-service/

Website: https://www.brook.org.uk

The National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge

Free and confidential helpline.

Phone: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours a day)

Galop

Hate crime, domestic abuse and sexual violence support service for LGBT+ people

Helpline: 0800 999 5428 (Monday-Friday, 10am-5pm / Wednesday & Thursday, 10am-8pm)

Website: http://www.galop.org.uk

LINKS & FURTHER READING:

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TW: This episode contains multiple discussions between survivors. There will be discussion of sexual violence, child abuse and domestic abuse.

In this episode, Ruby speaks to two other survivors, Lilly and Andreena, as well as Amy Roch from Galop, a charity supporting LGBT+ people who have experienced abuse and violence. They’ll be unpacking the realities of processing abuse, as well as how we move forwards in their lives, work, relationships and sex lives. These are just a few stories out of millions from across history and the world. All of our experiences differ, but we are all united.

CREDITS:

Host: Ruby Rare

Producer, Editor and Sound Design: Bea Duncan

Executive Producer: Hana Walker-Brown

Production Assistants: Rory Boyle and Mars West

Social Assets: /Forward Slash

This is a Broccoli Production

Full transcript available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1VpewsOnp2jvXvuPswXbNGzRVCRqlGUx1/view 

RESOURCES:

Galop

Hate crime, domestic abuse and sexual violence support service for LGBT+ people

Helpline: 0800 999 5428 (Monday-Friday, 10am-5pm / Wednesday & Thursday, 10am-8pm)

Website: http://www.galop.org.uk

The National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge

Free and confidential helpline.

Phone: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours a day)

Survivors UK – Male Rape and Sexual Abuse Support

A range of support options to help those who identify as men recover from experiences of sexual abuse or rape.

National Helpline: 0845 122 1201

Website: https://www.survivorsuk.org

Webchat available Monday-Sunday 12:00 - 20:00

NAPAC

Offering support to adult survivors of childhood abuse and training for those who support them.

Website: https://napac.org.uk

Support line: 0808 801 0331 (10am-9pm Mon-Thurs, 10am-6pm Fri)

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TW: This episode contains discussion of transphobia

In this episode, Ruby is exploring how their own gender feels to them, speaking to her sibling and partner as well as other gender non-confirming and non-binary people about their experiences. She also hears from Meg-John Barker about what gender even is, the ways that we all go on a journey with gender throughout our lives, and the impacts these conversations are having.

Full transcript available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1RgDeoCT8XbfTMWd4YzcFd5afRwbnPaKK/view?usp=sharing 

CREDITS:

Host: Ruby Rare

Producer, Editor and Sound Design: Bea Duncan

Executive Producer: Hana Walker-Brown

Production Assistants: Rory Boyle and Mars West

Social Assets: /Forward Slash

This is a Broccoli Production

Full transcript available here: 

RESOURCES:

Gendered Intelligence

Increasing understandings of gender diversity and improve trans people's quality of life

Phone: 0330 355 9678 (Mon, Tues, Thurs 2pm-7pm / Wed, Fri 10am-3pm)

Website: http://genderedintelligence.co.uk

The National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge

Free and confidential helpline.

Phone: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours a day)

Galop

Hate crime, domestic abuse and sexual violence support service for LGBT+ people

Helpline: 0800 999 5428 (Monday-Friday, 10am-5pm / Wednesday & Thursday, 10am-8pm)

Website: http://www.galop.org.uk

Switchboard

LGBT+ Helpline to discuss things including sexuality, gender identity, and emotional wellbeing.

Website w/chat: https://switchboard.lgbt

Phone: 0300 330 0630 (Every day 10am - 10pm)

LGBT Foundation

Helpline run by LGBT health charity.

Phone: 0345 3 30 30 30 (Weekdays 9am-9pm, Weekends 10am-6pm)

Website: http://lgbt.foundation/helpline

LINKS & FURTHER READING:

Life Isn’t Binary: On Being Both, Beyond, and In-Between by Alex Iantaffi & Meg-John Barker https://www.waterstones.com/book/life-isnt-binary/alex-iantaffi/meg-john-barker/9781785924798

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TW: This episode contains discussion of sexual assault

For most of us, our relationship to porn is very secretive - just us and the dim light of our phone screen. Which is interesting given the fact that every single one of us has a relationship to porn - whether we watch it or not. In this episode, Ruby unpacks the realities of making and consuming porn. She speaks to porn performers about why people are so reluctant to pay for their pornography and the benefits and limitations of ethical porn, as well as unpacking the impacts watching porn can have on the self esteem and sexual experiences of adults.

CREDITS:

Host: Ruby Rare

Producer, Editor and Sound Design: Bea Duncan

Executive Producer: Hana Walker-Brown

Production Assistants: Rory Boyle and Mars West

Social Assets: /Forward Slash

This is a Broccoli Production

Full transcript available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/18NAxsEo_y2Qjj_CpydS5B724xVXpEJtv/view?usp=sharing

RESOURCES:

Brook

The UK's leading provider of sexual health and wellbeing for young people under 25

Service directory: https://www.brook.org.uk/find-a-service/

Website: https://www.brook.org.uk

The National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge

Free and confidential helpline.

