Boner and Mirror Tarot

What happens when your heart says yes, but your body might be saying something else?

This week I’m joined by Jenna Dayle, intuitive tarot reader and teacher, relational mentor and soon-to-be podcast host, for an episode that starts with two Aces and a Magician and somehow ends up exploring chemistry, safety, self-erasure, desire and what it actually means to choose ourselves within relationship.

Jenna is faced with:

💧 Ace of Cups
🪙 Ace of Pentacles
🪄 The Magician

And must decide who she’d Fuck, Marry, or Push Off a Cliff.

The Magician feels almost suspiciously well-equipped for the fuck pile. There’s skill, curiosity, confidence, possibility; all the tools are quite literally on the table. As Jenna puts it, “The Magician was born to be good at sex.”

Then, there's the Ace of Cups. We talk about chemistry, attraction and the experience of feeling so emotionally drawn towards someone that we begin overriding other information; our boundaries, our bodies, the things we know about what we need. The Ace of Cups becomes an opportunity to ask whether feeling deeply is always the same thing as feeling safely.

And eventually Jenna decides to push it off the cliff.

Gently.

At one point we even have to ask:

“Is polyamory on the table?”

Apparently three cards simply weren't enough.

Jenna Dayle (she/her) is an intuitive tarot reader and teacher, soon-to-be podcast host, and former codependency coach turned relational mentor.

At the heart of Jenna’s work is a calling that continually circles back to helping people build a stable communion with self, life and spirit, and recover from the self-erasure they may have experienced within relationships with others.

Her work weaves together relating, perspective work, transformation, spiritual principles and contemplation, with plenty of laughter, play and fun along the way; making her a particularly perfect person to join me for some questionable relationship decisions on behalf of the tarot.

I’m Molly, founder of Bone & Mirror Tarot, where I explore tarot through depth psychology, embodiment and transpersonal practice.

My work is less interested in predicting the future or finding the “correct” interpretation of a card, and much more interested in what happens when we enter into relationship with an image. I’m fascinated by projection, symbolism, archetype and the strange, surprising ways tarot can show us something about ourselves.

Boner & Mirror Tarot is the slightly more unhinged extension of that work: because sometimes asking “What does this card mean?” gets us somewhere interesting; and sometimes asking “Would you fuck them?” gets us there faster.

I've created Tarot After Dark, a completely free field guide to desire, projection and questionable relationships with archetypes.

Inside you'll find the game from the podcast alongside a collection of other ridiculous ways to get into relationship with the tarot. Underneath the chaos, Tarot After Dark explores some of the ideas at the heart of my work: projection, desire, archetype, and what happens when we stop treating tarot as something to decode and start treating it as something we can have a relationship with.

Download it free via the link in my Instagram bio, grab a deck, and make some terrible decisions of your own.

We take tarot seriously. We just don't take ourselves too seriously.

Would you fuck the Six of Pentacles? Because according to us, “it’s giving sub and dom.”

This week I’m joined by my wonderful friend Hannah for an episode that takes us from positive psychology to power dynamics, independence to fantasy, and eventually to what can only be described as the Fruity Bush card.

Hannah is faced with:

🪙 Six of Pentacles
🌈 Seven of Cups
🌿 Nine of Pentacles

And must decide who she’d Fuck, Marry, or Push Off a Cliff.

We get into giving and receiving, power and reciprocity, fantasy and choice, and the particular appeal of the Nine of Pentacles as someone who has built a rich, full life of their own. The Seven of Cups offers an abundance of possibilities, but Hannah knows what she wants:

“I don’t want an all-night buffet. I want a full meal.”

There is also an unnecessarily detailed examination of the Nine of Pentacles’ fruity bush, the Tower gets assessed for its distinctly phallic qualities, and at several points I completely lose control of my own podcast.

Hannah is a hypnotherapist, speaker and positive psychology student who I first met through one of my tarot immersions back in 2024. Not your traditional “wellness professional”, she brings a slightly more chaotic and joyful approach to taking care of ourselves.

