If you’ve ever been halfway up a goal and found yourself climbing back down to “pick a better trail,” this one’s for you. 

We’re revisiting the mountain story that so many of you loved in my Brave Little Things Newsletter- and adding the deeper layer I didn’t include the first time.

In plain language, we’re talking about why we start/stop/start/stop…and how to actually stay.

You’ll hear about:

• The stop–go loop: why second-guessing feels smart in the moment but quietly erodes self-trust.
• The “right path” myth: there isn’t a perfect trail, there’s the one you make right. (My coach’s line I live by.)
• Identity > strategy: you’re not just hiking to a goal; you’re hiking with yourself. The summit is built inside you by all the moments you don’t abandon yourself.
• A simple “stay” protocol to try this week:
  • Pick your "trail" and set a no-switch window (e.g., 30 days).
  • Name what will likely get hard and decide how you’ll respond before you’re in it.
  • Keep a tiny evidence log of staying (one sentence a day).

Reflection prompts to take with you:

• Where am I climbing back down out of habit?
• What’s my no-switch window for the next two weeks?
• Who am I becoming by staying on this trail?

If you’re ready to go deeper and actually rewire this pattern so staying becomes your default, this is the work we do in my six-month VIP coaching container. 

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We’ve all been sold the idea that “balance” is the secret to being a good parent, partner, and business owner. But what if chasing balance is actually what’s making you feel worse?

In this episode, we flip the script on work-life balance and invite you to think differently about how you spend your time and energy. I share personal stories about overcorrecting after motherhood, learning to name my seasons, and discovering that true peace doesn’t come from perfect balance, it comes from presence, alignment, and intention.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for working too much, or guilty for not working enough, this one will feel like a deep exhale.

 Tune in to explore:

• Why “balance” is often the wrong goal
• How to make peace with different seasons of focus
• Why your kids seeing you lit up by your work is powerful parenting
• The sacredness of choosing where your energy goes

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What if the stories you tell yourself about who you are: “I’m always late,” “I’m not a leader,” “I’m just a hot mess”,  aren’t actually who you are at all?

In episode 16, I dive into the idea of identity addictions -the old labels and patterns our brains keep pulling us back to, just like a craving for chips or another scroll through Instagram. These identities feel safe because they’re familiar, but they aren’t the truth of who you are.

I’ll share how to recognize when you’re hooked on an outdated identity, why your brain resists change, and practical tools to break the habit. You’ll hear personal stories (like leading a Bar Mitzvah trip to Uganda) and client examples that show what it looks like to catch the urge, sit with it, and step into who you’re becoming.

By the end, you’ll see how to create your own “identity protocol,” practice urge-sitting, and use simple reframes to stop living from old stories, and start building the life your future self will thank you for.

Because here’s the truth: every time you shed an old identity, you get to live another life. And that’s the real fun of this work.

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In this episode, we’re talking about the one version of ourselves most of us try to ignore: Past You.

If you’ve ever replayed mistakes in your head, judged yourself for choices you made, or felt like you’re constantly dragging around regret, this conversation is for you.

I’ll share:

• Why separating past you, present you, and future you changes everything
• A personal story about how I went from loathing past me to loving her (and crying through a coaching session along the way)
• The surprising Facebook memory that softened my heart toward my younger self
• How small acts of kindness toward past you ripple forward into compassion for present you and better choices for future you
• A practical tool you can start using right away when past you leaves you a mess to clean up

This isn’t about sugarcoating or pretending everything was perfect. It’s about learning to talk to yourself with love, carry what needs carrying, and let past you become an ally instead of an enemy.

By the end, you’ll see why making peace with your past self might just be the key to creating the future you actually want.

What if your future self already knows the way, and all you have to do is cultivate a relationship with her so she can guide the way?

In this episode, I’m sharing both soulful stories and practical tools to help you connect with future you—the woman you’re becoming on purpose. You’ll learn simple exercises (like “start, stop, continue” and end-of-day reflections) that can change how you show up today, plus hear how my own 70-year-old beach-granny self is guiding me right now.

Because here’s the truth: you can drift into the version of yourself life hands you, or you can choose to start becoming her today. Your future self already has lessons for you. Let’s listen in.

