So many of us grew up believing that being a “good girl” was the ultimate measure of success, and somehow, that belief followed us straight into adulthood. In this episode, we’re unpacking what it really means to break up with the good girl persona and why constantly being agreeable, quiet, and accommodating might be costing you more than you realize.

We talk about how early conditioning taught women to prioritize likability over honesty, comfort over truth, and other people’s needs over their own, and how those patterns quietly show up in everything from ordering dinner to navigating family dynamics and long-term relationships. Through candid stories and real-life examples, we explore how often we abandon ourselves just to avoid being perceived as “difficult.”

You’ll hear why constantly shrinking yourself erodes confidence over time, how people-pleasing sneaks into even the most loving relationships, and why learning to tolerate disappointment (yours and theirs) is a critical part of boundary work. This conversation isn’t about becoming selfish or blowing up your life, it’s about rebuilding trust with yourself, one small moment at a time.

Today we cover:

• Why “being a good girl” is often tied to approval, not integrity
• How self-abandonment shows up in everyday decisions (and why it adds up)
• The emotional cost of avoiding discomfort to keep the peace
• Why breaking the pattern feels scary and why that’s normal
• Small, practical ways to start using your voice without burning everything down

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