She’s also a tarot enthusiast, using the cards to support both her personal life and her work with clients.

I’m Molly, founder of Bone & Mirror Tarot, where I explore tarot through depth psychology, embodiment and transpersonal practice.

My work is less interested in predicting the future or finding the “correct” interpretation of a card, and much more interested in what happens when we enter into relationship with an image. I’m fascinated by projection, symbolism, archetype and the strange, surprising ways tarot can show us something about ourselves.

Boner & Mirror Tarot is the slightly more unhinged extension of that work: because sometimes asking “What does this card mean?” gets us somewhere interesting; and sometimes asking “Would you fuck them?” gets us there faster.

I've created Tarot After Dark, a completely free field guide to desire, projection and questionable relationships with archetypes.

Inside you'll find the game from the podcast alongside a collection of other ridiculous ways to get into relationship with the tarot; because sometimes asking “Would I marry this card?” tells us far more about ourselves than asking “What does this card mean?”

Download it free via the link in my Instagram bio, grab a deck, and make some terrible decisions of your own.

We take tarot seriously. We just don't take ourselves too seriously.

Is the Emperor marriage material... or just a really hot red flag?

This week I'm joined by my wonderful friend Emma from Fiadhaich Yoga as we pull three cards and play one very important game:

❤️ Fuck
💍 Marry
🪨 Push Off a Cliff

This week's cards:

⚔️ Two of Swords
🎉 Four of Wands
👑 The Emperor

Together we wrestle with structure versus freedom, the tension between control and safety, and why the Emperor might secretly be the perfect long-term partner... if you can separate him from your own projections.

Along the way we also discuss romantasy, Shadow Daddies, ADHD, why the Two of Swords is nobody's favourite dinner guest, and how tarot gives us permission to play with archetypes rather than simply interpret them.

Who would you snog, marry and push off a cliff? Make your choices before hearing ours, then let us know whether you agree, or whether we've completely lost the plot.

I've created Tarot After Dark, a completely free field guide to desire, projection and questionable relationships with archetypes.

Inside you'll find the game from the podcast alongside a collection of other ridiculous ways to get into relationship with the tarot; because sometimes asking “Would I marry this card?” tells us far more about ourselves than asking “What does this card mean?”

Underneath the chaos, Tarot After Dark explores some of the ideas at the heart of my work: projection, desire, archetype, and what happens when we stop treating tarot as something to decode and start treating it as something we can have a relationship with.

Download it free via the link in my Instagram bio, grab a deck, and make some terrible decisions of your own.

Emma is a Scottish Celtic ADHD witch, yoga teacher, Reiki and sound practitioner, and founder of Fiadhaich Yoga.

Her relationship with tarot and spirituality began in her teenage 90s craft-and-Buffy era, eventually becoming part of a much wider journey through spirituality, embodiment and collective practice. After leaving the corporate world to become a yoga teacher... yes, she knows the cliché... Emma began teaching and holding spaces in 2021 and now facilitates yoga, Sacred Women's Circles and retreats alongside her Reiki and sound work.

She founded Fiadhaich Yoga to bring together the practices and tools that have supported her own journey and, importantly, to create community around them. At the heart of her work is the belief that people should be able to explore, grow and be supported without feeling that they need to completely change who they are along the way.

And her relationship with tarot remains wonderfully playful: something that began with making stories from the images rather than memorising a list of meanings, and which continues to be woven through her spiritual life today.

I'm Molly, the creator of Bone & Mirror Tarot.

My approach to tarot is rooted in depth psychology, embodiment, mythology and transpersonal psychology. Rather than predicting the future, I see the cards as mirrors; doorways into understanding ourselves, our stories and the archetypes that shape our lives.

Boner & Mirror Tarot is the cheeky little sibling of that work.

We take tarot seriously; we just don't take ourselves too seriously.

Would you rather marry solitude... heartbreak... or conflict?

