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In this episode, we hear from our listeners. And a note from Boju Bajai on male entitlement and consent.

Readings:

https://news.cornell.edu/stories/2020/08/male-entitlement-hurts-women-manne-writes-new-book

https://ekantipur.com/news/2022/02/21/16454456041257987.html

हरेक वर्ष, without fail, male editors’ gaze will always find 'परम्परागत पोसाकमा XYZ जनजाति समुदायकी युवती' when it comes to festivals like उँधेौली, योमरी पुन्ही, ल्होसर and so on. However, issues and voices of the same indigenous community find little space in the Nepali newsroom and media at large, which are often led by Khas Arya men.

जनजाति महिला र पुरूषहरूलाई नेपाली मिडिया, फिल्म र गीतहरूमा कसरी चित्रण गरिन्छ? उनीहरूको शरीर माथि किन यति सजिलै stereotypical टिकाटिप्पणीहरू हुन्छ? अनि यो ‘मङ्गोलियन लुक्स’ भनेको के हो? जनजाति समुदाय भित्रको विविधतालाई side लाएर कहिलेसम्म यसरी 'exotify' मात्र गर्ने हाम्रो मिडिया र साहित्यले? यसपालिको गफगाफ कस्तो लाग्छ भन्नु होला ।

Edited by Irina Giri.

Music credit:

Gajalu Ti Thula Thula Ankha

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ftEzdVJWdDA

​​Chuche chuche raichau hauli pakkai Bahuni, nakhai herda thaha huney https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jmab6XpHHtw

Leka ki hey maya

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z2CarUdnT30

Basa Sundari

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7PkbAVjANL8

Keti timi kati ramro dekhko

​​https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6O8BzZpXR6I

Readings:

‘जनजातिका लुगाको लैंगिकता’ by कैलाश राई - https://nepalmag.com.np/opinion/2019/09/10/20190910152548

‘Shanti Chaudhary: Poet-at-large’ by Muna Gurung -

https://www.nepalitimes.com/opinion/shanti-chaudhary-poet-at-large/

‘पात्रको दशा : टाइप र स्टेरियोटाइप’ by युग पाठक -

https://www.nayapatrikadaily.com/news-details/171/2018-12-15

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TW// This episode contains strong language.

What a f**kall year 2021 has been! As this f$%kall year comes to an end, here’s Boju Bajai’s Cold Takes on Nepali politics, economy and our encounters with the numerous humanist bros of ‘Budhhako janmabhumi’.

We wish you a very happy new year! Thank you ALL for your love and support for Boju Bajai, whether you've been listening to us since our first episode Bears & Whores or just started following us.

As we look towards getting bigger and better in 2022, we need your help!! We want your feedback on what we could do better. This time around, WE ARE LISTENING!! (and taking notes) Take our 8 minute survey at bit.ly/BojuBajaiSurvey

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Music credit:

Sailaru Sailare, Josh, Venus Music: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J347ujuaMIU

Ande ka Funda, Jodi No. 1 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AX8Ik8QHk1E

News opener music, Music for video library https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y1clZNYIl4Y

Trigger warning: This episode contains mentions of rape, murder and suicide.

This episode was produced by Boju Bajai in collaboration with Samata Foundation.

नेपालमा महिला तथा बालिकाहरु माथि हुने हिंसा, विशेष गरी यौन हिंसाका घटनाबारे दिनानुदिन समाचार आइनै रहन्छ। सडक र सामाजिक सन्जालमा यौन हिंसाबारे निकै बहस हुन्छ र पत्रिकाका पानाहरुमा आक्रोश पोखिन्छ। देशैभरि बलात्कारका घटनाहरु बढीरहँदा पत्रपत्रिकामा यस्ता समाचारले स्थान पाउनु स्वभाविकै हो । तर संचार माध्यमहरुले यस्ता घटनाहरुलाई कसरी cover गर्छन ? अझ महत्त्वपूर्ण प्रश्न, बलात्कारमा परेका मध्ये कसको स्टोरीले कस्तो स्थान पाउँछ ? यी प्रश्नहरूलाई खोत्लने हाम्रो प्रयास यस एपिसोडमा सुन्नुहोला ।

The level of violence against Dalit girls, minors is frighteningly high. However, in the absence of sustained scrutiny from the media and the public at large, the police’s response to these cases follow a usual pattern marked by hesitation, if not an outright refusal, in registering the case, negligence in investigation, and dismissal of caste dynamics. The local representatives, who actively engage in or support out of court settlements, make the path to justice more arduous. When cases manage to reach court, there is no telling to when justice will be served.

