Boundaries +

It's another episode with Rebecca as we talk about the TikTok comments that triggered us this week, and why... with a lot of fun side-quests of course, because you know. It's us.

"What if we call them____, instead?"

"What if there was a Black woman whisperer??"

John Brown - Gate

Oh this is a fun episode to share with you all. My best friend and I have been talking about podcasting together for a while, and true to us and our beautiful friendship, we started in the way that makes the most sense for us. When we were ready. If you have had the chance to catch us live on TikTok (you might know her as White Woman Whisperer), then you know just how well we bounce off of each other, and we are excited to share more of that with you all in this format.

Having the discussions this way allows us to do deep dives on things we have thought about, seen, and experienced in a way that allows us to have them in our conversational form that leaves room for intentionality. It also creates the opportunity for the continued education of our communities. We are always grateful for people joining, and we also want to ensure those who have been learning with us are able to keep the momentum going with their journey.

Grab some water (and whatever other beverage you enjoy), a journal, and enjoy this episode. To know us is to know that you will hear a little bit of everything, and there will be many lessons along the way.

Something that I see while teaching is the tendency for people to get frustrated, almost angry, at what they are hearing. And what I see as a result of that frustration and anger is it being directed at the person who they are learning from. An important part of decolonizing work is recognizing that what you will hear and learn can cause big emotions to occur, especially if/when you're hearing that something you've done or said is "wrong".

Getting things wrong is not now, nor will it ever be, the worst thing that can happen, including in anti-racism work. Getting things wrong means that you are trying, actively trying. There isn't a world where we can get everything right in doing something we've never done before. Giving yourself that grace to get it wrong allows you the opportunity to zoom out and understand where the frustration is actually coming from, and where best to address it. Plot twist, it isn't the educator. :)

I hope you enjoy this episode, and that you take from it to listen to your body when you're activated, to take a beat to zoom out, and to allow yourself the space to keep healing and growing.

Recently, there has been an influx of very big feelings landing in the comment sections of educators and content creators. While the goal of education, especially anti-racism education, is to feel as part of decolonizing and unlearning, there needs to be a place for everyone to sit those feelings, and from there, continue to work through them. Take a pause before commenting. And I am happy to share some steps to help with that along the way. 

The Midterms were 11/8/2022, and I had some thoughts to share about results. And as you can imagine, those thoughts garnered results all across the board. I dive into the different types of responses, what they mean, and what to do with them moving forward. 

Let's talk boundaries! In this episode, I dive into what a boundary is, why we set them, and how we set them. We also talk about what consequences for disrespected boundaries look like, and how boundaries weave into all aspects of your life. Boundaries are a door at which we allow people to share community with us and for us to share space with others.

"Boundaries are the distance at which I can love myself and you simultaneously." - Prentiss Hemphill

Welcome back, sweet ones. In this episode, we dive into how we allow humanity to show up in our work in uplifting and protecting marginalized groups. And that (take a deep breath) starts with removing your ego. It starts with recognizing that your voice does not always need to be the loudest in the room, that it isn't always the most needed voice in the room, and that sometimes it just isn't needed at all. And that's okay! 

Grab some water, your journal, and your listening ears. It's community building time.