This week I'm joined by Victoria from Tarot & Transformation as we pull three cards and play one very important game:

❤️ Fuck
💍 Marry
🪨 Push Off a Cliff

This week's cards:

🧙 The Hermit
💔 Three of Swords
⚔️ Five of Swords

What starts as one of the least romantic line-ups in the tarot quickly becomes a conversation about independence, emotional maturity, the stories our minds create, and what actually makes a relationship sustainable.

We explore the Three of Swords as perhaps the most Cups-like of the Swords, where thought and feeling become entangled. and discover its surprising Alanis Morissette, tortured-artist sex appeal. The Five of Swords gives us rigidity, disconnection and fine, you won... but at what cost? And the Hermit emerges as potentially excellent marriage material: someone capable of being alone, having their own inner life, and returning to relationship because they choose you rather than because they need you.

And then Victoria chooses the Devil as both the sexiest card in the deck AND her biggest red flag, opening up the deeply inconvenient question of whether the qualities that make someone exciting and desirable are sometimes precisely the qualities that make them a terrible idea.

Who would you fuck, marry and push off a cliff?

Make your choices before hearing ours, then let us know whether you agree; or whether we've completely lost the plot.

I've created Tarot After Dark, a completely free field guide to desire, projection and questionable relationships with archetypes.

Inside you'll find the game from the podcast alongside a collection of other ridiculous ways to get into relationship with the tarot; because sometimes asking “Would I marry this card?” tells us far more about ourselves than asking “What does this card mean?”

Underneath the chaos, Tarot After Dark explores some of the ideas at the heart of my work: projection, desire, archetype, and what happens when we stop treating tarot as something to decode and start treating it as something we can have a relationship with.

Download it free via the link in my Instagram bio, grab a deck, and make some terrible decisions of your own.

Victoria is the founder of Tarot & Transformation and an executive coach supporting leaders to balance commercial success with a deeply meaningful life. After spending 12 years in the corporate world, Victoria established her coaching practice and has been integrating tarot into her work since 2016, both in one-to-one coaching and corporate workshops.

She holds a MSc in Consciousness & Spirituality, with her research dissertation exploring the question ‘How Tarot Works’. Alongside her coaching practice, she teaches tarot for personal growth, from complete beginner courses through to mentorship for coaches and therapists who want to integrate tarot into their own work.

Victoria also runs Leading Deeply, a leadership community exploring how we might bring greater depth and meaning into the way we lead.

I'm Molly, the creator of Bone & Mirror Tarot.

My approach to tarot is rooted in depth psychology, embodiment, mythology and transpersonal psychology. Rather than predicting the future, I see the cards as mirrors; doorways into understanding ourselves, our stories and the archetypes that shape our lives.

Boner & Mirror Tarot is the cheeky little sibling of that work.

We take tarot seriously; we just don't take ourselves too seriously.

Heartbreak or poverty? Those were genuinely our choices.

This week I'm joined by Lucy from The Tarot Cake as we pull three cards and play one very important game:

❤️ Fuck
💍 Marry
🪨 Push Off a Cliff

This week's cards:

🔥 Three of Wands
🥀 Five of Cups
🪙 Five of Pentacles

What begins as one of the bleakest card combinations we've seen quickly becomes a conversation about grief, lack, adventure, politics, symbolism, literature, and why the Three of Wands might actually make the perfect partner.

Before you listen... play along. Who would you snog, marry and push off a cliff? Make your choices before hearing ours, then let us know whether you agree; or whether we've completely lost the plot.

I've created Tarot After Dark, a completely free field guide to desire, projection and questionable relationships with archetypes.

Inside you'll find the game from the podcast alongside a collection of other ridiculous ways to get into relationship with the tarot; because sometimes asking “Would I marry this card?” tells us far more about ourselves than asking “What does this card mean?”

Underneath the chaos, Tarot After Dark explores some of the ideas at the heart of my work: projection, desire, archetype, and what happens when we stop treating tarot as something to decode and start treating it as something we can have a relationship with.

Download it free via the link in my Instagram bio, grab a deck, and make some terrible decisions of your own.

Lucy is the creator of The Tarot Cake, where she reviews tarot decks and writes wonderfully in-depth explorations of tarot symbolism and card meanings.

