Both On Board

Working well with your spouse can often be enough of a challenge, but what happens when you try to offer them advice as well? Have you ever been in a situation where your partner resented the coaching that you tried to give them? There's a good chance that it's because you made some small but significant mistakes in your approach.

In this episode, Ray and Christy go over the tactics and techniques that will help you be more effective when trying to coach your spouse or significant other, while still maintaining your relationship.

Show Highlights Include:

• Why the small difference between being a good coach and a great coach can save your marriage from disaster (8:55)
• Avoid marital catastrophe by not attempting to coach your spouse in these specific areas (10:14)
• Before you lash out, ask yourself this question when you begin to get frustrated at your partner's decisions (15:40)
• The subtle way you strangle your spouse's potential even though you think you're helping (17:58)
• This simple question will help you reveal the right time to take that next step you've been considering (19:37)
• To be a good coach to your partner, avoiding this one relationship-killing mistake is crucial (29:21)

Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on "7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples" and level up your life, business, and relationship.

Have you ever been in a situation where someone else "triggered" you? It probably left you feeling angry or frustrated for the rest of the day. The problem with that is, when it happens, it winds up stealing all your time and energy from more productive tasks.

In this episode, Ray and Christy dive deep into what causes you to be triggered, questions to help refocus your emotions and the best ways to overcome that anger.

Show Highlights Include:

• The surprising way that triggering events are actually the best thing that could happen to you (4:46)
• Make this one quick mindset shift when you are angry, and you'll never be frustrated with other people ever again (5:58)
• Why being quick to label situations as "wrong" is keeping you from reaching your full potential (10:05)
• How the judgments you make about other people reveal your own shortcomings and insecurities (15:18)
• When someone sends you into a blind rage, defuse the situation by asking this one simple question (15:54)
• The astonishing reason you can't stop projecting your emotions on to other people, and how to break the cycle (17:43)
• 5 steps you can take to show compassion to others and stop living your life in fear (28:40)

Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on "7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples" and level up your life, business, and relationship.

When two people come together for anything, be it a relationship or a business, things can get complicated. You have different personalities, different ideas, and different opinions. If you've ever felt out of sync with your partner, you know how bad things can get as a result.

In this episode, Ray and Christy discuss what it means to be "Both on Board." They talk about why the differences you and your partner have can actually make you stronger, the first step you MUST take to get your partner on board, and more...

Show Highlights Include:

• The #1 way you can be "on board" with your spouse in your life and business, and put a stop to the tension and fighting (6:14)
• The secret to challenging your partner to make sure you are not being left behind or steamrolled (9:45)
• The commonly overlooked way disagreement can help prevent future disasters from occurring (10:50)
• How to break free of the cycle of problems looping in your head and stop wasting time and money (14:21)
• Why discussing difficult things can help you push through your lowest moments together (17:02)
• The almost magical technique for getting your spouse on board with you, even when they think you're dead wrong (21:07)

Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on "7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples" and level up your life, business, and relationship.

Have you ever felt like you would be far more successful in your business (and personal) life if your spouse just supported you more? If they understood you better? Chances are, you're making some critical mistakes in the way you are trying to involve them. In this episode, Ray and Christy are interviewed by Tim Bratz and go into the best ways to reassure a skeptical spouse, ease your partner into your business and more.

Show Highlights Include:

• How to broaden the entrepreneurial mindset of a worrying spouse to reduce conflict and get unstuck (11:43)
• Is your spouse skeptical of your entrepreneurial adventures? Instead of trying to change them, do this instead and end the fighting (12:07)
• If you're feeling disconnected from your spouse, you can do this activity together to bridge the gap and become close again (14:34)
• Do you need to "burn the ships?" Here's one way to find out (16:08)
• The secret to building a successful entrepreneurial partnership with your significant other (22:03)
• The absolute WORST thing you can do when trying to get your partner involved in your business (23:50)
• This productivity technique could be the secret to a smoothly running business… and relationship (31:20)

Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on "7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples" and level up your life, business, and relationship.