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Journaling Prompts:

1. Meet your older self:
   • Close your eyes and imagine yourself at 70 (or 92).
   • Ask her: What do you want me to start, stop, and continue doing?
2. One-year-from-now you:
   • Picture yourself one year from today.
   • Write down 3 things that version of you is so grateful you started now.
3. End-of-day self:
   • Tonight, when your head hits the pillow, how do you want to feel?
   • What choices today will get you there?
4. Future-you’s brainpower:
   • What is your future self not wasting mental energy on anymore?
   • What is she thinking about instead?
5. Dress rehearsal:
   • How does your future self walk into her day?
   • What does she wear, how does she carry herself—and how can you bring one of those details into today?

What if freedom isn’t out there in some faraway future, but waiting in the life you already have?

In this episode, I share one of the most powerful stories I’ve ever heard, about a woman who turned a coffee can and a dollar bill into proof that she could create something bigger for herself. You’ll walk away with inspiration and practical ways to start your own “coffee can” practice — the small, doable things that can change everything over time.

 Inside this episode:

• The trap of the “I can’t because…” stories we tell ourselves
• A true story of resilience that will shift how you see your own possibilities
• How to create your own “coffee can” — small, consistent actions that move you toward the life you want
• Ideas for entrepreneurs, healers, parents, and anyone in a tough season to start right now

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Because your story isn’t finished yet,  and your coffee can might just be the thing that changes everything.

Why is it so hard to do the thing you say you want to do? 

Now, THAT is the question.

In today’s episode, we’re getting real about the moments when you’re motivated in theory… but somehow still avoid the project, the post, the pitch, the next step. Whether you’ve been ghosting your own goals or just feeling stuck, we’ll walk through five sneaky reasons you’re not following through—and how to shift out of them with more ease, clarity, and self-trust.

This isn’t about forcing yourself to be productive. It’s about understanding what’s really going on underneath the avoidance and learning to work with your mind, not against it.

You’ll hear:

• Why your brain resists doing what you actually want to do
• The most common patterns that block action (and how to shift them)
• A coaching reframe that will change how you think about failure
• Simple, powerful ways to get back into momentum without shame

And please, dear One, remember: Hey, you’re just human!  And you can always begin again.

Rest isn’t a prize at the end of your to-do list.

It’s not something you “get to” after the inbox is at zero or the laundry’s folded.

It’s a strategy. A business-building tool. A soul-saving practice. A lifeline.

In this episode of Brave Little Things, I’m sharing why rest isn’t a luxury- - it’s the key to building a life and business that actually feels good. I’ll tell you how I went from hustling through exhaustion to treating rest like a skill, and why slowing down gave me access to more joy, clarity, and success than pushing ever did.

We’ll talk:

• How to schedule rest like a non-negotiable meeting with your most important client (aka you)
• What rest actually looks like when you’re a real human 
• How embracing slowness brought me closer to the kind of life and business I always wanted

If you’ve ever thought “I just need to get through this week, and then I’ll rest,” this one’s for you.

Plus: a grounding moment at the end to come back to whenever you need it.

Listen, share, review, repeat and remember:

You don’t have to earn your rest.

You just have to come home to yourself.

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We all talk about the fear of failure all the time, but what about the fear of success?

In this milestone 10th episode (yay us!), I’m diving into a real-but-rarely-talked-about mindset block that affects so many creative women, entrepreneurs, coaches, and sensitive overthinkers: the fear of success.

It’s the subtle self-sabotage that shows up as procrastination, perfectionism, or endlessly tweaking your website instead of sending the one bold email. It’s the part of you that flinches when things start going well because you’re scared it’ll cost you your peace, your rest, or your freedom.

In this episode, we’ll talk about:

• The most common fear of success thought-patterns I see in coaching
• How to shift your beliefs so you stop holding back
• Why your business can grow without sacrificing your lifestyle
• What it means to define success on your terms
• And how to let yourself be both soft and powerful as you rise

Whether you’re a soulful entrepreneur, a creative visionary, or someone who just wants to stop playing small, this one’s full of real talk, deep mindset work, and a whole lot of heart.

 Plus: a little celebration for 10 episodes (!!!) and a reminder that letting your life get really, really good might just be the next brave thing.

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In this episode, we’re diving deep into FEAR: what it really is, why it feels so intense, and how to stop letting it run your life. Whether you’re launching something new, putting yourself out there, or just trying to live a braver, bolder life… fear is going to show up. That’s not the problem. The problem is when we treat it like a stop sign.

I’ll walk you through 5 truths about fear that will shift how you relate to it (including one that might surprise you). I’m also sharing real stories, from safari animals to summer camp nerves, and giving you two simple practices you can start using right now to move forward, even when fear is along for the ride.

This episode is part mindset shift, part pep talk, part soulful coaching session, and I hope it helps you feel a little braver today.

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