Alongside her tarot work, Lucy is an academic whose research focuses on sex, sexuality, pornography and sexually explicit media. With a background in psychology, she approaches tarot through the lens of symbolism, collective archetypes and meaning-making, blending a largely secular perspective with a healthy appreciation for the mystery that keeps us all coming back to the cards.

I'm Molly, the creator of Bone and Mirror Tarot.

My approach to tarot is rooted in depth psychology, embodiment, mythology and transpersonal psychology. Rather than predicting the future, I see the cards as mirrors; doorways into understanding ourselves, our stories, and the archetypes that shape our lives.

Boner & Mirror Tarot is the cheeky little sibling of that work.

We take tarot seriously... we just don't take ourselves too seriously.

Would you marry authenticity... or the Empress?

This week I’m joined by Lane Smith, author of 78 Acts of Liberation: Tarot to Transform Our World, as we pull three cards and play one very important game:

❤️ Fuck

💍 Marry

🪨 Push Off a Cliff

This week’s cards:

🥾 Eight of Cups

🌿 The Empress

🙃 The Hanged Man

What begins as a ridiculous game quickly becomes a conversation about authenticity, embodiment, desire, projection, relationships, kink, astrology, boundaries, and why sometimes the card you push off the cliff is the one you’ve already learned the lesson from.

As always, the ridiculousness is part of the point. What happens when we stop asking what a tarot card means and start imagining what it might actually be like to be in relationship with it? Which qualities do we desire? Which make us feel safe? Which ones have we already spent quite enough time learning from, thank you very much?

Before you listen... play along!

Who would you fuck, marry, and push off a cliff?

Make your choices before hearing ours, then let us know whether you agree; or whether we’ve completely lost the plot.

About my guest

Lane Smith (they/he) is a transgender writer and activist living in Baltimore City, Maryland, and the author of 78 Acts of Liberation: Tarot to Transform Our World (Sounds True, 2024), a book exploring tarot as a tool for personal and collective liberation.

Lane also has a personal essay on the Tower in the forthcoming Major Arcana Anthology: 22 Tarot Experts Share Their Stories, edited by Jane Meredith (Llewellyn, 2026), and a piece of flash fiction in Volume 3 of The Rebis, a print anthology celebrating tarot, art and creative writing.

Their work brings tarot into conversation with writing, activism, social justice and liberation, asking what our symbolic practices might reveal not only about ourselves but about the worlds and structures we inhabit. Lane is also an unwaged single parent of two young children and, in their own words, a “quadruple Sagittarian menace.”

You can find Lane on Instagram at @leftlanesmith, Bluesky at @leftlanesmith.bsky.social, and through their website.

About your host

I’m Molly, the creator of Bone & Mirror Tarot.

My approach to tarot is rooted in depth psychology, embodiment, mythology and transpersonal psychology. Rather than predicting the future, I see the cards as mirrors; doorways into understanding ourselves, our stories and the archetypes that shape our lives.

Boner & Mirror Tarot is the cheeky little sibling of that work.

We take tarot seriously; we just don’t take ourselves too seriously.

Want to play with your own cards?

I’ve created Tarot After Dark, a completely free field guide to desire, projection and questionable relationships with archetypes.

Inside you’ll find the game from the podcast alongside a collection of other ridiculous ways to get into relationship with the tarot; because sometimes asking “Would I marry this card?” tells us far more about ourselves than asking “What does this card mean?”

Underneath the chaos, Tarot After Dark explores some of the ideas at the heart of my work: projection, desire, archetype, and what happens when we stop treating tarot as something to decode and start treating it as something we can have a relationship with.

Download it free via the link in my Instagram bio, grab a deck, and make some terrible decisions of your own.

Would you marry the Queen of Swords... or the Nine of Pentacles?