If you're like most of us, you've probably found yourself stuck in a situation where it seemed like everything you did was for someone else, yet you still felt bad. No matter how hard you tried to take care of your spouse and your kids, things still weren't working.

In this episode, Ray and Christy take a deep dive into how to be selfish (the right way), how to avoid the devastating results of comparison and how to take care of yourself without neglecting the other parts of your life.

Show Highlights Include:

• How to release the overwhelming feelings of guilt that go along with putting yourself first, and why it is essential for those who rely on you (4:45)
• Why taking care of external needs leaves you feeling empty and how to make yourself feel whole again (12:53)
• The 2 essential steps you must take when you start comparing yourself to others to reclaim your own identity (18:22)
• How the "unsubscribe" approach can help you crush anxiety and focus only on the things that bring you peace of mind (21:00)
• Why trying to be the "good mom" is actually making you a worse parent… and person (23:24)
• The simple method for getting anything you want in life, without taking advantage of your partner (31:53)

Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on "7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples" and level up your life, business, and relationship.

Do you ever find yourself frustrated or feeling like you're out of control of your situation? No matter what the circumstances, how you respond to them can make all the difference.

In this episode, Ray and Christy discuss the difference between reacting and responding to a situation, as well as techniques for handling difficult people, rebounding from bad decisions, and more.

Show Highlights Include:

• How knowing the difference between responding and reacting can lift you from failure to success (2:07)
• Changing this one element of any situation will make you a better entrepreneur, spouse, and parent (6:20)
• Try this to bounce back quickly from bad choices that leave you angry with yourself (10:30)
• Take this game-changing approach to any outcome and end frustration for good (16:28)
• You can focus on this one simple thing to improve every interaction you have with another person (18:03)
• The mindset shift that helps you avoid a downward spiral in triggering situations (27:07)
• Stop using these two words right now to immediately begin repairing broken relationships (36:25)

Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on "7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples" and level up your life, business, and relationship.

If you've ever felt frustrated trying to run a business with your spouse or partner, this episode is for you. Differences in mindset, goals, or financial priorities are just a few of the many hurdles that must be overcome when working together.

In this episode, featuring Corey and Shelley Peterson, Ray and Christy dive deep into these issues and many more, providing advice and solutions for creating a stronger business and relationship.

Show Highlights Include:

• The first and most important mindset shift you must make when beginning your entrepreneurial journey (5:00)
• The secret to working together successfully as a couple (6:30)
• How to combine your strengths with your partner's strengths to exponentially multiply your results (16:11)
• Is it possible to balance two "alpha" personalities in a partnership? It is if you do this (19:37)
• The importance of knowing when to turn off the business side of your relationship (23:51)
• The counterintuitive method to stop failing to meet your goals (27:56)
• How to share difficult things with your partner without hurting their feelings (43:20)

Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on "7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples" and level up your life, business, and relationship.

If you've ever been faced with a major life decision, you know how tough it can be to be certain you're doing the right thing. And when you add another person (or people) to the mix it becomes even more challenging.

In this episode, Ray and Christy share their methods for working together as partners in making major decisions, how to know when your ego is trying to take over, and opening yourself up to signs from the universe.

Show Highlights Include:

• How to determine what is a coincidence and what is a sign from the universe (13:29)
• This simple test reveals whether your desire for change is coming from your heart or your ego (14:57)
• The mind-blowingly obvious way you can tell if a decision is right for you (19:58)
• Stop asking if you "need" to make a change and ask yourself this question instead (22:46)
• What "flaming rings" can tell you about your decisions… if you pay attention (26:19)

Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to our website http://bothonboard.com/ to get your free special report on "7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples" and level up your life, business, and relationship.

Struggling with the swings between emotional highs and lows? Feel like it's impossible to balance responsibilities with your family and in your business?