Phone: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours a day)

Galop

Hate crime, domestic abuse and sexual violence support service for LGBT+ people

Helpline: 0800 999 5428 (Monday-Friday, 10am-5pm / Wednesday & Thursday, 10am-8pm)

Website: http://www.galop.org.uk

LINKS & FURTHER READING:

Rufai and Erika Lust joint statement https://www.hellorooster.club/joint-statement-by-erika-lust-films-and-hello-rooster/

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Non-monogamy isn’t new, and is also just one of the many ways of doing relationships. There’s a cultural curiosity here, but there’s still a whole host of misconceptions and assumptions that people make of the reality of being non-monogamous - in this episode Ruby tackles these head on. From chatting to her nesting partner about their relationship, to hearing from others within the community about the ways they’ve made non-monogamy work for them.

CREDITS:

Host: Ruby Rare

Producer, Editor and Sound Design: Bea Duncan

Executive Producer: Hana Walker-Brown

Production Assistants: Rory Boyle and Mars West

Social Assets: /Forward Slash

This is a Broccoli Production

Full transcript available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1EQZ4rNv9Uv06qIOlRcRHu6zvRLOLYqHk/view?usp=sharing

RESOURCES:

The National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge

Free and confidential helpline.

Phone: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours a day)

Galop

Hate crime, domestic abuse and sexual violence support service for LGBT+ people

Helpline: 0800 999 5428 (Monday-Friday, 10am-5pm / Wednesday & Thursday, 10am-8pm)

Website: http://www.galop.org.uk

LINKS & FURTHER READING:

DK Green http://dkgreen.co.uk

Polyphilia https://www.polyphilia.blog

Blackfluent Polyamory Hub https://m.facebook.com/groups/2367623383504854/

Minka Guides https://www.minkaguides.com

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Our introductions to sex are so formative. And a lot of us are stumbling around the world trying to make up for lost time and learn the things we should’ve been taught when we were 12. As a sex educator, Ruby has seen this first hand in her years teaching sex ed in classrooms all across the country, training professionals on how to be more informed and inclusive when it comes to talking about sex, and running contraception distribution teams. In this episode she’ll be tackling all the different ways that sex ed and inherited shame can impact us, as well as examining why a one size fits all approach to sex education doesn’t serve us.

CREDITS:

Host: Ruby Rare

Producer, Editor and Sound Design: Bea Duncan

Executive Producer: Hana Walker-Brown

Production Assistants: Rory Boyle and Mars West

Social Assets: /Forward Slash

This is a Broccoli Production

Full transcript available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/16MW3RADmrv8gf_SvcX9sp85N0KuFhwP1/view?usp=sharing

RESOURCES:

Brook

The UK's leading provider of sexual health and wellbeing for young people under 25

Service directory: https://www.brook.org.uk/find-a-service/

Website: https://www.brook.org.uk

The National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge

Free and confidential helpline.

Phone: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours a day)

Galop

Hate crime, domestic abuse and sexual violence support service for LGBT+ people

Helpline: 0800 999 5428 (Monday-Friday, 10am-5pm / Wednesday & Thursday, 10am-8pm)

Website: http://www.galop.org.uk

LINKS & FURTHER READING:

Sex Ed: A Guide for Adults, by Ruby Rare https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sex-Guide-Adults-Hardcover-2020/dp/B08RHY5S84

No Outsiders https://no-outsiders.com

Brook Learn - free online sex education https://learn.brook.org.uk/

Rukiat Ashawe https://www.instagram.com/iamrukiat/?hl=en

Decolonising Contraception https://decolonisingcontraception.co.uk/

Brilliant Questions About Growing Up: Simple Answers About Bodies and Boundaries https://www.waterstones.com/book/brilliant-questions-about-growing-up/amy-forbes-robertson/alex-fryer/9780241447987

Can We Talk About Consent? https://www.waterstones.com/book/can-we-talk-about-consent/justin-hancock/fuchsia-macaree/9780711256545

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Evidence of kink can be found throughout history. It isn’t new - but portrayals of it can lead to a cultural misunderstanding. With the help of experts and those in the kink community, Ruby explores the different ways kink can look and be practised, as well as the ways that shame and judgement is dealt with and combatted through community.

CREDITS:

Host: Ruby Rare

Producer, Editor and Sound Design: Bea Duncan

Executive Producer: Hana Walker-Brown

Production Assistants: Rory Boyle and Mars West

Social Assets: /Forward Slash

This is a Broccoli Production

Full transcript available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1m3ZJEHSMnWYxZE3jaIHKEXjTAbngvQ9k/view?usp=sharing

NB: Since recording, Madam Storm is now known as Miss Erica Storm and is training to become a sex therapist.

RESOURCES:

The National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge

Free and confidential helpline.

Phone: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours a day)

Galop

Hate crime, domestic abuse and sexual violence support service for LGBT+ people

Helpline: 0800 999 5428 (Monday-Friday, 10am-5pm / Wednesday & Thursday, 10am-8pm)

Website: http://www.galop.org.uk

LINKS & FURTHER READING:

Whores of Yore https://twitter.com/WhoresofYore

A Curious History of Sex by Dr Kate Lister https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50773748-a-curious-history-of-sex

Miss Erica Storm (AKA Madam Storm) Strut Masterclasses https://www.teachmestorm.co.uk/strut-masterclass

Lola Jean’s Quick ‘n’ Dirty series https://lolajean.com/quick-n-dirty2

The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/48979734-the-new-topping-book-and-the-new-bottoming-book

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