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If you’ve ever found yourself shutting down, withdrawing, spiraling, or bracing for impact every time rejection might happen… this episode is going to hit you straight in the heart.

This is Part Two in my series on the fear of rejection, and today I’m taking you deeper into the healing process—into how you actually break the power this spirit has had over your life and begin to rewrite the operating system running underneath your reactions, triggers, and destructive patterns.

Last week, we uncovered the root: where the fear of rejection comes from, how it forms, and the conscious and unconscious ways it shapes our relationships.

This week, I’m giving you the blueprint to dismantle it from the inside out.

If you’ve been trying to “fix” yourself, your spouse, or your relationships by controlling behavior—while never addressing the deeper programming underneath—you are going to feel so seen in this conversation.

• You keep getting hooked by the same triggers, spirals, or emotional patterns
• You’re tired of feeling unwanted, unseen, or overly sensitive to minor interactions
• You often retreat, shut down, or isolate when you feel hurt or misunderstood
• You’ve experienced trauma, betrayal, or childhood wounds that were never processed
• You’re exhausted from policing your spouse’s behavior or your own
• You want to break generational cycles and live with confidence, peace, and authority
• You know God created you for more than fear—and you’re ready to walk in it

I cannot heal what I refuse to acknowledge. Whether pain was repressed in childhood or suppressed during adult crises, the moment I bring it into the light, its power begins to dissolve. Naming the wound is the first step toward breaking the agreement I made with it.

Rejection is not my identity—it’s an operating system.

A feeling, not a fact.

A belief, not the truth.

When I separate the data (what actually happened) from the story (the meaning I attached to it), and then from the emotion it produces, I reclaim my authority. Most of my emotional pain has come from the meaning, not the moment.

My voice carries supernatural power.

When I speak truth out loud, my brain processes it differently—my subconscious accepts it as instruction, my RAS searches for proof of it, and my identity begins to align with Heaven’s reality instead of my past wounds.

What I speak, I seed.

Life or death.

Freedom or bondage.

Agreement with God or agreement with the enemy.

Declarations, Scripture, praise, and spiritual authority shift the atmosphere. Sound moves matter. When I speak truth over my marriage, my identity, my future, and my calling, heaven backs my words. Silence keeps me stuck; speech activates the supernatural.

To break the cycle of rejection, I must learn to:

• Be with myself—without running, numbing, or distracting
• Be with God—authentically, vulnerably, honestly
• Be with others—letting myself be seen without the mask

Isolation reinforces rejection; connection rewires it.

Hiding keeps the wound alive.

Bringing it into the light with God, journaling, prayer, coaches, trusted friends—that’s how the emotional charge dissolves. Vulnerability breaks the cycle that fear built.

“Awareness breaks the hold of darkness. What I bring into the light loses its power.”

“Rejection is not who I am—it’s an operating system I agreed with. I get to break that agreement today.”

“My brain believes what my mouth repeatedly says. Words create worlds.”

“What I speak, I seed. My future is shaped by the language I use today.”

“You cannot fix a wound you refuse to look at. Naming it tames it.”

“Connection is the antidote to rejection. Vulnerability is the doorway to healing.”

Mark 11:23 — “You will have whatever you say.”

Proverbs 18:21 — “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.”

Romans 10:17 — “Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God.”

John 14:27 — “My peace I give to you… not as the world gives.”

John 10:10 — “The thief comes only to steal, kill and destroy; I have come that you may have life.”

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If you’ve ever felt overlooked, unwanted, or like no matter what you do it’s never enough… I want you to know you’re not alone.

In this episode, I’m getting real about one of the biggest giants I’ve had to face in my own life — the spirit of rejection.

For years, I thought rejection was something that happened to me. But what God showed me is that rejection becomes destructive the moment I begin to agree with it internally. The moment I make it part of my identity. That’s when it starts shaping my relationships, my communication, my confidence, and even my calling.

Today, I’m breaking down how rejection sneaks into our lives, how it partners with shame, guilt, and fear, and what we can do to finally dismantle its hold — so we can step fully into the authority, identity, and freedom God already gave us.

