Un-Muddying the waters

Boundaries, Boldness & Becoming: Leading from Limits


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šŸŽ™ļø Unmuddying the Waters – Episode 8

Title: Boundaries, Boldness & Becoming: Leading from Limits

Guest: Cece Bosah (Early Years Leader, Singer-Songwriter)
Host: Joshua Okunlola
Duration: 20 mins

šŸ” Episode Summary

In this heartfelt and powerful episode, Joshua sits down with early years educator and touring artist Cece Bosah to explore what it truly means to honour your boundaries in leadership, faith, and life.

Together, they unpack the internal conflict so many of us carry: the desire to be kind, the fear of causing offence, and the growing fatigue of being boundaryless. Cece shares her journey of navigating professional leadership, personal loss, therapy, and spiritual maturity—and how each has shaped her evolving understanding of healthy boundaries as an act of courage.

🧭 Key Themes
  • Why unspoken boundaries still hurt when crossed

  • The discomfort of saying no (and why it’s worth it)

  • Making peace with people being offended

  • Carrying others’ discomfort vs. honouring your limits

  • How therapy, faith, and loss shaped a boundary-led life

  • Leading with presence, not pressure

    šŸ’¬ Quotes to Remember

    ā€œSometimes we carry the discomfort of being boundaryless—just to avoid the discomfort of someone else’s offence.ā€

    — Joshua Okunlola

    ā€œI was tired of carrying the discomfort.ā€

    — Cece Bosah

    ā€œChildren and old people don’t filter what they need. Why must we wait until we’re old to speak up?ā€

    — Cece Bosah

    ā€œMaintaining your boundaries is a muscle—the more you use it, the more natural it becomes.ā€

    — Joshua Okunlola

    šŸ” Reflection Prompt
    • What boundaries do you know you need, but struggle to express?

    • Where are you still prioritising others’ comfort over your own peace?

    • What would shift if you treated your personal boundaries like your job description?

      šŸŽ§ Listen + Share

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        šŸŽ¤ Connect with Cece Bosah

        Cece is currently performing with Michelle John and Jake Isaac at upcoming UK events and focusing on further study in early years education.

        Follow her on Instagram: @ceceboasah
        (Check for updates, music, and parenting insights!)

        🧠 Closing Words

        Finding your own limits isn’t weakness—it’s leadership.

        When you lead from boundaries, you model respect for time, energy, and purpose.
        And you create space for others to do the same.

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