In this episode, we try to explore challenges faced by rape victims from marginalised communities when it comes to seeking justice. We also spoke to journalists Binod Pariyar, Rupa Gahatraj and Basanta Pratap Singh about the challenges involved in reporting such cases.

Many case studies we discuss in this episode were derived from Dalit Human Rights Book 2077. Published by Samata Foundation, the book offers detailed coverage on Angira Pasi’s case, among others. The book is available at Samata Foundation’s office at Sanepa. Visit their website at https://samatafoundation.org

Credit:

Reported by journalists Bidhya Rai and Sanju Paudel. Follow them on Twitter @BidhyaWrites and @sanju1320

Research by Radhika Pariyar.

Sound design by Ranzen Jha.

“न्याय खोज्दै नेपालगन्जबाट २० दिन हिँडेर काठमाडौं” - https://youtu.be/ALQoV5WhiUE

Readings:

अंगिराको मृत्युपछि शान्तिलाई पीडैपीडा - https://bit.ly/3FKKq3u

मिलापत्रमै टुंग्याइन्छ दलित महिलामाथिको हिंसा - https://bit.ly/3l25N8M

दलित बालिकालाई होटेलमा बन्धक बनाएर बलात्कार - https://bit.ly/3FE5J6I

पानी, प्रेम र बिहे अस्वीकार, तर दलितका छोरीमाथि बलात्कार -https://bit.ly/30XhtT2

Rape for ransom -https://bit.ly/32zIIE5

Supposed ‘suicides’ point towards police incompetence - https://bit.ly/3HJCf9D

Nepal: Ensure Justice for Caste-Based Killings - https://bit.ly/3nMHg9c

मोफसलबाट काठमाडौं आएर न्याय प्रणालीलाई दस्तक दिने रूबी खान को हुन्? (भिडिओ) - https://bit.ly/3FHmI8m

Anatomy of a police investigation: have authorities in Nepal’s Bardiya district passed a murder off as suicide? - https://bit.ly/3FJ2mvn

Untouchable stories of touchable vaginas - https://bit.ly/3xjKqEK

Killing in the name of caste -https://bit.ly/3FHYeM5

#16 This is how Nepal's news media covers rape (podcast) - https://bit.ly/3r6Eyh1

#39 अनि तपाईको थर नि? - https://bit.ly/3ifRw5n

Nepal’s newsrooms need guidelines, training and women journalists to improve coverage of sexual violence - https://bit.ly/3HP65JE

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*This is a re-release of a 2016 episode, which we seem to have deleted inadvertently.

यसपाली गफगाफ आमाहरु,अरुका भान्टाङ् भुन्टुङ्हरु र मातृत्वबारे हो । We talk about our mothers, other people's kids, and our own thoughts on motherhood.

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How do you talk about gender equality, when there is such a limited vocabulary to turn to in the Nepali language? How do people working at the community level communicate and disseminate ideas of gender equality and social justice from the jargon heavy handbooks and policy papers formulated by experts, and often in English?

For #UnitedNationsDay, we explore the challenges of creating meaningful dialogue centering around the issue of gender equality in Nepal’s public sphere which have historically been built around male-dominated patriarchal networks.

In the episode, we hear from individuals, who have been working in the area of gender equality and inclusion and what they are doing to ensure these conversations are accessible and resonate with Nepali women, across rural and urban settings.

This episode has been produced by Boju Bajai in collaboration with the United Nations in Nepal.

Music credit: ‘Gaun Gaun Bata Utha’ from the movie ‘Balidan’

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mm-NhAb2XRA

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Cuffing season is here and so is the new Boju Bajai episode.

