Intelligent Intoxication

Boredom As An Empty-Nester


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In this episode, we explore boredom — that restless, itchy feeling that something’s missing, even when life is calm. After years of being needed and scheduled, the quiet can feel both freeing and frustrating. Boredom isn’t a sign of failure — it’s a sign of readiness. Your soul is waking up and looking for new places to pour your energy and creativity.
Key Takeaways:
  • Boredom is restlessness without direction — it means you have energy again but nowhere meaningful to place it yet.
  • After years of structure and caretaking, your nervous system is adjusting to stillness.
  • The remedy isn’t more busyness — it’s curiosity. Ask yourself: “What lights me up now?”
  • Boredom can actually be a beautiful sign that you’ve rested enough to want more — it’s your inner spark flickering back on.
  • Give yourself permission to be in the in-between — not rushing to fill the space, but allowing inspiration to find you again.
  • Boredom is actually an invitation to explore the new and novel. 
    Reflection Questions:
    • Where do I feel that flicker of curiosity or desire lately — even if it’s faint?
    • What in my life feels predictable or stale?
    • What feels dull or repetitive in my days right now?
    • If I could design a day that felt engaging or alive, what would it include?
    • Where am I secretly craving adventure or risk?
    • What might feel playful or just for fun?
    • Where am I desiring novelty, beauty, or creativity?
    • What am I longing to learn, try, or express in this next season?
    • What might delight me today?

      Try This:
      • Shift your routine — change your scenery, your music, or the rhythm of your day.
      • Give yourself permission to play again — try something new without the pressure to be good at it or to be “productive”. 
      • Instead of asking, “What should I be doing?” ask, “What feels interesting or alive to me today?”
      • Engage your senses — cook something new, take a different route, listen to live music, visit an art gallery, or simply sit in nature.
      • Keep a “spark list” — jot down anything that stirs curiosity or delight, no matter how small.
      • Get curious about the type of play you enjoy:
        Types of Play

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        Intelligent IntoxicationBy Terri Bradway

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