If you are tired of shrinking, hiding, people-pleasing, or sabotaging what God is trying to build through you… this conversation is going to speak directly to your heart.

• You often feel like you’re on the outside looking in, even around people who love you
• You shut down emotionally or withdraw when conflict arises
• You keep repeating patterns of hurt, abandonment, or people-pleasing
• You’ve been carrying wounds from childhood, betrayal, or past relationships
• You’re afraid of being misunderstood, rejected, or unseen
• You’re ready to stop letting old programming dictate how you show up today

1. Rejection Isn’t an Event — It’s an Agreement I Make.

I realized rejection takes root when I start agreeing with the lie that I’m not wanted or not enough. That internal agreement is what shapes my reactions and relationships — not the external event.

2. Rejection Distorts How I See Myself and Others.

When I’m in a rejection mindset, I interpret neutral situations as proof that people don’t care. I take things personally, project fears onto others, and start operating from insecurity instead of identity.

3. Shame, Guilt, and Fear Often Follow Rejection.

I noticed rejection rarely stands alone. Shame tells me something is wrong with me. Guilt tells me I’m disappointing others. Fear tells me I’ll be abandoned again. Together, they keep me in survival mode.

4. The Battle Isn’t with People — It’s with Programming.

Most of the reactions I have are old scripts from childhood, past relationships, trauma, or generational patterns. When I recognize it’s programming, I stop making everything personal and start reclaiming my authority.

5. I Already Have the Power to Break Rejection’s Hold.

God already gave me power, love, and a sound mind. I don’t need to pray for worthiness — I need to speak and stand in the truth He’s already declared over me. My voice and my choices rewrite the narrative.

“Rejection wasn’t something happening to me — it was something I agreed with internally. And the moment I broke that agreement, everything started to change.”

“I don’t fight people. I fight programming. Once I understood that, so much of the pain in my relationships began to heal.”

“When I fear rejection, I give people power God never meant for them to have.”

“Awareness is deliverance. I can’t slay a giant I’m unwilling to look at.”

“My identity isn’t shaped by who walks away — it’s shaped by the One who adopted me.”

2 Timothy 1:7 – God has given me a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind.

Proverbs 29:25 – Fear of people is a trap, but trusting God keeps me safe.

Romans 8:15 – I have received the Spirit of adoption — not fear and rejection.

Ephesians 6:13 – I am equipped to stand my ground in spiritual battles.

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If you’ve been feeling like the ground beneath you is shifting—like what used to work just isn’t working anymore—and you’re asking, “God, what do I do now?”... this message is for you.

I know this season all too well. When the landscape changes and clarity feels distant, it can stir up anxiety, frustration, and even fear. But in this episode, I’m sharing what God spoke to me in a recent time of transition—a word that changed everything: “Stand.”

He didn’t tell me to strive harder or figure it all out.

He told me to stand.

To stop trying to control what I couldn’t, to release the old blueprints, and to trust that the battle wasn’t mine to fight. That single word became my anchor in uncertainty—and it might just be yours too.

• You’re walking through a season of transition or uncertainty and need direction
• You’re tired of fighting battles that never seem to end
• You sense God calling you to slow down, but it feels uncomfortable to stop striving
• You’ve been reacting to what you see instead of responding to what God promised
• You’re ready to learn what it really means to stand firm, worship boldly, and lead with unshakable faith

1. I Had to Learn to Stand on a Solid Foundation

When everything was shifting, God asked me, “What are you standing on?”

I realized I had been standing on emotions, outcomes, and other people’s opinions instead of His Word. I had to come back to truth—back to what’s eternal, unchanging, and promised.

2. I Learned to Stand in the Promise, Not the Problem

God reminded me that what I see today is the result of what’s been planted in the past. If I respond to what’s right in front of me, I just create more of the same. But when I choose to stand on His promise—on what He’s shown me in the Spirit—I create from faith, not fear.

