KEY TOPICS: 4 births, natural deliveries, nuchal cord, late miscarriage, birth trauma, functional neurological disorder
Please note there is discussion of loss in this emotional episode of two halves, as we meet brave local mother Vanessa Correa who describes her four birth experiences.
Vanessa begins by fondly recalling how she was engaged, married and a mother... all by the age of 20. She and her husband welcomed their first baby after a good pregnancy and long labour, in the summer of 2004. They settled into family life, although Vanessa shares some funny anecdotes of how their son never seemed to sleep!
Soon after, the couple discovered they were expecting again. After another straightforward pregnancy and long labour, their second son was born in 2006. We chat about what it's like to raise teens and young adults with differing personalities.
At the start of 2013, Vanessa and her husband were devastated by the spontaneous late miscarriage of their third baby, a little girl at 21 weeks. She speaks bravely about trying to come to terms with grief, with no obvious answers... and factors that made the situation worse. Later that same year, the unthinkable happened - another late miscarriage, another little girl, this time at 19 weeks. It's an incredibly difficult listen as Vanessa describes insensitive comments and a lack of counselling, as she and her husband supported each other in their darkest grief - while continuing to parent their young sons.
Although very rare, late miscarriages do happen in 2-3% of pregnancies... and it's Vanessa's hope that sharing her story may offer support to others grieving the loss of a child. She spoke so bravely about her parenting journey and the longer-term physical impacts, including her functional neurological disorder potentially linked to the stress of her birth trauma. This episode honours the memory of Vanessa's two daughters (Recorded January 2026).
If you've been affected by topics raised in this episode, please find support at:
GibSams by free phone 116 123, Whatsapp 56003612 or online: gibsams.gi/
BabyStepps (Support Through Early Parenthood & Pregnancy): www.facebook.com/babystepps.gibraltar/
Sands: www.sands.org.uk
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