In this episode, we talk about dating apps or as we like to call them over at Boju Bajai- 'sutne' apps.

The heydays of love letters are long gone and it's the time of swiping and matching, of 'hey you up's and 'wyd?'s. But what hasn't changed is our desire to connect and find companionship. This episode explores how these desires were expressed before the internet and how it is done today. And there might or might not be dramatic readings of real life love letters in this episode!

We also hear from some of our listeners about their experiences - the good, the bad, and the weird.

Thank you so much to everyone who sent us stories. This episode really wouldn't have been possible without them.

This episode was reported by Nikita Tripathi. Nikita is a media producer based in Kathmandu and likes to walk.

Irina Giri edited the episode.

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Credits:

Lajja Sample

Film: Lajja

Song: Badhi Mushkil

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dg-geusO3rs

2. "Electrolyte"

Artist: Scanglobe

Album: Electrolyte

From freemusicarchive.org

3. "Ekatira Mayalu"

Artist: Kunti Moktan

Album: Mero Man

Released: 1997

4."Truth Hurts"

Artist: Lizzo

Album: Cuz I Love You

5. "The Silver Hatch"

Artist: Blue Dot Sessions

Album: Rayling

6. "Dear Kalyan" Music: Background Music// No Copyright//Dear Kalyan// Mero Katha// Katha Mitho Sarangiko/ Basuri Ko Dhun

Played by: Bishnu Ale

Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p4CiJvQidUI

7. "Chitthi Aaena"

Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tYNagcv6HTM

References:

“Liquid Love? Dating apps, sex, relationships and the digital transformation of intimacy”

http://fws.commacafe.org/resources/liquid_love.pdf

“Eat the rich! Why millennials and generation Z have turned their backs on capitalism”

https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2021/sep/20/eat-the-rich-why-millennials-and-generation-z-have-turned-their-backs-on-capitalism

“Invitations to Love: Literacy, Love Letters and Social Change in Nepal” by Laura Ahearn

https://www.press.umich.edu/11260/invitations_to_love

https://3lib.net/book/16577518/f99eff

“With blackmail list, gay men in Ghana fight conmen posing as lovers” -

https://www.reuters.com/article/us-ghana-lgbt-blackmail-idUSKBN23G1RO

“Online Surveillance, Censorship, and Discrimination for LGBTQIA+ Community Worldwide” -

https://www.recordedfuture.com/lgbtqia-community-cyber-threats/

“Tinder just agreed to let Russia review its data on demand. That could be dangerous for Russians.”

https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/2019/06/11/tinder-just-agreed-let-russia-review-its-data-demand-that-could-be-dangerous-russians/

“Body, Society & Tech: Dating as a Trans Woman in Nepal”

https://bodyanddata.org/body-society-tech-dating-as-a-trans-woman-in-nepal/

We talk to journalist Abha Lal about the citizenship debate in Nepal and how the recurring amendments disproportionately discriminate against women from the Madhes.

This conversation was recorded for Guff Gaff with Boju Bajai, a web-series presented by Book Bus Nepal. The series was produced by Satori Center for the Arts, Quixote’s Cove, and Boju Bajai.

Abha Lal is a journalist and researcher. Follow Abha on Twitter @AbhaLal2: https://twitter.com/AbhaLal2

Watch ‘अनि पहाड चाहिँ ?’ the second episode of Guff Gaff with Boju Bajai Webseries on Youtube. Abha Lal and Pallavi Payal about the citizenship debate in Nepal and how the latest amendments disproportionately discriminate against women from the Madhes. Yozana Thapa Magar brings you a sketch from a CDO office. And we have a special performance for you by the singer Pratibha Jha.

https://youtu.be/HRCnCXlkXl8

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Recommended readings:

‘Nepal’s citizenship battles’ by Abha Lal - https://www.himalmag.com/nepals-citizenship-battles-2020/

‘What mainstream feminists are getting wrong about the citizenship debate’ by Kalpana Jha, Abha Lal, Sangita Thebe Limbu - https://www.recordnepal.com/what-mainstream-feminists-are-getting-wrong-about-the-citizenship-debate

Hello September, hello world!

