Ever feel like you’re not losing yourself — just performing too long? Drop a like and share if this hits, and save this for the days you need to come back to yourself.
Returning to yourself isn’t always one big breakthrough. Sometimes it looks like:
- noticing you’re grumpy, tired, or oddly impatient
- realizing you’ve been living in “role mode” instead of real life
- remembering you are not your job, your mood, or your mask
The truth is, we drift. That’s just being human. But the return starts the moment you pause and ask: What is this trying to teach me? Maybe the goal isn’t to be perfect. Maybe it’s to keep finding your way back.
May I begin the journey back to my truth!
In this episode, Tara and Valerie talk about what it means to “return to yourself” spiritually, how everyday stress and role-based living can pull you off center, and the small practices that help bring you back. They also explore the difference between living authentically and performing for the world, with reflections on intuition, emotional fatigue, and why growth often begins with discomfort.
Timestamps
(0:00) Opening the episode and the idea of “the callback to yourself”
(1:08) Valerie’s view: you never fully leave yourself, you remember yourself
(2:05) Shadow moments, road rage, and mercy for human imperfection
(3:42) Tara on feeling separate from herself in work and daily life
(6:40) “We’re in this world but not of it” and the weight of survival
(8:55) How different jobs shape how easily we can be ourselves
(10:44) Signs of disconnection: grumpiness, fatigue, and wanting to be alone
(13:10) Tara’s signal: feeling abandoned by spirit and missing the signs
(14:43) The void, letting go, and the feeling of being held by source
(16:47) Returning through rest, connection, and being refilled by people and place
(19:08) Talking to God, emotionality as a strength, and the danger of becoming too analytical
(21:09) Old soul energy, a low tolerance for nonsense, and protecting your peace
(23:07) Tara on staying objective in her work and not taking on everyone’s emotions
(26:05) Feeling detached in personal life and waiting for the next call forward
(27:53) Life nudging them back into alignment through plans, disruptions, and responsibility
(30:51) Tara on painting as meditation and a way to reconnect through creativity
(33:31) Grounding exercises, body awareness, and humming to reduce anxiety
(35:40) The difference between living and performing
(37:28) Play, gaming, and how Tara disconnects through Skyrim
(40:22) Living as presence versus performing a professional or social role
(42:26) Wearing different masks with family, work, and social groups
(44:06) Why spiritual awakening often begins with discomfort
(47:36) Why growth requires being pushed, challenged, and changed
(50:34) Reframing hardship as something happening for you, not to you
(52:48) Showing up for yourself and not doing the work for other people
(54:24) Life is not meant to be easy, but it does not have to be harder than necessary
(55:44) Closing reflections, episode takeaway, and intention setting