3. I Discovered That Worship Is Warfare

Worship isn’t passive—it’s a weapon.

When I praise instead of complain, when I lift my hands instead of grasping for control, the atmosphere shifts. I’ve watched walls fall and battles turn when I started singing in the middle of the storm. Praise confuses the enemy and anchors me in victory.

4. I Chose to Stand United

During hard seasons, the enemy loves to divide—marriages, families, and teams. I had to be intentional about guarding unity in my home and leadership. When Mark and I stand as one—one mind, one body, one spirit—we tap into Kingdom power. A divided house can’t stand, but a unified one can’t fall.

5. I Was Called to Stand in the Gap

God convicted me to stop judging and start interceding. The very people I wanted to distance myself from were the ones He called me to pray for. Standing in the gap means praying for others when they can’t or won’t pray for themselves—believing for restoration, healing, and breakthrough on their behalf.

“Standing isn’t passive—it’s posture in faith. It’s presence anchored in victory.”

“You don’t need another plan. You need a posture—one rooted in trust, worship, and unity.”

“You can’t complain and worship at the same time. Worship re-centers your heart, confuses the enemy, and invites breakthrough.”

“God’s people move by revelation, not reaction. I stopped reacting to what I saw and started responding to what He said.”

“A divided house cannot stand—so I stopped fighting Mark and started standing with him.”

Ephesians 6:13 – “Put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground.”

Exodus 17:8–13 – The story of Moses, Aaron, and Hur—where victory came not through striving, but through standing with hands lifted in faith.

2 Corinthians 5:7 – “For we walk by faith, not by sight.”

2 Chronicles 20:22 – “As they began to sing and praise, the Lord set ambushes against their enemies.”

Mark 3:25 – “If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.”

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If you’ve been sensing that something’s shifting in your spirit, that God is calling you into a new season but you can’t quite see what’s next… this episode is your wake-up call.

Christine Jewell goes deep into one of the most misunderstood yet sacred ways God still speaks today: dreams and visions.

This is not “woo-woo.” This is biblical reality. We are living in the era Joel prophesied: “Your sons and daughters will prophesy, your old men will dream dreams, your young men will see visions.”

In this episode, Christine unpacks prophetic revelation straight from her own dream encounters — including a vivid vision of two mountains that expose the tension between the world’s system of striving and the Kingdom’s path of surrender. She also shares a “boat dream” that revealed exactly when to take her hands off the wheel and let God steer her into the next season of elevation.

If you’ve been questioning whether God still speaks, wrestling with control, or feeling like you’re in a holding pattern waiting for direction… this message will awaken your spirit to the truth that He’s been speaking all along — even while you sleep.

• You’ve been restless, uncertain, or waiting for clarity about your next season or assignment
• You sense God stirring something new but can’t discern what He’s saying
• You keep having dreams that feel significant but don’t know how to interpret them
• You’re tired of striving, controlling, or forcing outcomes in your business, calling, or relationships
• You’ve lost sight of joy, flow, and peace and want to return to partnership with God
• You want to learn how to receive divine direction through intimacy, not ambition

Dreams Are a Language of Heaven — God speaks when we’re finally still. When our minds shut off but our spirits remain awake, He releases insight, correction, and revelation we might miss in the noise of the day.

Joel 2:28 Is Happening Now — The Spirit is being poured out. Prophetic dreams, visions, and divine downloads are increasing across the earth. Don’t dismiss them—document them.

The Mountain Vision: Striving vs. Surrender — The right side of the mountain represented the world’s way: exhaustion, fear, and self-promotion. The left side revealed the Kingdom way: joy, peace, and partnership with God’s lift, not man’s effort.

The Boat Vision: When God Says “Hands Up” — In seasons of transition, the Lord often asks us to release control. What feels like a drop is actually a divine takeoff runway for your next assignment.

Dreams Reveal the Heart — God uses dreams to surface hidden fears, resentments, or ungodly agreements. What we’re unwilling to face in daylight, He’ll lovingly reveal in the quiet hours of the night.