This week I'm joined by Bre Lee from The Story Tarot as we pull three cards and play one very important game:

❤️ Fuck
💍 Marry
🪨 Push Off a Cliff

This week's cards:

🍇 Nine of Pentacles
⚔️ Queen of Swords
🔥 King of Wands

What begins as a playful game quickly becomes a conversation about people-pleasing, boundaries, receiving, desire, storytelling, and why some archetypes feel less like symbols and more like people we've dated.

Who would you snog, marry and push off a cliff? Make your choices before hearing ours, then let us know whether you agree; or whether we've completely lost the plot.

I've created Tarot After Dark, a completely free field guide to desire, projection and questionable relationships with archetypes.

Inside you'll find the game from the podcast alongside other ridiculous ways to get into relationship with the tarot; because sometimes asking “Would I marry this card?” tells us far more about ourselves than asking “What does this card mean?”

Underneath the chaos, Tarot After Dark explores some of the ideas at the heart of my work: projection, desire, archetype, and what happens when we stop treating tarot as something to decode and start treating it as something we can have a relationship with.

Download it free via the link in my Instagram bio, grab a deck, and make some questionable decisions of your own.

Bre Lee is the creator of The Story Tarot, where she teaches tarot through the power of story.

A lifelong lover of books, mythology and memorable characters, Bre approaches tarot as a cast of living archetypes; figures who challenge us, encourage us and help us better understand our own stories. Her work reminds us that learning tarot isn't about memorising meanings; it's about building relationships with the characters who keep showing up in our lives.

I'm Molly, the creator of Bone and Mirror Tarot.

My approach to tarot is rooted in depth psychology, embodiment, mythology and transpersonal psychology. Rather than predicting the future, I see the cards as mirrors; doorways into understanding ourselves, our stories and the archetypes that shape our lives.

Boner and Mirror Tarot is the cheeky little sibling of that work.

We take tarot seriously; we just don't take ourselves too seriously.

Would you marry community... or a once-in-a-lifetime love affair?

This week I’m joined by Rosie from Wild Oracle as we pull three cards and play one very important game:

❤️ Fuck
💍 Marry
🪨 Push Off a Cliff

This week’s cards:

🥂 Three of Cups
❤️ The Lovers
🏆 Nine of Cups

What begins as one of the most joyful line-ups we’ve seen quickly becomes a conversation about friendship, belonging, passion, identity and the importance of maintaining a sense of self within intimacy.

We also somehow conclude that the Nine of Cups is a smug little bastard.

Who would you snog, marry and push off a cliff?

Make your choices before hearing ours, then let us know whether you agree; or whether we’ve completely lost the plot.

I’ve created Tarot After Dark, a completely free field guide to desire, projection and questionable relationships with archetypes.

Inside you’ll find the game from the podcast alongside a collection of other ridiculous ways to get into relationship with the tarot; because sometimes asking “Would I marry this card?” tells us far more about ourselves than asking “What does this card mean?”

Underneath the chaos, Tarot After Dark explores some of the ideas at the heart of my work: projection, desire, archetype and the tarot as a mirror rather than a collection of meanings to memorise.

Download it free via the link in my Instagram bio, grab a deck, and make some terrible decisions of your own.

Rosie is a transformational coach specialising in shadow work, dreamwork, tarot, magick, intuitive sound healing and psychedelic integration.

Holding an MSc in Transpersonal Psychology, Spirituality and Consciousness, her practice weaves together science and mysticism. She supports people in moving towards greater wholeness by integrating unconscious aspects of the psyche and helping them confidently share their unique gifts with the world.

Rosie describes tarot as a “bottomless pit of meaning”; a practice that brings both clarity and a deeper relationship with the great mystery.

I’m Molly, the creator of Bone and Mirror Tarot.

My approach to tarot is rooted in depth psychology, embodiment, mythology and transpersonal psychology. Rather than predicting the future, I see the cards as mirrors; doorways into understanding ourselves, our stories and the archetypes that shape our lives.

Boner and Mirror Tarot is the cheeky little sibling of that work.

We take tarot seriously; we just don’t take ourselves too seriously.

The Star was an easy “marry”... but choosing between two Wands? That’s where things got interesting.

