A few months ago there was a consent scandal in my community. When I say scandal—I mean there was a long discussion on Facebook—started by one man who was angry that he had heard about some women having rapey experiences with men, and to him that wasn’t okay. And it’s not okay. My community and our […]

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My Dad is in his mid-60s, and the rate at which his friends are getting prostate cancer is staggering. It seems as though every time I talk to him he tells me about someone else who got diagnosed. It’s become so commonplace that I started to do research, and discovered that 1 in 7 men living […]

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Most of the entrepreneurs I know are workaholics. Workaholism is an addiction to being busy. It’s a constant need for more — more growth, more revenue, more scaling, and like any addiction, there is never enough. Over time it becomes an obsession, and we are driven mindlessly by the idea that somewhere in the not-so-distant future […]

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Here’s to all the companies I never led,Here’s to all the women I never wed.Here’s to all the kids I didn’t sire,Here’s to all the coaches I didn’t hire. Here’s to all the books I didn’t write,Here’s to all the battles I didn’t fight.Here’s to all the degrees I never got,Here’s to all the awards I […]

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When I talk to people about open relationships the first question they usually ask is “how do you deal with jealousy”? It’s a great question, because jealousy is often hard to deal with. As open relationships become more popular and couples open themselves up to new experiences, everyone wants to be that partner who’s “not […]

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How quickly we forget history. Lately there has been a rash of articles and videos accusing millennials of being selfish, entitled, narcissistic, lazy and having little to no attention span. They are right, and also completely wrong. That’s because millennials are all those things — selfish, lazy and entitled, but those character traits have nothing to […]

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Let’s get this out of the way first. I’m a happily divorced, ethically non-monogamous guy who thinks marriage ruins relationships — so take what I’m saying with a grain of salt. What I’m going to suggest will be wildly unpopular among “normal” people, since it goes against everything we’ve been taught to believe about marriage. Ready […]

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The world is inside you,And I hope that’s good news.Not just joy and beauty,Or the things that you choose. There’s nothing in othersThat you don’t possess,Although there are timesYou may not confess. Every emotion,Every kind of thought,Every part of nature,There’s nothing you’re not. So if you meet someoneYou don’t want to be,Remember it’s you,You don’t […]

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As a musician, sometimes live music feels like Chinese water torture, because I notice all the ways the performers fall short of my hopes and expectations. I notice the gimmicks, the lack of originality and I notice the way people phone it in instead of really being present with the audience — and it drives […]

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Let me see if I get this right… You don’t like that someone else is triggered because you judge their upset as trivial and meaningless. Makes sense. Then you call them out and become visibly agitated by the fact that they’re triggered. Now you’re triggered that they’re triggered. Hang on a sec… You don’t like that […]

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