Heavenly Strategies Come Through Stillness — Divine ideas, solutions, and next steps are often downloaded in dreams. But interpretation comes through prayer, patience, and alignment with the Word of God.

NOTABLE QUOTES

“God will pursue you in your sleep when He can’t get your attention during the day.” – Christine Jewell

“What we recognize begins to show up more. What we appreciate begins to increase.” – Christine Jewell

“The world says climb your way to the top; the Kingdom says surrender and I’ll lift you higher than you ever imagined.” – Christine Jewell

“Sometimes we think we’re waiting on God, but He’s waiting on us — to shift from control to trust.” – Christine Jewell

“Lift your hands off the wheel. Let Him steer. What looks like a drop is actually your takeoff.” – Christine Jewell

Joel 2:28 – “I will pour out My Spirit on all mankind; your sons and daughters will prophesy, your old men will dream dreams, your young men will see visions.”

Proverbs 3:5–6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

Isaiah 48:17 – “I am the Lord your God, who teaches you what is best for you, who directs you in the way you should go.”

Psalm 16:7 – “I will bless the Lord who counsels me; even at night my heart instructs me.”

If you're physically and mentally tired from trying to be everything for everyone. If you are feeling overextended, overstretched and overwhelmed by the stacking demands on your time and energy, this episode is for you.

Today I am tackling one of the most common traps leaders fall into: burnout masked as productivity.

As a high-performance coach working with CEOs, founders, and teams at the highest levels, I have seen it all—people running at 100 miles an hour with zero clarity, over-functioning to please everyone, and carrying burdens that were never theirs to carry.

In today’s episode, I break down the real reason you’re burned out (hint: it’s not because you’re doing too much), how to build real capacity without working harder, and the three mindset shifts that will radically change how you manage your time, energy, and leadership.

If you’ve been stuck in survival mode, this is your roadmap back to clarity, peace, and sustainable momentum.

• You feel like you’re doing everything right, but you’re still drained and unfocused
• You’re juggling endless responsibilities and feel like you can’t drop a single ball
• You find yourself fixing everyone else’s problems and playing “the hero”
• You know you need to simplify, but you keep overcomplicating processes and projects
• You want to lead from overflow instead of obligation
• You’re ready to reclaim your energy, simplify your systems, and lead with excellence

1. Burnout Is a Symptom of Misalignment, Not Overload

You’re not burned out because you’re doing too much — you’re burned out because you’re doing too much of the wrong things. When you take on assignments that aren’t yours, operate from fear or guilt, or try to be the hero in every situation, you drain your spirit and block real flow.

2. Manage Energy, Not Time

You don’t have a time problem—you have an energy problem. The most effective leaders understand that their clarity, focus, and execution all come from energy mastery, not calendar management. Do an energy audit: what drains you vs. what fuels you? The more you double down on energizers, the more capacity you’ll create.

3. Build Capacity by Letting Go

True growth doesn’t come from doing more—it comes from releasing control. Let go of the need to manage every detail, delegate for development (not just relief), and create space for creativity, clarity, and new opportunities to flow. Simplify systems, remove bottlenecks, and stop being the lid on your own organization.

4. Create Daily Power Rituals

Start and end each day with intention. Identify one to three key actions that define success for that day, and reflect before you close out. High performers plan their plays and review the game—don’t just react to the fire.

5. Steward What’s Your Assignment — and Nothing More

Leadership is stewardship. You are called to carry your assignment, not everyone else’s. Excellence doesn’t mean doing it all. It means knowing what’s yours to lead and doing it well while delegating the rest to those who are best served to execute their assignment.

