The Big Idea, The Big Takeaway & The Big Action. This is part four of my series on Boundaries, and this is my second series on boundaries in two years. Because it’s such a struggle for me, and according to the research, it is for you too. We don’t do boundaries because it rubs against our desire to serve and put other people first. Which is great. It really is. And the culmination of this series and concept of boundaries is, your heart is in the right place. Mine too. But our methodology is backwards. We’re doing it wrong. Good intent. Glorious intent. But ineffective execution. So sit with me a moment while I discuss three aspects of what I see as The Big Idea, The Big Takeaway & The Big Action regarding boundaries. Which is the new title of all my part four episodes in these series. If I don’t help you, and me, come to a big idea, a big takeaway, and a big action, then I’m not doing my job. For either of us

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In this episode I’m going to enlighten you to another cultural illness we have. It’s explaining our decisions and actions to get other’s affirmations and validations. We want everyone’s approval and we spend copious amounts of time explaining ourselves and encountering anxiety about having our friend’s, family’s and the world’s blessings about everything we decide to do. And you may often be asked by others why we did something or are doing something or even why we like or dislike something. And we follow with, “Because…” and our explanation. We seek to justify all we do to others. In the last episode I discussed the toxic nature of doing things we feel we “should” do. I’m putting “because” in the same category. Now this isn’t a rebellious message to give everyone the finger and do as you darn well please and not seek wisdom and counsel. But the fact you are here and listening says you seek wisdom and counsel. You have to be accountable to yourself for what you decide to do and the actions you take in life, and trust you are seeking counsel and wisdom. But then you choose to do what you’ll do and I’m cautioning you to consider the need to explain yourself. That’s the show.

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Because Is Dangerous & How To Quit Having To Justify Your Decisions

In this short episode I want to uncover the insidious role of expectations and shoulds that often make up much of our personal and cultural drive. And, it shouldn’t. Whatever you are driving after that is fueled by a should will bear bad fruit. One of three things will happen. One, you’ll achieve the objective, but with bitterness and exhaustion. Call it collateral damage. This is what leads to burnout. Two, you’ll achieve the objective but find no fulfillment and you’ll just wonder what’s next. Or three, you won’t ever achieve the objective because your heart is not really in it, and you’ll feel guilt and frustration because you know you’re capable. But right now, even as I say this, you’re likely to feel trapped, as you have built your life now, around a lot of should’s and expectations. I understand. I’ve done it too. There are two options to rid yourself of these energy vampires. That’s the show.

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Driven By Shoulds & Expectations And Two Options To Rid Yourself Of These Energy Vampires

In this episode I’m going to give you a shortcut to making sure you find the best fit, whether you’re seeking a new job, a date, or any new opportunity. It doesn’t guarantee you’ll get the thing you want, but it gives you the best chance, and it will nearly guarantee you don’t end up in a situation you don’t want. In the last episode I had interviewing guru Anna Papalia on the show and we talked through the message in her new book, Interviewology. If you want to land a new job you love, listen to the last episode and check out her book. The bigger point is that most all new opportunities we can benefit from come from an interview. I’m a lifetime entrepreneur, but every new opportunity comes from being selected from an interview of sorts. Connecting with another person to see if you are both a good fit for an opportunity. That’s the point. Finding an authentic fit. That’s the show. 

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Life Is An Interview & Here Is The Shortcut To Making Sure You Have An Authentic Fit

In this episode we give focus to our drive, in our work. Our work is a primary, if not the primary focus of our lives, at least from a daily time and energy devotion. The message here is in relation to the interviewing process, but as you’ll hear, so much of it relates to our lives overall. In any relationship and opportunity there is an aspect of selling yourself and often a struggle between being yourself and feeling you are performing. I was recently introduced to Anna Papalia who is one of our leading authorities on the new science of interviewing. Now, I’ve been a lifetime entrepreneur who has never technically interviewed for a traditional job, but as I read Anna’s research I was made acutely aware that as an entrepreneur I spend a lot of my time interviewing for opportunities. Selling myself. And to that degree, we all are. Which is why I wanted to bring this conversation to you. Anna’s research is now culminated in her new book, “Interviewology” where it categorizes all of us in four interview styles - The Charmer, the Challenger, the Examiner, and the Harmonizer. The three keys we discuss are, 1) understand your own style, 2) understand how to fully embrace your style in interviews and be completely authentic when you’re selling yourself, and 3) understand the other styles so you can tap into them when you are being interviewed, or you are interviewing, so you can better connect with the other person and vastly increase your chances of success. And success may mean helping you realize the job or person is a completely bad fit, which is vital to know! The book again is Interviewology and you can go to interviewology.com to find out what your style is. By the end of this conversation however, you’ll have clarity on what your style is and how to fully utilize it.

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Anna Papalia | How To Nail Any Interview & Sell Yourself By Being Fully You

In this episode look at our physical wellness, as our bodies are the vehicle that houses everything we drive toward. Few things drive our appetites like…sugar. We see sugar as a gift and honor it like we honor wine. And like wine, it’s probably not best to have it in excess. For the greater span of time, humans went most of their lives with little to no sugar outside of the occasional fruit when it was in season. In America it wasn’t until around 1619 when sugarcane came on the scene. Today sugar is added to everything. The American Heart Association recommends up to 25 grams, or 6 teaspoons per day. Though the average American consumes 88 grams, about 22 teaspoons a day. What’s best for our physical health? Today, 1 in every 3 Americans has diabetes or prediabetes. Another way to look at it, around 122 million Americans have a sugar related disorder, while only 14 million have an alcohol disorder. We are sicker and bigger than ever and sugar is the primary culprit. In this episode I’m joined by Randy James, medical doctor and Functional Medicine expert and we talk about how to best view and manage sugar. Something again, we love too! And work to manage in regards to our wellness desires.

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