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Bonus: Encountering God Beyond the Church Walls with Cindy Black


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What does it really mean to live an integrated faith life? In this powerful bonus episode, Father John Gribowich sits down with Cindy Black, a 26-year veteran of Catholic ministry, for an intimate conversation about discovering God in unexpected places and people.

Cindy shares her compelling journey from a "porta crib Catholic" who rarely attended Mass to becoming a passionate minister serving in youth ministry, diocesan leadership, Catholic radio, and parish evangelization. But this isn't just another conversion story, it's a profound exploration of how God shows up in bar conversations with atheists, friendships with those the church has wounded, and the sacred space of simply listening without agenda.

Through raw honesty and vulnerability, Cindy and Father John tackle the messy realities of ministry today moving beyond "winning arguments" to genuine encounter, and recognizing that every person, regardless of their beliefs or lifestyle, reveals something about the mystery of God's love.

If you've ever felt that your strongest encounters with God happened outside traditional church settings, or if you're wrestling with how to authentically love people the church has marginalized, this conversation will resonate deeply.

In This Bonus Episode, We Explore:

Finding Faith Through Witness (0:00 - 7:00)

  • Cindy's journey from occasional Mass attendance to active faith
  • The transformative influence of her Catholic grandparents
  • How her grandparents embodied Theology of the Body before it was taught
  • The moment she encountered God's love while holding her newborn daughter
  • From Relational Ministry to Radical Love (7:00 - 14:00)

    • The Christ Renew His Parish retreat that changed everything
    • Moving beyond "relational ministry with an ulterior motive"
    • Understanding that truth isn't moral ideals—it's a Person whose identity is love
    • Encountering God through unexpected friendships at a bar
    • God in the Margins (14:00 - 22:00)

      • Father John's reflection on the Eucharist as lens for seeing God everywhere
      • Why the strongest encounters with God often happen outside church structures
      • The sacredness of face-to-face conversation in a dehumanized world
      • Suffering as the great unifier across political and religious divides
      • Accompaniment Over Conversion (22:00 - 31:00)

        • Moving from "winning arguments" to walking alongside people
        • The complex pastoral situation of accompanying a trans individual seeking baptism
        • What baptism really means when we don't fully understand how grace works
        • Simone Weil's paradox: refusing baptism to avoid separating herself from others
        • Formation as Transformation (31:00 - 40:00)

          • What faith formation really means (hint: it's not just theology classes)
          • Avoiding the "consumer Catholic" trap
          • Why the disciples didn't need seminary degrees to transform the world
          • Interior integration versus compartmentalization
          • The Art of Accompaniment (40:00 - 52:00)

            • Pope Francis's call to "remove our sandals at the sacredness of the other"
            • How a barber brought four people to faith this year
            • Treating every interaction—even with store clerks—as eternal encounter
            • The prophetic practice of listening without agenda
            • Meet Our Guest

              Cindy Black has served in Catholic ministry for 26 years across multiple roles including youth ministry director, diocesan director of youth and young adult ministry (9 years), Catholic radio station team member (8 years), and currently serves in the Office of Evangelization at her home parish in Indiana. She specializes in accompanying those becoming Catholic and teaches Theology of the Body. Cindy is known for her radical openness to encountering God in unexpected people and places, and her commitment to witnessing God's love without judgment or agenda.

              Memorable Quotes

              "The truth isn't a set of moral ideals. The truth is a person whose identity is love." - Cindy Black

              "If every relationship and every encounter I want what's best for the person in front of me that's made in the image and likeness of God, whether they believe it or not, or believe in God or not... the world would be transformed." - Cindy Black

              "God is either everything, Christ is either everything or he is nothing." - Father John

              "My job in ministry is to be witnesses... and to not be an obstacle to get in the way of what the Lord wants to do in somebody." - Cindy Black

              "The most prophetic way to live the Christian life in the context we're living in today is to radically listen without agenda when we encounter people." - Father John

              "We've forgotten that we belong to each other." - Mother Teresa (quoted by Cindy)

              "Modern man listens more to witnesses than teachers. And if we listen to teachers, it's because they're first witnesses." - Pope Paul VI (quoted by Cindy)

              Resources Mentioned

              Books & Teachings

              • Pope Francis: The Joy of the Gospel (Evangelii Gaudium) - Essential reading on the art of accompaniment and removing our sandals at the sacredness of the other
              • St. Augustine: Confessions - Classic spiritual autobiography referenced as teaching resource
              • St. Thomas Aquinas - Referenced as theological teaching resource
              • Theology of the Body (Pope John Paul II) - Teaching framework Cindy uses, exemplified by her grandparents
              • Catholic Programs

                • Christ Renews His Parish - Parish-based retreat program that catalyzed Cindy's deep encounter with God
                • RCIA/OCIA - Traditional terminology for "Becoming Catholic" program
                • "Becoming Catholic" - Cindy's parish's accessible name for the initiation process
                • Key People Mentioned

                  • Dave Plisky - Religion to Reality host
                  • Michael Dopp - Cindy's colleague who teaches on evangelization
                  • Pope Paul VI - Quoted: "Modern man listens more to witnesses than teachers"
                  • Mother Teresa - Quoted on remembering we belong to each other
                  • St. Vincent de Paul - Parish patron; quoted: "It's not enough if I love God, if my neighbor doesn't also love him"
                  • Simone Weil - 20th century mystic who chose not to be baptized to avoid separation from others
                  • Theological Concepts

                    • Original sin as "original brokenness"
                    • The Trinity as mutual self-giving love
                    • Sacramental worldview
                    • Interior integration vs. compartmentalization
                    • The four pillars of discipleship from Acts of the Apostles: intimacy with God (prayer), worship, formation, and community
                    • Connect With Us
                      • Visit religiontoreality.org
                      • Learn More About the Discipleship Study: Religion to Reality is built on comprehensive research into how Catholics are living their faith today. Visit our website for more details and resources from the study.

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