“Burnout doesn’t come from doing too much—it comes from doing too much of the wrong things at the wrong time.” – Christine Jewell

“You do not have a time problem. You have an energy management problem.” – Christine Jewell

“The best leaders know that their energy is their greatest asset.” – Christine Jewell

“You build capacity not by doing more, but by doing less—with excellence.” – Christine Jewell

“Delegate for development, not just relief. Empower others to grow so you can focus on what only you can do.” – Christine Jewell

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Eric Newberry - Chief Abolitionist & Mission Pastor

Organization: Slave Free Bricks

Website: SlaveFreeBricks.com

Mission: Rescuing and restoring 4.5 million people enslaved across Asia

In this episode, Christine Jewell sits down with Eric Newberry, a passionate abolitionist and mission pastor, to unpack the hard truth: we’ve built lives on self-sufficiency, comfort, and control—and it's left us spiritually bankrupt and emotionally exhausted. From surviving suicide and addiction to leading global rescue missions, Eric shares how God called him out of the shadows and into radical obedience. Together, they expose the lies that keep us numbing out, avoiding the hard questions, and living lukewarm lives—and invite you into a deeper, purpose-driven way of leading.

If you’ve been going through the motions, feeling like something’s off or missing, this conversation will call you UP and remind you of who you are and what you’re here for. It’s time to stop living a counterfeit version of life and step into Kingdom legacy.

This Episode Is for You If:

• You’ve built success on the outside but feel spiritually dry or disconnected
• You’re done numbing out with busy-ness, achievements, or distraction
• You’re craving radical clarity on your purpose and calling
• You feel a holy discontent and know you’re made for more
• You’re ready to stop being the hero of your own story and let God lead
• You want to build a legacy that sets others free, not just elevates your name
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Key Takeaways:

Numbed-out lives don’t equal freedom.

Addiction isn’t always drugs or alcohol—it can look like busyness, control, or performance. Until we stop numbing, we’ll never feel fully alive.

God can’t bless who we pretend to be.

Breakthrough starts when we bring the real, raw version of ourselves to Him—mess and all. When we stop hiding, He starts moving.

You’re not the source of power—you’re the vessel.

Freedom, joy, and clarity flow when we stop trying to manufacture outcomes and start partnering with God’s timing and power.

Legacy is about multiplication, not image.

True leaders don’t build platforms—they build people. What matters is who you’re setting free and what you’re leaving behind.

Obedience opens doors comfort never will.

The cost of comfort is high—it will rob you of purpose, passion, and legacy. Obedience may be costly, but it leads to wild abundance.

Notable Quotes:

"We don’t need more men and women who know the Bible. We need more who actually live it out."

"I had the titles. I had the success. But I was spiritually empty. And I wanted to end it all."

"God told me: stop trying to do everything in your own power. Let me take over."

"We all want influence, but are we willing to surrender for it?"

"There is no greater legacy than freedom. That’s what we’re called to multiply."

Scripture Referenced:

• John 10:10 – "I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full."
• Luke 4:18 – “He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind.”
• Romans 12:1 – “Offer your bodies as a living sacrifice... this is your true and proper worship.”

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Release the Past, Ignite your Faith + Unlock an Extraordinary Life: The blueprint to a life of freedom and fulfillment

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Listen—if you're showing up physically but checked out mentally, or going through the motions in your marriage bedroom, Christine Jewell is about to flip the script on everything you think you know about physical intimacy. This is part three of her powerful series on becoming one mind, one soul, one body with your spouse, and she's not holding back on the practical strategies that actually work. 

Drawing from her background as a nutritionist and trainer, plus years of coaching couples who felt more like roommates than lovers—couples dealing with past trauma, walls of defensiveness, and the exhaustion of feeling used instead of honored—Christine breaks down why physical safety always comes before physical intimacy, and how your body keeps score of every unresolved wound. What makes this episode different? 

Christine doesn't just tell you to "try harder" or "schedule date nights"—she reveals the three foundational principles that transform sex from obligation into worship, and gives you tactical strategies you can implement this week to stop yourselves from creating connection and start honoring the sacred design God created for your bodies.

