They don’t disappear because they don’t care. They disappear because they don’t want to stay. And then they come back.

A text. A like. A “miss you.”

Just enough to make you pause your healing. Not because they’re choosing you.

Because they’re checking access. This episode is about the pattern people don’t want to name: Why someone keeps re-entering your lie without ever committing to it. If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of hope → contact → silence → confusion

this will hit close to home.

f this pattern feels familiar, the first chapter of What I Meant to Say will make it click.

It’s where I explain this behavior from the other side — why people keep coming back, why they don’t stay, and why it was never about your worth.

Read it Free here.