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Breaking the Cycle of Self-Sabotage – Sara Gilbert

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Why do we get stuck in self-sabotaging patterns — even when we know exactly what to do? 

In this powerful episode of The Ownership Game, Gary sits down with mindset and strategy coach Sara Gilbert to unpack the invisible patterns that keep entrepreneurs, leaders, and high-achievers stuck in the cycle of “I know what to do, but I’m not doing it.”

Sara reveals how our identity, emotions, and the stories we tell ourselves create hidden limits on our growth. Together, they break down how to spot these patterns, rewire your language, and shift from fear-driven action to leadership-driven alignment.

If you’ve ever felt trapped by procrastination, perfectionism, or over-preparation — this episode will show you how to break free.

 

In this episode, we discuss:

 

  • Identity anchors behavior. What you say after “I am” shapes what you’ll do — or avoid.
  • Safety drives sabotage. Often we don’t procrastinate out of laziness, but to protect a version of ourselves we’ve learned to keep safe.
  • Language is power. The stories you repeat become your reality. Awareness and new questions are the key to change.
  • Slowing down speeds you up. Reflection and intentional language create sustainable, aligned action.



    • Chapters: 

    00:00 The Power of “I Am” Statements: How Identity Shapes Behavior

    02:30 Sara’s Journey: From Business Strategy to Deep Mindset Work

    05:50 Why “Be-Do-Have” is the Real Game Changer for Entrepreneurs

    08:00 The Hidden Role of Emotions: Why Safety Sabotages Growth

    14:00 The Familiarity Zone: Why We Stay in Patterns that Don’t Serve Us

    19:00 Language as a Tool: How to Rewrite Your Stories

    25:00 The Right Questions vs. The Wrong Questions: Moving from Stuck to Free

    33:00 Why Slowing Down Helps You Speed Up

    42:00 Self-Awareness, Self-Honesty, Self-Leadership: A New Model for Change

    51:00 Why Ownership Over Your Stories is Non-Negotiable

    54:00 Final Thoughts: Playing the Ownership Game in Life and Business

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    Connect with Sara:

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saragilbertstrategist/

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100015061414304

    Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saragilbert/

    Website: https://saragilbert.coach/ 

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