Do you spend hours rewriting a simple email because you are terrified of "saying the wrong thing"? Do you tell yourself you just have "High Standards," but deep down, you are exhausted, sweating through your clothes, and snapping at your family over minor details?

You might call it Excellence. But your body calls it High-Functioning Anxiety.

In this episode, Twana exposes the lie that being "Little Miss Perfect" is a badge of honor. We dig into the spiritual root of perfectionism which is often Delayed Obedience in disguise—and issue the permission slip you've been waiting for: The B-Minus Standard.

In this episode, we cover:

The Balloon Arch vs. Golden Corral: A vulnerable story about why your child wants a happy mom, not a Pinterest-perfect party.

The "Perfectionism Tax": How you are paying for "Control" with the currency of your peace, your sleep, and your intimacy.

The "Queen of Confusion": Exact scripts to handle a boss who gives vague instructions so you don't spiral into over-working just to please them.

The B-Minus Challenge: A tactical guide to releasing "good enough" work so you can break the bottleneck on God's distribution center.

Resources:

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Keywords: High-Functioning Anxiety, Overcoming Perfectionism, Fear of Failure, Christian Entrepreneurship, Delayed Obedience, Imposter Syndrome, Work-Life Balance, Mental Load.

Is your calendar a solid block of color from 8:00 AM to 6:00 PM, leaving you zero time to actually do your job?

Do you find yourself eating a bag of chips from the vending machine for "lunch" while running to a meeting you didn't need to be in?

Are you terrified to decline a calendar invite because you think, "If I don't show up, everything will fall apart"?

What We Cover You tell yourself you are just being "productive," but the truth is you are a High-Functioning Hostage. You are held captive by a calendar that you didn't create.

In this episode, we are taking a red pen to your schedule. We are going to stop the "Rescue Missions" that are eating up your family time and give you the confidence to leave the office at 5:00 PM without guilt.

We cover:

The "Vending Machine Diet": Why you are starving yourself to save people who don't even appreciate it.

The "Red Pen" Test: A simple way to look at your calendar and see exactly how much time you are wasting on other people's emergencies.

The "Superwoman" Lie: What the Bible actually says about trying to do it all alone (Hint: It’s not a badge of honor; it’s a path to destruction).

3 Scripts to Say "No": Exact words you can use to decline a meeting with your boss without getting fired.

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Next Steps

Step 1: Look at your calendar for tomorrow. Find one meeting that doesn't need you.

Step 2: Use Script #1 from this episode to decline it. Reclaim that hour for you.

Keywords: Time Management for Women, Too Many Meetings, Toxic Work Culture, How to Say No to Your Boss, Christian Burnout, Work-Life Balance, Calendar Management, Leaving Work on Time.

Are you staring at the ceiling at 2:00 AM, mentally rewriting a slide deck for a meeting that isn't for three days?

Does your phone feel like a leash that you are terrified to put down, even during family dinner?

Do you check your work email on weekends "just to make sure nothing is burning," only to ruin your entire mood?

Highlights of Episode It is 1:00 AM. The house is quiet, but your brain is screaming. You tell yourself you are just "getting ahead," but deep down, you know the truth: You are operating a system that is overheating.

In corporate risk management, when a system reaches critical failure, we don't just "try harder" we issue a mandatory Stop Work Order.

In this episode, I am diagnosing your "Outlook PTSD" and exposing the real reason you can't turn it off: You are addicted to the dopamine hit of being "needed."

Tonight, you face a binary choice: You can continue to be a Slave to the notification bell until you burn out, or you can become the Steward of your soul and flip the Circuit Breaker. I am teaching you the 4-Step Protocol to install a 24-Hour Sabbath without getting fired or feeling guilty.

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Step 1: Open your calendar right now and block out a 24-hour window labeled "Authorized Downtime" (The Circuit Breaker).

Step 2: Practice the "Digital Lockdown" tonight: Put your phone in a drawer at 8:00 PM and do not touch it until morning.

Keywords: Work-Life Balance, Setting Boundaries, Christian Women Leadership, Digital Detox, High-Functioning Anxiety, Rest and Sabbath, Corporate Burnout, Stop Checking Email, Outlook PTSD.

Do you find yourself unable to send a simple email, buy a piece of furniture, or make a parenting decision without sending screenshots to three different group chats asking, "What do you think?" You might call it "seeking wise counsel," but deep down, you know the truth: You are paralyzed by the fear of making a mistake.

You are constantly replaying conversations in your head, wondering if you said the wrong thing, and you feel a physical crash of anxiety if you don't get immediate reassurance.

You are exhausting yourself performing for an audience that doesn't even pay your bills, just to feel a temporary sense of safety. You have become addicted to external validation because you have stopped trusting the internal voice of God.

Episode Highlights In this episode, we are diagnosing the root cause of your indecision: Approval Addiction.

You have built your life on being the "Dependable One," but you are actually suffering from Identity Erosion. You are "swiping for worth" in real life, letting your boss, your mother, or social media determine your value for the day.

Today, I am challenging you to a "Validation Detox" (The Polling Embargo). This is a strict, 24-hour ban on asking anyone for their opinion. We are breaking the habit of outsourcing your authority so you can learn to hear the Holy Spirit again.

You have a binary choice: You can continue to be a slave to other people's opinions and live in constant anxiety, or you can decide to be a Steward of your own conviction and find peace.