This Episode Is for You If:

• You feel like you and your spouse have become more roommates than lovers, and the physical connection has grown stale or disconnected
• The life you once dreamed of—where physical intimacy felt safe, exciting, and honoring—has been replaced by obligation, guilt, or just going through the motions
• You're carrying past trauma, betrayal, or rejection that makes your body shut down or wall up when your spouse tries to initiate intimacy
• You're working harder than ever in your marriage but the physical department is lacking, and you can't figure out why there's no desire or connection anymore
• You suspect that chasing pleasure or self-gratification has created division in your marriage instead of the unity and bond you desperately want
• You're ready to stop using your spouse as a mirror for validation and start showing up fully present—spiritually, emotionally, and physically
• You need practical, biblical strategies to reignite physical intimacy without the shame, manipulation, or transactional energy that's been draining both of you

KEY TAKEAWAYS

🔨 Your body is a living temple—every physical act either honors God's design for multiplication and unity, or aligns with the world's system of self-gratification and transaction

🌊 Physical safety always comes before physical intimacy—if your body is in survival mode, walled up, or shut down due to past trauma, no strategy will work until you create genuine safety

👂 Your body is a sensory gateway created to experience God's goodness—bring all five senses (sight, smell, taste, touch, sound) into every interaction with your spouse, not just in the bedroom

💎 Foreplay starts before you get to the bedroom—through morning walks, intentional touch, 22-second hugs, eye contact, active listening, and creating an atmosphere where your spouse can relax

⚡ The feminine is designed to receive, the masculine is designed to give—when the masculine comes to take instead of give, it creates violation; when the feminine can't relax, she can't receive

🏗️ Sex is a powerful binding agent—the question is whether you're creating a godly bond that produces depth, richness, and unity, or a dysfunctional bond twisted up with shame, fear, and misalignment

NOTABLE QUOTES

"We don't want to create situations where we're prostituting ourselves and our spouses inside of marriage and trading for sex, because that's going to leave us feeling dirty, empty, used, sometimes abused, violated."

"If you chase pleasure through self-gratification, if you're just chasing that feeling, you're going to go outside of God's design to get that feeling or that need met. But if you follow God's design for physical intimacy, pleasure, deeper connection, an unshakable bond starts to be formed."

"Physical safety always, always, always comes before physical intimacy. The body keeps a score. If there are past traumas, past betrayals, past rejections, these memories live in our nervous system."

"Your body is a living temple and it's a vessel of God. Every physical act, every act of touch, everything we do with our mouth, with our eyes, with our hands, or with our feet either honors God or aligns to the blueprint of the world system."

"Couples who work out and are regularly active together have better sex lives. There are chemical reactions that start happening. There's attraction that starts happening. There's syncing up that starts happening."

"God designed physical connection, sex and intimacy as a form of worship. When we have godly sex—when we're all in for each other, with each other, from a place of honor, loyalty, devotion—it is an act of worship."

FEATURED SCRIPTURES

John 10:10 - "The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full."

Proverbs 3:5-6 - "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight."

Matthew 6:33 - "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."

Romans 12:1 - "Present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and well pleasing to God, which is your reasonable service."

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In this raw and honest episode, Christine Jewell tackles the dangerous trap of pursuing physical intimacy while neglecting the spiritual and soul connection that actually creates lasting passion in marriage. Speaking from personal experience of recognizing how alcohol was opening doors to division in their own marriage, Christine reveals why most couples are trying to fix intimacy at the wrong level—it's a spiritual misalignment showing up as physical disconnection. Drawing from recent conversations with clients who were sharing their wins only to have their spouse feel threatened and competitive, Christine unpacks the subtle shift from operating under a spirit of division to becoming truly one spirit, one mind, and one flesh—and provides a clear roadmap back to God-centered intimacy across all three dimensions. If you're feeling like roommates instead of lovers or if you're succeeding individually but failing as a unified team, this episode will help you identify exactly where you're missing the mark and how to lock in alignment at the spirit, soul, and physical levels.

THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF:

• You feel like you're just roommates or business partners with your spouse, not intimate lovers
• The life you once had passion for has turned into surface-level conversations with no real depth
• You're carrying the weight of trying to fix your marriage with physical tactics and date nights that aren't creating lasting change
• You're working harder than ever individually but feeling more divided as a couple—one person's success makes the other feel like a failure
• You suspect there's a spiritual battle happening in your home but you keep trying to solve it with soul-level or physical solutions
• You're ready to stop pulling out boxes of band-aids and actually transform your marriage at the root level
• You need to understand why your spouse's body has shut down to you even though you're both "trying"

KEY TAKEAWAYS

🔨 Every single thing in the physical realm originates from the spirit realm—if you want to change your marriage, you must start by aligning your spirits under one God

🌊 Marriage is the most potent amplifier of everything: curses and blessings, thinking patterns, spiritual doors—whatever you're yoked to spiritually will manifest in your soul and body

👂 You cannot have true intimacy if you're spiritually connected over a spirit of fear, greed, or competition instead of being unified under the Spirit of God

💎 When you share your success and your spouse feels threatened, that's a spirit of division at work—the solution is redirecting back to "we are one spirit, God is advancing us together"

⚡ Your body belongs to the temple of the Holy Spirit and your spouse—if you're taking it into places (even mentally through porn or fantasy) that dishonor either, physical intimacy will shut down

🏗️ The three levels of intimacy must align in order: spirit first (shared worship of one God), soul second (one mind, shared dreams, aligned will), physical third (one flesh, safety, honor)

NOTABLE QUOTES

"We are one spirit whether we think we are or not—the conflict comes when spiritually we don't observe and honor the same God."

"Whatever we worry about 24/7 is what we worship. Whatever we talk about 24/7 is what we worship."

"If you are successful, that means we're successful because God is advancing us. He's doing something in us because we are one spirit—but a spirit of division wants to come in and say 'do you see what he's doing? He's succeeding and you're failing.'"

"Sex is the strongest binding agent—when you're having sex with somebody, your spirit is now one spirit with theirs. If there's competing spirits at play, that's where we have chaos."

"You can't lie. You can't hide certain things and expect that you're still gonna have intimacy. The body knows. The body remembers."

"When we are spiritually connected and then we go into soul—we get our mind aligned, our hearts aligned—intellect is sexy. Connecting with somebody mentally on shared dreams, shared projects, shared purposes is actually why a lot of affairs happen at work."

FEATURED SCRIPTURES

John 10:10 - "The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full."

Proverbs 3:5-6 - "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight."

Matthew 6:33 - "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."

Ephesians 4:3-6 - "Make every effort to keep the oneness of the spirit and the bond of peace. There is one body, there's one spirit, there's one Lord, there's one faith."

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Are you trying all the communication strategies, all the date nights, all the “tools” for connection in your marriage—and still feeling like something is missing?

In this powerful conversation, Christine is joined by her husband, Mark, for a raw and real deep dive into the true source of intimacy and unity. Together, they unpack what it really means to live in alignment—body, soul, and spirit—and why most couples never experience the supernatural level of connection that God designed for marriage.

This episode goes beyond the basics. Christine and Mark share personal stories of fragmentation, the unknown soul “trades” that keep couples bound, and how they discovered the Kingdom blueprint for wholeness. From breaking soul ties and closing open doors, this is a conversation that will bring clarity, conviction, and hope.

Whether you’ve felt like “roommates” in your own marriage or you’re simply longing for more depth with your spouse, this episode will give you a new lens to see yourself—and your relationship—the way God intended.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The difference between body, soul, and spirit—and why understanding this unlocks intimacy.
• How fragmentation creates chaos in marriage (and what alignment really looks like).
• The role of the soul: desires, willpower, and why “follow your heart” can be dangerous.
• How the Spirit brings authority, dominion, and supernatural strength to break cycles.
• The hidden cost of “trades” (porn, secrecy, fear) and how to reclaim what was stolen.
• A Kingdom vision for living as one mind, one body, and one spirit—in marriage and in Christ.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

🔨 Your spirit must lead your soul, and your soul must govern your body—this hierarchy creates the alignment that produces epic connection

🌊 Every hidden decision creates spiritual trades that affect not just you but everyone under your authority and dominion

👂 True discernment comes from understanding the difference between body feelings, soul emotions, and spirit-level communication

💎 Repentance isn't just confession—it's the supernatural gateway that closes enemy access and restores your spiritual inheritance

⚡ Unity in marriage requires both spouses operating as one mind, one body, one spirit under God's authority

🏗️ Breaking generational patterns happens when you choose spirit-led truth over soul-driven self-preservation

NOTABLE QUOTES

"We're more than just human—we have distinct parts: a soul, a body, and a spirit, and the battle that we're in is for the soul."