This week I’m joined by Jessica as we pull three cards and play one very important game:

❤️ Fuck
💍 Marry
🪨 Push Off a Cliff

This week’s cards:

⭐ The Star
🔥 Page of Wands
🔥 Nine of Wands

Together we explore hope after hardship, what makes someone feel like home, why the Page of Wands has unmistakable golden retriever energy, and whether enthusiasm is actually more attractive than experience.

Who would you snog, marry, and push off a cliff? Make your choices before hearing ours, then let us know whether you agree; or whether we’ve completely lost the plot.

I’ve created Tarot After Dark, a completely free field guide to desire, projection and questionable relationships with archetypes.

Inside you’ll find the game from the podcast alongside a collection of other ridiculous ways to get into relationship with the tarot; because sometimes asking “Would I marry this card?” tells us far more about ourselves than asking “What does this card mean?”

Underneath the chaos, Tarot After Dark explores some of the ideas at the heart of my work: projection, desire, archetype and the tarot as a mirror rather than a collection of meanings to memorise.

Download it free via the link in my Instagram bio, grab a deck, and make some terrible decisions of your own.

Jessica is a meditation guide, tarot reader, and founder of Sync Up; a platform dedicated to helping facilitators share their events and bring people together through meaningful wellness experiences.

She describes herself as someone who feels deeply, leads with intuition, and is very playful by nature. Her work is centred around helping people reconnect with themselves by creating spaces for vulnerability, self-reflection, and the parts of ourselves we often avoid. Through both her personal work and Sync Up, she’s passionate about building genuine community and making meaningful connection more accessible.

I’m Molly, the creator of Bone and Mirror Tarot.

My approach to tarot is rooted in depth psychology, embodiment, mythology, and transpersonal psychology. Rather than predicting the future, I see the cards as mirrors; doorways into understanding ourselves, our stories, and the archetypes that shape our lives.

Boner and Mirror Tarot is the cheeky little sibling of that work.

We take tarot seriously; we just don’t take ourselves too seriously.

Would you marry clarity, nostalgia... or moving on?

This week I'm joined by Orlaith from Stella Esoterica as we pull three cards and play one very important game:

❤️ Fuck
💍 Marry
🪨 Push Off a Cliff

This week's cards:

🗡️ Ace of Swords
🌸 Six of Cups
⛵ Six of Swords

What begins as a simple game quickly becomes a conversation about inner child work, mythology, Jungian psychology, astrology, tantra, Joseph Campbell, and what it really means to move forward without abandoning the past.

Before you listen... play along!

Who would you fuck, marry and push off a cliff? Make your choices before hearing ours, then let us know whether you agree; or whether we've completely lost the plot.

I've created Tarot After Dark, a completely free field guide to desire, projection and questionable relationships with archetypes.

Inside you'll find the game from the podcast alongside a collection of other ridiculous ways to get into relationship with the tarot; because sometimes asking “Would I marry this card?” tells us far more about ourselves than asking “What does this card mean?”

Underneath the chaos, Tarot After Dark explores some of the ideas at the heart of my work: projection, desire, archetype and the tarot as a mirror rather than a collection of meanings to memorise.

Download it free via the link: Tarot After Dark

Orlaith is an Irish astrologer and tarot reader based in Edinburgh, Scotland.

Through her years of studying both Psychological and Hellenistic Astrology, alongside archetypal tarot informed by depth psychology, Orlaith connects ancient symbols with intuitive and embodied knowing. She helps people develop conscious awareness and new ways of seeing, reframing their place as one within a living, ensouled cosmos full of meaning.

You can find Orlaith on Instagram at @stella.esoterica and through her website.

I'm Molly, the creator of Bone and Mirror Tarot.

My approach to tarot is rooted in depth psychology, embodiment, mythology and transpersonal psychology. Rather than predicting the future, I see the cards as mirrors; doorways into understanding ourselves, our stories and the archetypes that shape our lives.

Boner and Mirror Tarot is the cheeky little sibling of that work.

We take tarot seriously; we just don't take ourselves too seriously.