In this episode, Bhrikuti Rai and Itisha Giri go on their random ramblings and not-so-random rants. They talk about Nepali living, Nepali internet, and our very own Nepali politicians.

This episode is an unbeeped/ uncensored version so it might not be suitable for some listeners.

Featured music and audio:

"Wake me up" by Green Day

'Rahul is f%uck boi' clip coutesy Dharma Productions' Youtube channel

"Rahul montage" from multiple SRK/Rahul films

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Trigger warning: This episode includes mentions of mental health disorders, anxiety, and suicide.

This episode is dedicated to mental health — about learning to take care of our mental well-being, initiating difficult conversations with our families about our struggles, and seeking help when we need it. For this episode, reporter Nikita Tripathi spoke to Kripa Sigdel, a psychologist and a faculty member at the Department of Psychology at Padma Kanya Campus; psychologist Renasha Ghimire, and Prashamsha Pandey, a mental health advocate, and therapy client. Information on mental health conditions and related services are more readily available to the urban population, but many, especially in the rural parts of the country, have limited access to such vital resources. Nepal’s public health spending thus far has grossly overlooked mental health while individuals risk being stigmatized for their mental health conditions by their family and society at large.

मानसिक स्वास्थ्यबारे कुराकानी सुरु हुनु आफैमा राम्रो कुरा हो। अब आउने दिनहरुमा मानसिक स्वास्थ्यसम्बन्धी सेवाको पहुँच पनि बढोस्।

This episode was reported by Nikita Tripathi. Nikita is a media producer based in Kathmandu and likes to walk.

Irina Giri edited the episode and Fleeke performed the cover of Fiona Apple's 'Every Single Night'.

If you, or anyone you know, needs help with their mental health, the following information might be of help:

Mental Health Helpline Nepal: 1660 0133666

Mental health professionals providing free services curated by @gyanchautari on Instagram (Shared on May 9, 2021) - https://www.instagram.com/p/COpS4HABVy2/

TUTH Suicide Hotline: 9840021600

Transcultural Psychosocial Organization-Nepal: 1660 0102005

Patan Hospital Helpline for Suicide Prevention: 9813476123

Check out the works of Psychbigyaan Network Nepal, which Kripa Sigdel founded and is the Executive Director - https://psychbigyaan.com.

Readings:

‘Nepal’s suicide rate vastly underestimated’ - https://www.nepalitimes.com/here-now/nepals-suicide-rate-vastly-underestimated/

‘महामारीले बेरोजगारी, बढ्यो ‘डिप्रेसन’ र आत्महत्या’ - https://ekantipur.com/news/2021/07/21/162683222820863757.html

‘National Mental Health Survey, Nepal-2020 (Factsheets-Adults)’ - http://nhrc.gov.np/publication/national-mental-health-survey-nepal-2020-factsheets-adults/

‘National Mental Health Survey, Nepal-2020 (Factsheets-Adolescents) - http://nhrc.gov.np/publication/national-mental-health-survey-nepal-2020-factsheets-adolescents/

‘National Mental Health Survey, Nepal’ conducted by National Health Research Council - http://nhrc.gov.np/projects/nepal-mental-health-survey-2017-2018/

Pilot Study of National Mental Health Survey, Nepal, September 2018 - http://nhrc.gov.np/publication/pilot-study-of-national-mental-health-survey-nepal/

‘Women Across 17 Countries Report Increased Stress, Household Work Due To Covid-19’ - https://www.forbes.com/sites/dishashetty/2021/01/29/women-across-17-countries-report-increased-stress-household-work-due-to-covid-19

‘Simone Biles Says She Wasn’t Right Mentally During Olympic Final’ - https://www.nytimes.com/live/2021/07/27/sports/gymnastics-olympics-results

‘Mental health struggles are ubiquitous. We are all Naomi Osaka now’ - https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/jun/18/mental-health-struggles-naomi-osaka

‘I wanted more memories’: young people reflect on a year lost to Covid’ - https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/jul/20/covid-young-people-year-lost

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