In today's episode, Ray and Christy discuss Lifeonaire, an impactful and highly-recommended book, and share some advice on discussing big decisions with your partner, how to find the stable middle ground in difficult emotional times and much more…

Show Highlights Include:

• How to overcome the limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck (14:53)
• To-do list causing a feeling of dread in the pit of your stomach? Try this list instead to change it to joy (18:12)
• The surprising link between your energy and your experiences (22:33)
• This one thing will create more growth and progress in your life than anything else (26:40)
• The life-changing magic of being selfish with your time(28:17)
• How to repair the emotional wreckage caused by "fickleness" (32:34)
• The misunderstood power of slowing down to get more done (38:30)

Ready to co-create the perfect life with your partner? Head over to our website to get your free special report on "7 Game-changers for Highly Effective Entrepreneurial Couples" and level up your life, business, and relationship.

You need to give up control to allow co-creation to happen. Are you trying to force things to happen? Struggling to remain in control at all times and feeling like everything is continually out of grasp? We can actually control very little in our lives and that's why we need to learn to let go. This episode of Both on Board is all about giving up control, meeting God halfway, and allowing things to happen.

• [0:45] Creating vs. making things happen
• [3:10] Control something vs. allowing
• [7:45] Control leaves no room for joy
• [9:00] Always return to a place of joy
• [16:20] How do you identify where you're at?
• [18:15] Learn to operate out of discernment
• [22:20] What are you attracting, choosing, and creating?

If you're going out and grinding day-in and day-out and trying to will things into existence, you're operating out of fear. You need to learn to see when you're forcing things to happen instead of aligning with what is supposed to. The old adage is God's delays are not God's denials.

But honestly, sometimes God's delays ARE his denials.

If you're trying to force into existence something that isn't meant to be, maybe God IS saying this isn't for you. As entrepreneurs, we want to control everything. But the truth is we can only control how we react, and the decisions we make.

Operating out of a place of controlling everything means you're operating out of fear. Out of scarcity. When I was pregnant, I tried to control every little thing. I read books, I did research, I tried to manage everything I ate and did. I found myself constantly frustrated and was driving myself absolutely crazy. It was honestly hard on us both.

I couldn't control the pregnancy or how things would go. I was struggling and suffering. As Ray likes to put it, I had to shut-up and allow room for grace. I needed to start to focus on what felt good for me, not on what I think I needed to do. The better you feel, the better you show up—and I needed to show up for my baby.

So I signed up for a course to teach Yoga. I did something that would bring me joy and started the process of beginning to let go. I wasn't going to let my desire to control everything steal my joy.

So how do you begin to operate in a place of joy, instead of out of fear? We like to start the day off on a high—meditate, do yoga, etc. Do whatever it is that centers you and starts from a place of gratefulness. Then, you set up checkpoints for yourself throughout the day to reflect on your actions and reactions.

Are you acting from a place of stress?

Are you making excuses?

Are you allowing external circumstances dictate how you feel?

If you take a few moments a day to realign yourself you gain perspective. Perspective allows you to align with the co-creator and take aligned action. Do your part. Give 100% of what you have and allow the creator to meet you. Don't force or dictate what you want to happen.

Giving up control doesn't mean you make decisions hastily. But we believe you need to lead with your heart first, then your head. Your head is analytical and leads from a place of fear. Lead with your heart. Check-in with your "gut" feeling. Why do you feel the way you feel? Where is the feeling coming from?

Address how you feel, talk about it, confront it, and then make decisions. Find the truth.

Co-creating with each other, with God, and with the universe means making a plan—but don't become attached to the outcome. Be humble and ask for help when necessary. But remember you don't have to do it all. That's not how things were meant to be.

Listen to the whole episode of Both on Board for our full thoughts on co-creation, giving up control, and living in a place of peace, love, joy, and abundance.

Happy New Year!

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• Money and the Law of Attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks

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