"When we try to live in hiding, that's a trade—our soul is going 'I don't want them to know' because we're being ruled by a spirit of fear."

"Every time we're making a decision, there's an exchange happening that's not just at the physical level, but at a soul and spiritual level."

"God is in the business of making all things new—His whole deal is resurrection, and that's the message of the gospel: what was dead is alive."

"When we come into alignment as one mind, one body, one spirit under God, we experience life on earth as it is in heaven."

"The spirit is what gives us supernatural grace—His power working in us that allows us to go back and take back everything that was stolen."

FEATURED SCRIPTURES

John 10:10 - "I have come that they may have life, and have it abundantly."

Proverbs 3:5-6 - "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight."

Matthew 6:33 - "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."

Ecclesiastes 12:7 - "Then the dust will return to the earth as it was, and the spirit will return to God who gave it."

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Release the Past, Ignite your Faith + Unlock an Extraordinary Life: The blueprint to a life of freedom and fulfillment

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In this raw and honest episode, Christine Jewell tackles the dangerous trap of getting comfortable in your sedated comfort zone while your dreams slip away. Speaking from personal experience of learning to face fears head-on, Christine reveals why so many women are walking around fearful and numb—it's because we've forgotten how to be warriors in our own gardens. Drawing from recent conversations with clients who were playing small in male-dominated spaces, Christine unpacks the subtle shift that transforms you from shrinking to owning your seat at the table and provides a clear roadmap back to authentic strength and femininity. If you're feeling stuck in comfortable numbness or if you're struggling to step into your power in challenging environments, this episode will help you reconnect with your inner warrior and chase your dreams unapologetically.

This Episode Is for You If:

• You feel like you're living in comfortable numbness and going through the motions
• The life you once dreamed of feels distant while you stay sedated with comfort
• You're carrying fear about stepping into male-dominated spaces or challenging environments
• You're working hard but feel like you're not pushing your potential or conquering your fears
• You suspect you've lost touch with that fearless ten-year-old version of yourself
• You're ready to own your seat at the table without competing or losing your femininity
• You need to learn how to influence rooms through heart connection rather than just logic

KEY TAKEAWAYS

🔨 The only way out of fear is through—you must dig deep, find the root cause, and emerge stronger 🌊 Reconnect with your ten-year-old self to rediscover authentic passion and natural bravery 👂 Use your emotional intelligence as a superpower to reach hearts and mobilize minds 💎 Preparation builds confidence, but remembering past victories builds unshakeable courage ⚡ Create healthy outlets for your darkness and suppressed emotions before they become destructive 🏗️ Build chosen family and community—isolation kills dreams while connection fuels greatness

NOTABLE QUOTES

• "A queen's whisper can mobilize an army—you just have to know the right thing to whisper."
• "The only way out is through. You can't go around fear, you can't go under it—dig deep, find the root of the cause, and come out the other side a brighter and better human."
• "All of those big burly guys were once little boys with the same emotions—women are way more emotionally in tune, so use that to your advantage."
• "It's better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war."
• "I'm fighting my own fear, my own darkness, my own insecurities—they just happen to be in the shape of another human."
• "What would ten-year-old you do today if you just had a summer break day again? Go do those things and reconnect with that younger version of yourself."

FEATURED SCRIPTURES

John 10:10 - "The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it abundantly." Proverbs 3:5-6 - "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight." Matthew 6:33 - "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." 1 Samuel 17:45 - "David said to the Philistine, 'You come against me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the Lord Almighty.'"