Title: Boundaries, Boldness & Becoming: Leading from Limits

In this heartfelt and powerful episode, Joshua sits down with early years educator and touring artist Cece Bosah to explore what it truly means to honour your boundaries in leadership, faith, and life.

Together, they unpack the internal conflict so many of us carry: the desire to be kind, the fear of causing offence, and the growing fatigue of being boundaryless. Cece shares her journey of navigating professional leadership, personal loss, therapy, and spiritual maturity—and how each has shaped her evolving understanding of healthy boundaries as an act of courage.

Why unspoken boundaries still hurt when crossed

The discomfort of saying no (and why it’s worth it)

Making peace with people being offended

Carrying others’ discomfort vs. honouring your limits

How therapy, faith, and loss shaped a boundary-led life

Leading with presence, not pressure

“Sometimes we carry the discomfort of being boundaryless—just to avoid the discomfort of someone else’s offence.”

“I was tired of carrying the discomfort.”

“Children and old people don’t filter what they need. Why must we wait until we’re old to speak up?”

“Maintaining your boundaries is a muscle—the more you use it, the more natural it becomes.”

What boundaries do you know you need, but struggle to express?

Where are you still prioritising others’ comfort over your own peace?

What would shift if you treated your personal boundaries like your job description?

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Cece is currently performing with Michelle John and Jake Isaac at upcoming UK events and focusing on further study in early years education.

Finding your own limits isn’t weakness—it’s leadership.

Title: Humility, Hiding & Honesty: Reclaiming What It Means to Lead with Truth

In this deeply personal and thought-provoking episode, Joshua is joined by longtime friend and creative powerhouse Tonye Mak to explore the evolving meaning of humility in leadership and life. Together, they unpack how humility has been misinterpreted as hiding, downplaying, or dimming one's light and reframe it as an act of truth-telling.

From the dual identity of “Tony vs. Sonya” to cultural and faith-based expectations around confidence, they explore how systems of upbringing, race, faith, and professional norms shape how we show up in rooms and what we silence in ourselves to be accepted.

The myth of humility as invisibility

Confidence vs. arrogance: walking the line

Faith, culture, and the pressure to shrink

Reclaiming voice in professional spaces

Why honesty not hiding is true humility

“Humility is not about being unseen—it’s about telling the truth.”

“In dimming your light, you’re not being humble. You’re actually lying.”

“Jesus was humble—but he was also confident. He knew who he was.”

“There’s a cultural system in me that tells me not to shine… and then pats me on the back for staying small.”

Ask yourself:

Where have I been hiding under the name of humility?

What truths about my gifts and limitations am I afraid to name?

What would it look like to lead with honest presence instead of performative smallness?

IG: @tonyemak

Latest work: Dating Black Season 3 on BET International

Upcoming: Debut short film in production (stay tuned!)

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Lead with clarity.

In this episode, Joshua and Angela explore the metaphor of the spiral staircase to rethink how we experience learning and leadership growth. Angela shares insights from her 15-year journey in primary education and leadership—culminating in her role as deputy head during the height of the COVID-19 pandemic—and recounts a powerful mentoring anecdote that illustrates how reflection, perspective and implementation drive deeper progress each time we revisit familiar challenges.

00:00 – 02:00 | Welcome & Introductions

02:00 – 05:00 | The Spiral Staircase Metaphor

Linear vs circular views of learning

Spiral staircase: circling back at a higher vantage point

Relevance to life and leadership

05:00 – 14:00 | Core Components of Spiralling Learning

Reflection – Pausing to analyse experiences

Perspective – Adopting a growth-orientated, humble mindset

Implementation – Applying new insights to measure real progress

14:00 – 20:00 | Mentoring Anecdote: A Lesson in Humility

Initial shock, shame and self-doubt

Reflections on intentions versus impact

Perspective shift: modelling humility rather than stepping aside

Implementing new behaviours to rebuild trust

Outcome: a stronger mentorship relationship and broader leadership growth

20:00 – 24:00 | Fixed vs Growth Mindset & the Role of Humility

Moving beyond “I’m just not cut out for this” to “How can I grow?”

Embracing mistakes as invitations to go deeper rather than failures to avoid

24:00 – 28:00 | Practical “Why” Questions for Leaders

“Why did this happen?”

“Why was I triggered?”

Exploring underlying beliefs and emotions for richer context

Measuring growth by comparing “what I know now” with “what I knew before”

28:00 – 30:00 | Closing Thoughts & Call to Action

“Learning isn’t about ticking boxes; it’s layering wisdom on wisdom.”

Lean into the spiral when you feel stuck.

Invite listeners to suggest future prompts via LinkedIn.

Spiral Staircase Metaphor:

Three Pillars of Spiralling Learning:

Reflection: Pause and analyse what happened and why.

Perspective: Adopt a growth mindset and humility.

Implementation: Apply new insights to gauge tangible progress.

Humility in Leadership:

Actionable Questions:

Why did this happen?

Why did I respond this way?

What can I do differently next time?

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Lead with curiosity. Embrace the spiral. Take it easy!

In this episode of the 'Un Muddying the Waters' podcast, host Joshua Okunlola discusses the pressure leaders often face to appear more confident and knowledgeable than they are.

He shares personal experiences from his early days as a facilitator and trainer, highlighting the costs of prioritising appearance and control over genuine connection and presence.

Joshua explains how he learned the importance of authenticity in leadership, trusting the process, and valuing the wisdom of the group. He urges listeners to reflect on areas where they may be seeking control, and to consider the benefits of leading with genuine presence and integrity.

In episode two of the 'Un Muddy in the Waters' podcast, host Joshua Okunlola discusses his misconceptions about courage, particularly in leadership. He reflects on his former belief that courage required loud, grand gestures and shares how he now sees it in the quiet admission of human vulnerability. Joshua speaks about his early leadership experience, struggles with asking for help, and the resultant burnout from trying to appear infallible. He emphasizes that real courage involves recognizing and embracing one's humanity, which includes asking for help and leading collaboratively. Joshua concludes by challenging listeners to reflect on the lies they may believe about courage and encourages them to practice truth over performance in their leadership roles.

What’s one area of your leadership where you’re waiting to be “ready”?