Needed Conversations with Ryan and Viktoriya Cole

Boundaries, Betrayal & Building Back Trust


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In this powerful episode of Needed Conversations, we discuss one of the most difficult topics couples face—betrayal—and how to rebuild trust after it's been broken. Whether you're dealing with infidelity, financial mistrust, addiction, or emotional affairs, this episode offers hope and practical tools to help you navigate the road to restoration.

We unpack the crucial difference between disclosure and discovery, and why voluntary confession is a key factor in a couple’s ability to reconcile after betrayal. You'll learn why healthy boundaries aren't punishment but safeguards that protect your marriage, and how both partners must engage in personal healing to truly rebuild.

Is healing possible after betrayal?

Yes! Research shows that 60-75% of couples recover when they seek help, set clear boundaries, and commit to doing the hard work.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why couples often wait too long to ask for help
  • The difference between disclosure vs. discovery
  • Setting boundaries & not viewing them as punishment
  • How past trauma and rejection can impact your response to betrayal
  • Practical steps for rebuilding trust and restoring intimacy
  • Encouragement for both the betrayed and the betrayer


You're not alone—whether you're currently facing betrayal or walking alongside someone who is, this episode is filled with truth, tools, and hope to guide you forward.

00:00 Introduction: Boundaries, Betrayal, and Trust

00:26 Disclosure vs. Discovery in Infidelity

01:11 Setting Boundaries and Overcommunication

01:36 Real Repentance and Personal Reflection

02:33 Series Recap: When Love Gets Tough

03:37 The Importance of Early Counseling

05:02 Rebuilding Trust: Individual and Couple's Work

06:29 The Role of Pastors and Professional Help

08:31 Different Forms of Betrayal

11:00 Disclosure as a Sign of Willingness to Change

20:17 Forgiveness vs. Trust Restoration

21:35 Understanding Boundaries in Marriage

22:41 Personal Boundaries and Safeguards

25:36 Accountability Measures

30:11 The Role of Forgiveness and Healing

32:09 Impact of Past Relationships

39:25 Encouragement and Hope for Couples

41:14 Conclusion and Upcoming Topics

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