We cover:

The "Swiping for Worth" Trap: Why you feel the need to constantly "check the temperature" of the room to feel safe.

The Validation Detox: How to stop asking "Did I do a good job?" and sit in the discomfort of silence until you find your own peace.

Identity Shift: Moving from "Worker" (valued by what you do) to "Daughter" (valued by who you are).

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Step 1: For the next 24 hours, do not ask anyone "What do you think?" about small decisions.

Step 2: When you feel the urge to ask, stop and ask the Holy Spirit instead.

Keywords: People Pleasing, High-Functioning Anxiety, Approval Addiction, Analysis Paralysis, Imposter Syndrome, Identity in Christ, Biblical Discernment, Fear of Man, Reassurance Seeking, Christian Women in Leadership.

Do you feel like the "enemy" attacks you every time you try to prioritize your rest?

Are you exhausted from "warring in the spirit" over financial or emotional messes that keep happening on a schedule?

Do you feel guilty setting boundaries because you’ve been told it’s "un-Christian" or selfish?

Highlights of Episode You finally decide to set a boundary, and suddenly the washing machine breaks, the kids act up, and your mother calls crying. You think, "The enemy is trying to stop me." But what if I told you it’s not the devil? It’s just Physics.

In this episode, we are learning the difference between a Spiritual Attack (warfare) and Systemic Risk (lack of boundaries). You are trying to rebuke a demon that you invited in for dinner by leaving your front door unlocked. Today, I am teaching you the 3-Point Discernment Test (Pattern, Access, and Benefit) to determine the source of your chaos. You have a choice: You can keep rebuking the fruit of your own planting (The Cost of Inaction), or you can finally lock the door and secure your peace (The Harvest).

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Next Steps:

Step 1: Apply the "Pattern Check" to your current stress does it happen on a schedule?

Step 2: Share this episode with a friend who is constantly "under attack" but refuses to set boundaries.

Do you feel guilty when you aren't the one solving the crisis for your family or team? Are you carrying grown adults who have fully functioning legs, but you call it "being a good leader"? Does your phone ringing instantly cause your stomach to drop because you know someone needs something?

Highlights of Episode

If you are exhausted, it is likely due to "Unauthorized Labor." You have appointed yourself the Savior of your ecosystem, and it is causing Operational Failure in your own life. In this episode, I teach you how to draft your resignation letter from the role of "General Manager of the Universe." You must choose today: Will you keep your "Fixer" title and lose your peace (The Cost of Inaction), or will you hand in your resignation and allow them to grow? (The Harvest). It is time to clear the "Scope Creep" from your life.

Related Episode: Episode 1: The High-Functioning Burnout Audit

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Next Steps: Step 1: Write your resignation letter using the script provided in the show notes.

Step 2: Share this episode with one other "Strong Friend" who needs permission to quit.

Step 3: Download the Protocol at www.boundariesoverburntout.com 

Memorable Quote: "You cannot govern a territory that you don't own. And you don't own other people."

Keywords: High-functioning anxiety, Compassion fatigue, Setting boundaries with family, Emotional labor, Codependency, Mental load, Christian women leadership, Burnout recovery, Scope creep, RCSA Framework.

Do you sit in your driveway for 10 minutes because you don’t have the energy to switch from "Boss" to "Mom"? Does a full weekend of sleep leave you feeling just as exhausted on Monday morning? Are you telling yourself the lie, "I’m not burned out, I’m just tired," while your body is screaming in protest?

In this raw inaugural episode, I am exposing the "Concentration Risk" that is bankrupting your soul. You aren't suffering from a lack of sleep; you are suffering from a Control Failure. You have treated your soul like a machine, and now you are facing a binary choice: You can continue to solve an infrastructure problem with a nap (The Cost of Inaction), or you can execute a forensic audit on your life and secure the asset (The Harvest). Today, we run the R.C.S.A. Protocol to stop managing stress and start managing risk.

Next Steps & Resources:

📖 Get the Manual: Order The Life Governance Protocol book to build your internal controls: https://peaceofmind.thrivecart.com/life-governance-protocol/

Keywords: High-Functioning Burnout, Christian Women Leadership, Executive Burnout Recovery, Tired But Wired, Soul Care, Setting Boundaries, Life Governance, RCSA Protocol, Spiritual Bankruptcy.

You are the CEO of your career, but the intern of your own life.

You manage billion-dollar risks at the office, but you can’t manage to say "No" to your family. You negotiate complex contracts, but you negotiate your own worth every day.

Welcome to Boundaries Over Burnout™, the podcast that stops giving "fluffy" self-help advice and starts providing a Fortune 500 Protocol for your life.

Hosted by Twana Thomas, a Life Governance Strategist™ and former Corporate Risk Manager, this show is for the high-achieving Christian woman who is successful on paper but spiritually and emotionally bankrupt.

In this briefing, you will learn:

The Competence Paradox: Why you excel at work but struggle to govern your own soul.

The R.C.S.A. Protocol: An introduction to the Risk and Control Self-Assessment—the corporate framework we use to audit your life.

The Truth About Burnout: Why it isn’t just "being tired" it is a Governance Failure.

Stop Work Orders: How to identify "Toxic Stakeholders" and issue immediate boundaries on people-pleasing.

If you are ready to resign as the "General Manager of the Universe" and finally build the infrastructure to support your God-given dreams, you are in the right place.

The Audit begins now.

Next Steps:

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